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HeavansKeeper -> RE: Humiliation Experiences (3/14/2009 1:41:10 PM)
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This is a repost on the exact topic. I don't normally do this, but I feel I wrote something very helpful that most did not get to see:
I adore humiliation. I break it down into two sorts: General and Specific. General humiliation is basically talking dirty at the subject. This is most often populated with accurate verbal description of the situation and statements of the obvious. Suppose you have a submissive tied doggy style over a stool. I could do this in general terms, but you may appreciate an applied example.
(all with a demeaning tone, as if to say "aww... poor baby..")
"Hello Whore. I know... you're gagged. I'll unplug that hole when I need it. Do you like your new position? (don't wait for an answer, their answers don't matter). Of course you do, fuckdoll, anything that lets you get fucked. That's why you're here. You don't have to lie to me. All you want it to cum. You'll put up with whatever I want. Licking my feet, eating my ass, sucking my friend's cocks.. just for a chance to cum. And tied like this I don't think you could say "no". Not that you have permission to turn down men and women I rent you too. You're too stupid to figure out how to cum without going through this, Blow-Up-Doll."
Said paragraph can go on and on. Common tactics I use are to describe words they're comfortable with in vile and vulgar ways. Making them repeat "their mouth is a sexhole, just like their ass," is pretty humiliating. Notice, it may all be true, but takes no personal factors of the subject into account. The bottom in this example could be male, smart, experienced, physically fit, secure about their sexuality, new to you, a pain slut OR the complete opposite, and any combination in between. It's very nonspecific, which is why I consider it generic humiliation. It is real and accurate, but lacks the personal touch.
If you knew more about the subject, you can engage in personal humiliation. Take My Pet, for example. A female, intelligent, multi-orgasmic (or, at least, takes a few before she stops humping my leg), chubby, been with me for 2 years, shared online (but not in the real world yet), skilled with felatio, likes spankings, thrives after hardcore humiliation, possibly bisexual.
Imagine her in the same situation, and how the humiliation could go.
"Hello Whore. How's my throat shaped sex toy feeling today? I know you're gagged. We'll unplug that cum drain when I want a blowjob. After all, it's why I keep you around. It's not because of your obedience or looks. You're a fat insatiable cum piggy who needs her face inflated with dick or drowning in pussy. Has your mistress used your face today or can I skip hosing you down? I was thinking tonight we can go to the bar and pick up some chick so she and I can laugh while you drink the cum out of the condom I just fucked her."
This paragraph can go on and on. It's more vulgar. Possibly because the prospect of humiliation excites me [:)], but mostly because while both examples are real and true, this version is closer to the heart. Explaining how their "sick and perverted" fetishes are seen by the public can illicit shame in insecure bottoms.
Not everything is sexual. Humiliation can come from dehumanizing activities. Turning them into furniture or a bondage model is very powerful in reminding their body where they stand while your words take care of the mind. Especially in bottoms who are new to serving in public (either general public or select friends), having others be around is wonderfully humiliating. The most vile concepts I can spit can't hold a candle to having my pet be made to strip for a few of the fellas.
Strong personal humiliation is borderline abuse, which is what makes it very effective. There are things I can say to my pet to make her cry and truly hate herself and her past... While that can tap some very strong emotions and feelings, it must be dealt with carefully, and aftercare applied responsibly. It would be irresponsible of me to send her to bed thinking she'd be better off dead... That level of humiliation, while very possible, has never been something I enjoy (and expect very few bottoms would).
In short:
1) Strive for inventive ways to name parts of their body.
2) Remind them of the position/predicament they're in. (especially the power imbalance)
3) Prey on specific weaknesses and insecurities, but do so carefully.
4) Make them repeat/admit inventive phrases.
5) Ignore their responses/answer for them.
(While not shown here) 6) Humiliate physically by exposing and exploring their body with no shame. They are meat, and they belong to you.
7) Combine verbal humiliation with some sort of bondage to physically parallel the verbal message.
8) Mock their fetishes.
9) Consider the kicker of having others watch.
10) Be responsible. Take time for aftercare when needed. Do not cause lasting psychological harm.
This is not a complete dissertation on humiliation. Such a tome would take much longer to write and require more slaves to take dictation. If you have any questions about this taste of how humiliation can function, I'll give my answer. (Discreet answers available in letters).
An additional note on public play: When humiliating in public settings (restaurants, parks, malls, bars) remember that the people you expose to your antics are participating in the humiliation without consent. I'm not going to the extent of saying they need to be told what's going on, as if you were filming it for profit, but discretion should be used to ensure they're not bothered (temporarily or permanently) by your actions. Sending a boytoy to cum in the bathroom and drip it over his ice cream is one thing, fucking a slavegirl on the table at Denny's is another.
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