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How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 3:11:03 AM

MidMichCowboy

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So how does a person contact a new person on CollarMe? I've written long elequent letters (in my opinion anyway). Delete without being read or read and I never hear back.
I've written short notes and made a friend. I talked to a couple guys who send out emails demanding the the person do certain things,, call them a slut and treat them terrible. It's funny, they have better luck than I do.
So how does one make contact on a site like this? What do you ladies (my perspective .. remember) want in an opening letter?

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 3:21:08 AM

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There's no criteria you just write..I don't give a shit as long as:
it doesn't include calling me pet/sub/slut/whateva
it isn't a copy paste letter
it isn't written by some dumbass being horny lookin for sex/dude that's so involved in his fetishes that he can't think of anything else
it contains proper grammar

In addition..you're 52 if you're writing women a lot younger than yourself you might simply end up in the bulk folder. You ended up in mine (but then I also read my bulk mail... just out of curiousity, usually don't reply to those however)

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 3:23:03 AM

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call them by their user ID and let them know that you have read their profile

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 3:25:13 AM

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For me, sincerity is the key. If the guy sounds sincere, I always write back...I may tell him he's too far or too young or too something, but if the letter sounds sincere, I always write back. Course, I'm not one to delete unread either. Kinda like a train wreck...I can't stop myself from looking :)

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 3:29:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

In addition..you're 52 if you're writing women a lot younger than yourself you might simply end up in the bulk folder. You ended up in mine (but then I also read my bulk mail... just out of curiousity, usually don't reply to those however)

But you did write me back (no folks I wasn't hitting on her, I do respect limits that are in profiles.

If people do have age limits, why don't they include them in their profiles?

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 3:37:30 AM

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I did write back, 'cause I had no reason not to :)
The age range that doesn't end up in my bulk is 22-41 (both sexes) ..I guess my reason for not stating the age is because I'm not looking. However if I was looking I'd probably state which age range I would prefer.
That doesn't mean I'd explicitly state that those who didn't fit within that age range would end up in my bulk (it's none of their business really)
Guess not that many people bother thinking about what they say in their profiles

Guess I should add..the people younger than my age, I'm not usually interested in them because we're usually not at the same level (not in real life at least so why should we be at the same level here) the people older than ..45, especially those over 50, are always trying to show how dommely dommy dom dom they are and are mostly annoying..it's kind of "no wonder you're single dude"

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 4:04:58 AM

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Only suggestion I can give is just start with a short hello and find something about the person in their profile that struck your interest. I would probably look for a vanilla interest on that one.

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 4:11:23 AM

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"I want to capture your mind, your spirit, your soul, your body, your devotion and your love. Then, will I
give you my heart." from your OWN tagline... you got the order and the method right there.

Engage her mind with a few sentences not a novel. Marvel at her spirit in your response to her response. Give it a few emails, then move on to her soul. DON"T burden her with your life, your heart until she starts asking for it.

And maybe start with your fan club on the forums? You do have one your know. I'm new here but i have notices that you are treated with respect by the women on the forums, and that is not something many or most men can boast.

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 4:20:49 AM

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I replied to you too!...lol

The guys that have luck with their *call'em a slut* thing, have simply hit the jackpot by coming across girls who respond to that kind of yawniness.

Personally I would never, repeat never be interested in anyone that mailed me with anything other than a friendly *hiya*.

I know I'm not *on the market* but I get nice emails from guys that say things like * Hello, I saw your pictures on your profile, and although I know you're owned, I just thought I'd say how nice they were.*

If I was ever *looking* I'd be far more attracted to people that didn't mention D/s or bdsm at all. Just a guy, saying hello to a girl etc.

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 4:35:13 AM

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When I was looking and had a profile that included my hobbies, the note that caught my eye was one that talked about gardening...one of those hobbies. Although we ended up not being a match as partners, we remain great friends and still visit one another several times a year.

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 4:42:17 AM

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quote:

If people do have age limits, why don't they include them in their profiles?

because it is a preference, not a must have , and can be room for flexibility if other preferences are met and there is a good connection,

I actually end up turning one Dom down who wrote me because of how he wrote his profile including his preferences

In his profile he stated that any sub that contacted him should be between 90 and 140 lbs and must be no taller than 5' 6", must be asian and I forget the rest but it was all very specific, but I did not meet most of his preferences

So when he contacted me about forming a potential relationship and I read his profile.. and realized how far outside his preferences I was, I felt like chopped liver, like he had contacted me only to be a temporary playtoy till something better came around, so I said no thank you and refused any further correspondence.

So spelling out all your preferences in your profile can cause good potentials to avoid contacting you or have then refusing to meet with you

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 4:44:33 AM

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Not that I am looking, I do get fan mail from ppl that either like my posts or hate em. Since I added my tag line I don't get near as much hate male as I used to... As far as cold calling the profile list...nope never done it. I never was into the whole online dating tho.

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 5:12:38 AM

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Maybe you should wait until new people aren't new anymore? Many of the females on here can attest to sometimes getting a hundred e-mails a day when they first join up...undoubtedly, some will go by the wayside. When you're first starting out, you may have limits you don't quite realize, so you can't put them on your profile.

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 5:13:09 AM

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I noticed that as well fey, that the OP is treated with respect here. That is a big plus OP!!!

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 5:32:30 AM

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I prefer being contacted in a more vanilla manner first - I'm not going to start yelling out intimate little details about what I'm specifically looking for or desire on a first email xD It's like a first date - there's some things you just do *not* do.

Bulk mail is fun to read for a laugh.

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 5:49:26 AM

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Always include a cock pic with your first contact. Never fails.

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 5:51:43 AM

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English!

or just enclose your credit card number if responding to those in sub saharan africa

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 6:02:17 AM

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LMAO! It's a good thing I have real teeth. If they were false I would have spit them out laughing at the truth of that statement!
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ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly
the people older than ..45, especially those over 50, are always trying to show how dommely dommy dom dom they are and are mostly annoying..it's kind of "no wonder you're single dude"

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 6:06:58 AM

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yup yup! I have two names here (don't use one at all anymore), but the first two months here as a new member were hell on email insta-doms. Phhht. My second ID here never wrote back to any of them.
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ORIGINAL: ExKat

Maybe you should wait until new people aren't new anymore? Many of the females on here can attest to sometimes getting a hundred e-mails a day when they first join up....

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RE: How to Contact a new person on Collarme? - 2/19/2009 6:08:02 AM

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yanno... I always DO respond to those. I used to have a collection of cock shots from random people and my and the girls (some of whom were men) would send them back and forth trying to decide which porn star it reminded us of. (shudders at my own sentence structure there)

But yeah, i like cock shots. I think they are fun. But will i go out of my way to get to know the guy if its just a cock shot and "hi", probably not. If he can give me a good or interesting reason for the cock shot then yeah maybe.

Piercings get bonus points (with the crew at least) and proof that it is longer than 8 inches or more than 3 inches around also get extra points. Yes we had a whole grading scale and the Eastern Judges were always the toughest.

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