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RE: Humiliation Experiences - 3/15/2009 10:11:19 AM

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If I ever crave humiliation, I can just ask family members to tell stories of all the stupid shit I've done in the past.

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RE: Humiliation Experiences - 3/15/2009 11:00:33 AM

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As another poster said, you need to get into HER brain and figure out HER hot buttons. Then press them.

I also concur that others should not be part of the scene if they have not volunteered. A public scene done without warning may be OK in certain places known to be kink friendly, but a normal vanilla restaurant is off limits. Public play can still be done, on a limited level, if you have developed specific words and phrases that set her off, but which appear normal to any person that might overhear. What she and you mean by them might be quite different from the standard usage.

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RE: Humiliation Experiences - 3/15/2009 3:44:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: shivermetimbers

If I ever crave humiliation, I can just ask family members to tell stories of all the stupid shit I've done in the past.

Ladies and Gentlemen, we have a winner!

Heaven's Keeper; your idea of light general humiliation is to me degradation of the worst order and would cause an end to the scene and to huge amounts of my trust in him. I hope you do know beforehand where her lines are so you don't accidentally send her to bed wishing she, or you, were dead.

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RE: Humiliation Experiences - 3/15/2009 4:39:30 PM

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My new sub is very much into humiliation. Please share some of your favorite ways to hummiliate. One that was suggested is to take her to a nice restaurant, have her go into the ladies room and remove her panties and then bring them back to the table. Then you take them and in a loud voice, holding her panties at eye level, say..."what are these for?"

Please share any and all creative ways of humiliation both public and especially for humiliation in private.

Sandor6

Did you give all the other diners informed consent first?
PS my kind of humiliation is beyond the TOS here.

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RE: Humiliation Experiences - 3/15/2009 9:57:43 PM

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Heaven's Keeper; your idea of light general humiliation is to me degradation of the worst order and would cause an end to the scene and to huge amounts of my trust in him. I hope you do know beforehand where her lines are so you don't accidentally send her to bed wishing she, or you, were dead.

I would never assume anyone is interested in humiliation without their express and unequivocal blessing. Additionally, the two paragraphs there are by no means "light". That's very powerful mojo, and should be handled with caution. If I were a bottom and they started out like that, I'd be terrified. You say trust is in the balance, and I agree... But the best way to build a 105th story is to have guys up on the 104th. It's a dangerous gamble, but the odds can be reduced to a practically guaranteed win with enough caution. For those who feel said metaphors are too out there, let me speak plain... Humiliation can ruin a relationship and be abuse. Not borderline, not precursors... Flat out abuse. Some may consider those words sexy and arousing, wanting more and harsher stuff next. For others, they may cringe and feel queasy after, hating me forever. Some people do not like that degree of dehumanization, and there's nothing wrong with that.

Humiliation can be much more subtle, in fact, the art... finesse... mastery of the skill is shown here. From a favorite of mine "Quiet girl... Men are talking" to a silent dismissal, because she is not fit to be present for certain tasks, humiliation does not need to be the stuff of bad snuff films.

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RE: Humiliation Experiences - 3/15/2009 10:10:05 PM

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i dont think that sounds like a good idea, but, one time during a training session. a slave was really lazy and di a poor job cleaning the kitchen area. and he just wouldnt shut up either. so i gagged its mouth. then i duct taped a scotch brite to one hand, and the scouring powder taped to the other. then i made it sit in the kitchen facing the stove. the slave didnt like it for a few days, but we would get a laugh out of it later on. the panty thing sounds like you would be humiliating yourself more than her

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RE: Humiliation Experiences - 3/19/2009 6:13:50 PM

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Different things are humiliating to different people. What is humiliating to one is abusive and/or a deal breaker to another.

My boyfriend has a specific group of friends who know what we're like behind closed doors. A couple of times when they are over he's had me just stand in the corner near the front door and hold coats. For hours. Not talking. Not moving.

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RE: Humiliation Experiences - 3/19/2009 7:19:48 PM

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humiliation rocks! its one of my core fetishes.

the sky is the limit in where you can go and what you can do. humilation play can be pretty risky what one person gets off on can leave some deep wounds in someone else, make sure you know and trust someone alot when you play with this, know what someone enjoys, doesnt enjoy and cant deal with. talk alot about it figuree out what that person is embaressed and sensative about, i weigh 138 lbs and wish i had some muscle my sig other new that and called me twigy and slapped me around, i loved it, realise that some insecurities are not good to play with, figuree out what those are and do not touch them. anything else is fair game. to me humilation is alowing myself freedom to be hurt yet still safe, at its core its having your weaknesses exposed and feeling still loved dispite them.

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RE: Humiliation Experiences - 3/19/2009 11:01:23 PM

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hmmm sorry nice story but not into public humiliation..i even wonder the purpose for this in anyone's life!...i worry about some of my sister subs...but we are all different....just like to think we are treating each other in a healthy way!
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RE: Humiliation Experiences - 3/20/2009 2:07:30 PM

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If your looking for public humiliation I'd suggest something more discreet than THAT. There are fetish clubs and conventions where you can scene in public to one extent or another. Remote vibes have been brought up but they don't tend to be whisper quiet, so it would probably detectable in a restaurant unless there was music playing. A little road noise will cover ours up so a walk in the park or going out dancing have worked out well. Having here wear a dildo, butt plug or both out shopping, hanging out with friends, to a restaurant, dancing etc is another option. Taking her out with a harness (rope or otherwise) under her clothes might be another option. If she can stand wearing nipple clamps for a while, sending her to the bathroom to put a pair on would be another option.

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