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HeavansKeeper -> RE: skills like this... (4/7/2009 1:59:24 PM)
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ORIGINAL: akisha
Every man I've been with likes something different.
There is no answer we can really give you. Best sorce of information is ask the one your blowing.
I know what my dog likes, but I don't know what your dog likes. I bet they both like steak, and dislike bananas. (Funny enough, my athletic dog loves bananas...)
Firstly, yes, some of my advice might clash terribly with your man, but I doubt it.
Ascertain how spoiled he is. If he is accustomed to some fast paced deep throating, then you have a lot more work to do.
Ascertain your goal. Do you want him to get off or get it up for other play? How long do you want this to go? There's no shame in saying (to yourself) "ugh, I just want him to stop humping my leg so I can go to sleep." Which is a different goal than "I want to see how long I can keep him hard" or "how big of a load I can get".
Unless told otherwise, I assume the objective is 70% success/30% style. For a connoisseur, licking and kissing is a cop out. Use them to get him up, but little else. Tiny kisses and coy looks do nothing for pleasure. Women tell women that depth doesn't matter and that "all the pleasure is in the tip." It's not true. Depth matters. (Size always matters). That doesn't mean you need to be able to shove a sausage chain down your throat, though. Put your two fists in front of your mouth, like blowing a horn. If that whole column of flesh (both palms and the mouth) is soaked with spit, it's the sensation of deepthroating without having anything past your tongue.
Which brings me to my next point, wetness. When you're sucking cock, you're not providing fellatio. You're using your mouth-hole as a sex toy, ya dig? (I'm not saying there isn't a time for fellatio, but its the difference of when you want to fuck and when you want to make love.) Ladies don't suck cock. Hookers do. Act like a hooker. Don't be bashful about any of the process. This includes spitting. For me, the hottest part of a blowjob is when a woman spits a huge wad of saliva on me as if to say "Lets get it on!" (Confirm with your man about wetness. I hear tell some sissy-nancy-boys like to keep things dry and neat.)
The fellas. Don't forget about the balls. It would be like a guy going down on you and ignoring your clit. (Ok, not a perfect metaphor, and not anatomically counterparts, but you get the idea.) They're very sensitive, and rarely get any attention. Being warm, wet, and rubbed feels great. Manage a one hand cupping massage, and it's ecstasy. This also applies to the anus, but get confirmation on that.
When your mouth is not working, it should be idling. When you come up for breath, take a jaw-relaxing break, etc., continue the emotion. Breath harder than you need to. Spit out any excess saliva. Moan in pleasure. Fall back on your ass with a crazed sex hungry look in your eyes while you stare at his cock with a face that screams "I'm not leaving until you cum in my mouth, mister!" as per my fantasy. O.o Got carried away... ummm
Right. When you're not in the act, be acting. This brings me to my next, and most powerful piece of advice... Ask. Ask to do it. Any man who does not like being offered a blowjob is not trustworthy. Clearly, he has screws loose. If you know mouthsex is imminent, ask to do it. (Unless this clashes with your power exchange dynamic... But honestly, the power of a woman offering would probably transcend even 100% TPE.)
So, in short:
1) Mimic depth by putting a fist in front of your mouth. (grip firmly on the upstroke, softly on the downstroke)
2) Be wet. Comedian Ralphie May puts it best: "The barometer for how good a blowjob is, is how wet the balls are." Segue...
3) The balls/ass. Don't ignore them. You can get face fucked for hours without him getting off, but if you were rubbing the balls... 6 minutes tops. 12 if he did porn in his younger years.
4) The panache. Reckless courage about the act. Show no shame, show no fear. Act as if you wanted this more than diamonds.
Good hunting, soldier.
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