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ncbabe -> Help displaying (4/19/2009 6:34:52 PM)
My new owner does not live close to me and requires me to display for him via webcam. I have not done this before and am worried because a) I am very shy and b) I do not really know what I am supposed to do. I have talked to my owner about this but he has not given me any specific instructions and says he just wants to see first of all how I choose to present myself to him. He is very patient and tells me not to worry, but I do not want to look foolish in front of him when he sees me do this for the first time. Does anyone have any advice? Thank you!

AquaticSub -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 6:41:24 PM)
Take a deep breath. Have you ever met this man? Talked on the phone with him? Ask him what he means by present yourself. Are you presenting yourself to stimulate him sexually or as you would if he was taking you to meet his parents. Without some sort of guideline, I'd be relucant to present myself to judgement as well but if I was going to do it, I would present myself as I would for a blind date in a nice resturant. Bit of cleavage, nothing too much and nice make-up.

ncbabe -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 6:49:29 PM)
He means sexually. We have seen each other on cam (clothed) and he has seen pics of my body but he now wants to see it on cam. I'm okay with what he wants, I just don't know how to go about doing it. We have not met in person yet, but we have talked on the phone for endless hours.

Fitznicely -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 6:59:32 PM)
I suggest research. A couple of wellknown dating sites have member's cam areas where you can watch and gather some ideas.

CarrieO -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 7:09:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ncbabe He means sexually. We have seen each other on cam (clothed) and he has seen pics of my body but he now wants to see it on cam. I'm okay with what he wants, I just don't know how to go about doing it. Is there some reason why he isn't willing to offer you guidance with this? I have talked to my owner about this but he has not given me any specific instructions and says he just wants to see first of all how I choose to present myself to him. If all he wants is for you to present yourself as you choose then you need to do what you think is right and what is comfortable for you. He's not offering any guidance so I don't see how he would be able to claim disappointment if he is allowing you to make this choice. We have not met in person yet, but we have talked on the phone for endless hours. Endless hours over what time period? Days, weeks, months?

MsDDom -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 7:10:11 PM)
quote: He means sexually. ...if u know it is sexually, then ask specifics so u know what he wants. u said he is patient w/ u, so surely he will not mind u inquiring b/c u want to do it correctly. we can't tell u what he wants to see...

catize -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 7:17:01 PM)
He “owns” you but you have never met. I wouldn’t agree to be owned by someone I’ve never seen in person. I certainly would not display myself sexually on cam at this juncture. He needs to be willing to meet you in real life. Sorry, but your scenario makes me think he is just looking to get off on cam. Trust, but verify…..and if he doesn’t like it, big indication he has no intentions of moving this to real time.

lovingpet -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 7:18:22 PM)
I have no real advice here except that I just wouldn't. Not no way, not no how. If the distance is too much to even meet face to face for the first time, then I would be lacking that real flesh and blood aspect I desire. If someone I had met and even played with before wanted me to do this, that would be something entirely different. It's not something I am into, don't even own a webcam, but I might for someone I shared a real time connection with. As for what to show him? I wouldn't show him anything you don't want displayed all over the web. That is the reality of what can happen with this, so guard yourself against it. If you are happy with it all being out there to the public, then I guess you can give him whatever show you'd like. Nudity and masturbation are usually good choices for sexual displays of the real time variety and I can't imagine they would be turned down in the cyber world either. Judgement is your best friend with this. lovingpet

ncbabe -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 7:29:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CarrieO quote: ORIGINAL: ncbabe He means sexually. We have seen each other on cam (clothed) and he has seen pics of my body but he now wants to see it on cam. I'm okay with what he wants, I just don't know how to go about doing it. Is there some reason why he isn't willing to offer you guidance with this? I think he just wants to see how I do on my own. I have talked to my owner about this but he has not given me any specific instructions and says he just wants to see first of all how I choose to present myself to him. If all he wants is for you to present yourself as you choose then you need to do what you think is right and what is comfortable for you. He's not offering any guidance so I don't see how he would be able to claim disappointment if he is allowing you to make this choice. He has told me that he will not be disappointed in me and that I should relax and just do what I feel comfortable with. But I feel so self conscious I'm not sure I can relax. I'm not used to showing my body on cam, but I do want to. I guess my question should be more along the lines of is there anything I can do to make this easier for me? We have not met in person yet, but we have talked on the phone for endless hours. Endless hours over what time period? Days, weeks, months? 4 weeks. I know that's not long but we are in touch online every day and talk on the phone every other day or so.

Kirata -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 7:31:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ncbabe I'm okay with what he wants, I just don't know how to go about doing it. Accepting everything else without comment, you have stated the problem rather precisely. He's not telling you. You are willing, you are ready to obey, and he's not guiding you, he's not instructing you, he isn't doing fucking anything. How good are you at math? K.

JstAnotherSub -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 7:36:38 PM)
dont do anything you dont want plastered all over the net.....thats my advice

ncbabe -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 7:38:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovingpet I have no real advice here except that I just wouldn't. Not no way, not no how. If the distance is too much to even meet face to face for the first time, then I would be lacking that real flesh and blood aspect I desire. If someone I had met and even played with before wanted me to do this, that would be something entirely different. It's not something I am into, don't even own a webcam, but I might for someone I shared a real time connection with. As for what to show him? I wouldn't show him anything you don't want displayed all over the web. That is the reality of what can happen with this, so guard yourself against it. If you are happy with it all being out there to the public, then I guess you can give him whatever show you'd like. Nudity and masturbation are usually good choices for sexual displays of the real time variety and I can't imagine they would be turned down in the cyber world either. Judgement is your best friend with this. lovingpet I will not be showing my face on cam when I do it and he knows this.

DarkSteven -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 7:59:10 PM)
Hey, guys, she's saying that she hasn't done it yet and he hasn't given her guidance. This isn't a big issue - he'll guide her during the camshow. She's just getting worried beforehand.

NihilusZero -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 8:08:56 PM)
This is rather...odd, and I'm not sure how much of it is cold feet and/or unfamiliarity with naughty camming and how much is utter lack of reassuring communication. Also, I'm kind of confused how, at some point (if there's this much intimacy already), it didn't accidentally escalate into something naughty/playful when you both were camming 'normally'....but... quote: ORIGINAL: ncbabe I'm okay with what he wants, I just don't know how to go about doing it. Um...how would you dress to impress/seduce/arouse someone courting you if they were to arrive at your door for a private dinner?

catize -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 8:16:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Hey, guys, she's saying that she hasn't done it yet and he hasn't given her guidance. This isn't a big issue - he'll guide her during the camshow. She's just getting worried beforehand. Well, she said this: quote: he has not given me any specific instructions and says he just wants to see first of all how I choose to present myself to him. This could be benign, but he knows she is unsure what would please him. I would think he could put a little effort into being specific!

chamberqueen -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 8:29:53 PM)
I'm sure he will guide you during the process. Work on your confidence, and smile - even if he can't see it. That will help to bolster you.

DemonKia -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 8:56:05 PM)
However it goes, it'll be an educational experience . . . . . [;)] None of this is all that different from more traditional dating -- if you'd feel comfortable doing whatever in-person, & you feel comfortable doing whatever online, then . . .. . shrugs shoulders Speaking from personal experience, I'd rather short-term infatuations end after chatting / camming / cybering than after a brief in-person fling, given a choice between the modes . . . . .. Have fun . . . . .

marysdream -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 9:05:27 PM)
obviously if you are having reservations about this then you should not engage, and if he cares for you will understand, also if this is an lol..on line thing you would be a fool to engage! please use common sense with the men on here! and also remember they can tape whatever you send to be shown anywhere on the net! good luck ree!

proudsub -> RE: Help displaying (4/19/2009 9:17:15 PM)
Besides what others have said about capturing your images and posting them, beware that he also could have others there watching with him.

DesFIP -> RE: Help displaying (4/20/2009 4:26:41 AM)
Meet him first. Unless you're fine with him spreading these pictures of you all over the net.

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