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RE: Fantasies - 3/3/2009 6:18:01 PM

variation30

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I have fantasies that I haven't told because I'm a sick, twisted fuck and would be deeply embarrassed if anyone knew.

yup.

I'm pretty sure my fantasies qualify as thought crimes. I'll keep them to myself.

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RE: Fantasies - 3/5/2009 6:26:29 PM

MasterLark

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ORIGINAL: heartbound

You have a good point. Her first relationship was one I personally would define as abusive. Her first Master used her financially and literally dumped her when she ran out of money. I am guessing that she has some really huge trust issues. Perhaps she is better off just being honest and telling him everything he asks for so that she can feel more secure from the beginning?

...and so the rest of the story...the hidden truth not presented upfront -- previously abused, so "huge trust issues." Duh. My view is not to push her to reveal her fantasies simply because her Master asked. Her fantasies are an element of what is left of her identity and, having been abused, she has some healing to do with the rest of her identity. Her Master needs to honor that, and so do you. Back off. Let the relationship evolve in another direction so trust can be built where it can most flourish.

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RE: Fantasies - 3/6/2009 10:17:49 AM

Jeptha

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ORIGINAL: Kana
I love that.
And just as a question
Doesn't it seem kind of odd for a Master/ Dominant to have to hide something from his/her slave/sub?
Doesn't that just feel wrong somehow?

I haven't disclosed my fantasy life in complete 360º lurid detail to my present partner...(which makes me feel slightly hypocritical, since I've blathered on about the importance of doing just that in other threads recently...)

But, there are some extenuating circumstances; she is married, has a fairly high profile job; does not share certain fantasies, and in some cases simply hasn't asked about them.

So that sort of serves to close off a few categories or sub-categories of fantasy that will remain in the closet for the indefinite future.

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RE: Fantasies - 3/6/2009 10:57:36 AM

MissLaura1973

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

And I would question a dom if he felt he had to hide things from his slave. I mean who really is the dominant species then?

What if the dominant just had no desire to share the fantasies with the slave? As someone who tends to be intensely personal about some things, there are many fantasy scenarios that I have no intention of sharing with anyone - they're not things I have any great desire to act out (and in some cases just plain aren't practical / legal / etc.) and I prefer to keep them to myself.

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