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RE: Question for Merc & other sadists - 3/10/2009 12:26:50 PM

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I haven't been lucky enought to meet Mercnbeth in person. I've certainly read a lot of their postings and while not always agreeing with them, I've never come away from a disagreement with them on the boards...when carried on in an intelligent fashion...feeling pissed off at either of them. And thanks to a very good friend, I've come to know even more about them and what I've learned has only enhanced their image in my mind as two folks who live as they choose, not going out of their way to flaunt, not going out of their way to cause trouble for others but staying true to themselves.

As a sadist, do I enjoy occasionally tweaking others for not-so-honorable reasons? Well, sort of like LaT, I have a low tolerance for stupidity which is moderated by the fact that I HAVE to deal with stupidity in some fashion every day and try to understand it and get through it...both from a profit-making sense and a genuine desire to help people even if their stupidity/rudeness/etc. bothers me while leaving myself the option of giving them over to someone else when I get to the point that I can't handle their ways any longer. However, I occasionally run across people...in business and in my personal life...who do tweak that "naughty, slightly dishonorable" sadist in me and then, he comes out. Those are generally people who, through their own rank stupidity and/or boorish behavior, have it coming.

As for what Merc did to someone who wrote to beth under the assumption that only beth would read the mail...how can you blame Merc for thinking that the person did not think beforehand (or was incapable of it)? All one has to do is read beth's profile to know her "availability" status.

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RE: Question for Merc & other sadists - 3/10/2009 2:11:46 PM

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Mercnbeth

Mental and emotional intercourse requires a degree of nakedness beyond skin that requires a comfort level and trust beyond casual familiarity.

You have summed up in one sentence what I have tried to convey in paragraphs. Thank you!

I was wondering why I do not care for casual play any more and it is because of that deep trust and deep connection I seek. When my heart opens to such a level, I am willing. Things I may find distasteful from my ego's standpoint are no longer "forget about it," but rather, "I am willing to try, for you."

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We're proud of who we are. We're proud of each other, and the life we have together. We aren't embarrassed exposing any part of it.

That is why I always find myself enriched by your posts. They are genuine and based upon your experience. You have no need to judge others for you are comfortable and at peace with who you are.

My path may be different than beth's, but I know neither of you would judge me as "less than" or not "true" because of that. And, I find I learn something about myself each time I read one of your posts, whether it be, "No, that is not right for me," or "Hmm. That is a trigger. I need to look at why I may not like that. Perhaps deep down I do?"

I may no longer be a physical masochist, but in reading your post on this thread, I found myself looking at sadism from the standpoint of the mental, emotional, intellectual and spritual levels. And, these are things I need to journal about now for there *IS* a masochistic desire on some of these levels.

Thank you both!

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RE: Question for Merc & other sadists - 3/10/2009 2:52:56 PM

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To the last question: Yes, I have. And yes, it's the genuine reason why I do them. *shrug*

I try to keep it in check :P I like inciting anger, I like upsetting people... in general I have the good makings of a troll... :P

Even more than that, though, I enjoy physical pain. I find I'm less provoking when I have a chance to do inflict THAT.

And I generally try to suppress the urge to anger others... it leaves ME frustrated more often than not, but it also leaves me with more friends (or, at the very least, people who can stand me).

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RE: Question for Merc & other sadists - 3/10/2009 4:57:25 PM

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Wow!

Thank you to everyone for your honest and thoughtful replies. (save one) I wish I would have looked in here sooner. :)

As for screwing with people who behave so stupidly that it makes it easy and fun to do so, well, yes, doesn't anyone (sadist and non-sadist alike) enjoy that particular mind fuck? ;) (I feel the need to declare, I am not a sadist. ;) It's the other sorts of mind fucks that I don't mind having done to me. (Should I have admitted to that? Ha ha!)

To Merc: Thank you for taking the time to give such a detailed response, it was certainly beyond what I had expected to see!

All of the replies here have fairly much enforced my sense of what defines a sadist. It feels good to know I'm not off target.

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RE: Question for Merc & other sadists - 3/10/2009 8:28:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD

For other sadists, have you ever found yourself using sadism as an excuse for some less than honourable behaviours or comments - realizing it after the fact?

It never even occurs to me that something I'm doing may be due to a sadistic streak or not. Yet recently I've reflected back on some things I've done this past week or so and though that oh yeah, that was a bit sadistic. In the small yet satisfying way at least.

Now have I thought about using sadism as an excuse for less than honorable behaviors? Perhaps oh, a dozen times a day. But I've yet to act on those impulses. More like a series of little mental what ifs. Just saying.

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