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mail - 4/25/2009 12:58:50 PM

satyrsnymph28

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I just received a message from a man asking if i would travel to socal to serve him if he paid for my trip. Upon clicking on his profile, I noticed there was nothing but the very basic information Collarme requires when you set up a profile here.

No text, or info about interests, or anything.

Why is it that people think a profile and/or message like that would be at ALL appealing? Do they not realize they're wasting their time? I suppose none of those people post on the boards here, but I'm really curious as to how their minds work, and why they would even bother.

Does it make sense to someone else? I sure don't get it.

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RE: mail - 4/25/2009 1:05:07 PM

slaveluci

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Yeah, you get it. Just stop and think for a second. Why oh why would anyone do that? Hmmmm? It's called "fishing." They throw out that bait....not just to you but probably hundreds of people with profiles here and hope against hope some desperate fool will bite. Usually doesn't work but every now and then they get a nibble. That's why. Pretty simple really..........luci

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RE: mail - 4/25/2009 1:38:36 PM

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How about trying to see yourself in others and seeing them as a part of you?

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RE: mail - 4/25/2009 1:41:33 PM

QuixoticErrant

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It is astonishing how many people filter themselves from the first sentence, or one look at a scant profile. There are all kinds on here.

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RE: mail - 4/25/2009 2:59:34 PM

HalloweenWhite

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I think people like that are just lazy and out for as much fun as they can get as fast as they can get it. You shouldn't take them at all seriously.

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RE: mail - 4/25/2009 3:09:35 PM

peppermint

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Heck. You should have told him to mail you the tickets (to a PO Box) and send traveling money with it. That drives them away for a whole week. Then you get the same mail again because they can't remember whom they have already sent it to, and really don't care either.

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RE: mail - 4/25/2009 3:36:43 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: satyrsnymph28

I just received a message from a man asking if i would travel to socal I had to think a bit but if my geography is correct this is Southern California? to serve him if he paid for my trip. Upon clicking on his profile, I noticed there was nothing but the very basic information Collarme requires when you set up a profile here. And this bothered you because he had nothing written in his profile?

No text, or info about interests, or anything.

Why is it that people think a profile and/or message like that would be at ALL appealing? Do they not realize they're wasting their time?
Has the thought occurred to you that you are wasting your time? You have 2 choices? 1) Allow this type of cmail to control your thoughts and get all pissy about it and write in the forums or so much more fun would be choice ...2) Go all out and pretend to be interested. Write cmail in response to him like you will go to "socal" if he paid and ask him all the questions as if you are really into him. In other words "play" him instead of allowing your emotions to be controlled by a "jerk." I suppose none of those people post on the boards here, but I'm really curious as to how their minds work, and why they would even bother. If they don't come to the message boards, you will never know how their mind works, but you might find out if you "play" the dude.

Does it make sense to someone else? I sure don't get it.

There are so many options, alternatives in life if we just keep our mind open to some playfulness since so many others are "stupid, jerk offs" in one's own opinion.

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RE: mail - 4/25/2009 5:32:00 PM

CarrieO

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This reminds me of the guy that emails me asking if I'd like to be his "personal assistant...secretary, if you will". I haven't blocked him because I find it amusing and I'm curious how many times he'll send the same email.

Why do people think an empty profile is appealing? I really have no clue, in fact I make a point of saying if you have nothing in your profile, what does that say about you as a person?

However, I was emailed by a man who had nothing...just location/label/age...listed. He commented on a journal entry of mine and a picture I had posted (when I had pics up) in a funny/cute but serious way. I took a chance and replied, asking him why...why did he have nothing written. His reply and the subsequent emails/IMs/phone calls has made me realize that although I may ignore the empty profile 9 1/2 times out of 10, sometimes it's okay to step out of your list of rules and take a chance. Who knows, at the very least, I've made a new friend.

Yep, people fish online and someone offering to pay my way somewhere to be with him in an introductory email would generally give me a laugh and send a "thanks but no thanks" reply.
Just my rambling thoughts.....

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RE: mail - 4/25/2009 5:46:29 PM

LafayetteLady

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Like everyone else, that empty profile is the biggest turn off. On line, we don't have the opportunity to watch someone interact with others and see whether they are appealing or not. All we have is what they write. Like CarrieO, I have responded to emails from the "no profile" folks when the email struck my interest. I just don't have it in me to say "thanks but no thanks". I can't help from telling them what I think of what they just did. Guess I have some unresolved anger and it just seems like letting it out on the jerks of the world is a good way to deal with it!

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RE: mail - 4/25/2009 6:54:25 PM

playfulotter

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The worst thing about the empty profile is they almost are forcing you to be rude to them even if you don't want to be.....I usually write back that I am seeking someone who has a more detailed profile..then they say back....Just ask me anything...and then you feel you have to write back saying "Well, I don't want to play 20 questions with everyone who writes me"...and it just makes you in the end find something wrong with what or who they are as they just don't get it.......unless they do write a lot of information in their emails back to you and then that is totally different story..but it isn't usually the norm....

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RE: mail - 4/25/2009 7:50:49 PM

DemonKia

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Hmmmmmm.

I went to a munch today, & one of the people at the munch was talking about how much fun she gets out of sending random smart-ass, mocking, sarcastic, & so on cmails to CM profiles that catch her eye . . . . .. Because it amuses her, seemed to be the basic reason.

So. That was kinda fascinating, was looking for the opportunity to share that, & here we go . ... . .

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RE: mail - 4/25/2009 8:45:07 PM

lighthearted

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it's possible that it's worked for him before. or, he's just living in his parent's garage.

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RE: mail - 4/26/2009 1:17:11 AM

EchoMirage

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its a free site. anyone can join, and does. you usually filter out the unwanted ones on pay sites.

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RE: mail - 4/26/2009 3:55:54 AM

CatdeMedici

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Because it only takes one "yes" to have success--desparate people in desparate times will jump at any opportunity that sounds remotely appealing.

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RE: mail - 4/26/2009 5:30:03 AM

littlewonder

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Again, bulk emailing sent to every woman on c.com. Block, delete.

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RE: mail - 4/26/2009 8:13:17 AM

Missokyst

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Hmm... Shoot, free tickets to fly to So Cal.. Yeah.. for that I could serve him some tea or soda once I arrived. Then I would beat feet over to Disneyland! I haven't been there in years. I would have asked him to send me the plane ticket (PO box of course), and we could have a great time.
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RE: mail - 4/26/2009 9:00:50 AM

SirSvafnir

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Well I cant speak for anyone but myself but it could be that the person is new to cm an I know the it has taken me a while to get my profile together (which is still a work in progress). My point being that creating a profile here is like painting a portrait, it takes time and some just dont know how to paint.

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RE: mail - 4/26/2009 10:57:33 PM

NuevaVida

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It's obviously working for him on some level, so move on and let him have his fun.

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RE: mail - 4/27/2009 5:17:48 AM

TaoWoman

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As to the empty profile - anonymity has its advantages ~

However, fishing is a good term for those offers such as free tickets to anywhere without any prior contact.

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RE: mail - 4/27/2009 5:27:18 AM

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Why does anybody do half of the things they do. Have you thought about emailing him back and simply asking him this question?

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