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RE: not turned on by bdsm - 3/3/2009 12:39:08 PM

junecleaver

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Everyone is wired differently. My wires are crossed. Topping is not sexual for me. Bottoming is almost always sexual for me. I love tying people up, because it's fun. Seeing a guy tied up does nothing for me, quite the opposite actually.

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RE: not turned on by bdsm - 3/3/2009 12:44:03 PM

CreativeDominant

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I agree with Eclipse...this really is an arena within BDSM and D/s wherein there lies two distinct groups: those that get sexually aroused by D/s and BDSM activities and those that do not. On a basic level, I fit in with the dictionary definition of a sadist...someone who gets sexually aroused from inflicting pain. I match up best with someon who, on a basic level, fits the dictionary definition of a masochist...someone who gets sexually aroused from receiving pain. Of course, then there are all those wonderful shadings that enhance it...the control, the interaction of a submissive with a dominant, the knowledge that something I am doing, though not an overt sexual touch, is still causing arousal and that her arousal is enhanced because it is me doing it, etc.. '
While I don't quite get the other mindset, I have seen it expressed on here too many times to deny that it exists. You have to find what works best for you in your life.

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RE: not turned on by bdsm - 3/3/2009 6:11:23 PM

Andalusite

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CreativeDominant and Eclipse, I have to disagree, because I'm in both categories depending on the situation. I guess I'm a switch in *that* respect, too!

Thanks, Freya! Most people who I played with casually were fine with it, but I had to refuse to play with one or two who insisted that they needed it to be sexual. One even wanted to use vibrators/dildos on me that he'd previously used with other partners.