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RE: How about no... - 5/2/2009 1:37:53 PM

graceadieu

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Talk to him about this. Respectfully let him know that it's nothing personal, and that you are trying to be submissive to him, but that sometimes you're just worn out from all your other responsibilities and not feeling sexy. If he cares about you, he'll understand that - and hopefully comfort you and talk with you about what you're going through, just like any other partner.

However, depending on the boundries of your relationship, he may have sex with you anyway, and just not expect you to be enthusiastic about it.

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RE: How about no... - 5/2/2009 3:45:50 PM

kiwisub12

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Sounds to me that the OP is tired out from her responsibilities during the week, and then her second set of responsibilities during the weekend - and having so much responsibility can tire a girl out!!!

The OP can't do much about the weekday responsibilities, but the weekend responsibilities can be negotiated. For instance , she can request down-time to relax - maybe in a hammock, or read a book, or walk a dog. She is just as submissive doing any of these activities as when she is talking up cock. And i rather think her dom would appreciate the appreciation. Heck, for that matter she can ask for a scene-free weekend, just to spend time with her dom in vanilla activities. Once her dom realises how burnt out she is feeling, i would think (or hope) that a bit of consideration would come into the dynamic.

My Sir allows me the free time to follow my interests - with only a little complaining

. He is very cognisant of the need for rest and relaxation -and i appreciate the hell out of him. And i have never become burnt-out re. D/s activities and mindset. So we are doing something right.

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