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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/11/2009 12:58:17 AM

WyldHrt

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well in My case, My picture is deliberately headless so that's a pile of bullshit which just pushes My finger closer to the IGNORE button.

LOL, you too, MaamJay? I love getting cmail that yaps on about my beauty when all they can see in my pics is my... errr... bounty

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/11/2009 2:48:42 AM

DarkSteven

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I'm obviously not a Domme, but I wanted to chime in with a suggestion. I've contacted a lot of Dommes on cm, simply for bantering. Almost every single one has responded very positively, and I suspect that someone who's not deadly serious is a welcome relief for them.

For example, one idiot once posted something about how men are more naturally Dominant than women, and that Dommes are simply natural subs who have not yet found the man Dominant enough to make them realize their true submissive natures. I posted my own thoughts in the thread, and then contacted two or three Dommes who had also posted there, with the message that "[fakesub] had said it was your natural state to submit to me. Just thought I'd mention it." I got a 100% response rate, bantering with me in turn, and made a friend half my age in a different state.

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/11/2009 6:10:53 AM

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danny , all that you have posted here yeah i see where a first impression would be fake ,troll , mass mailing wanker .But if you just drop the Mistress i wanna serve you stuff and speak to Her like a Woman , no requests ,no agenda ,no expectations .She maybe A Mistress but she is not your Mistress , many will not allow you to address as such until a dynamic is formed .You say you want to serve these women ?Try getting to know them for several months,and much in person time . before you ask if you may serve them .Learn your etiquete and protocol s , and manners , VS just speaking to them like your in the drive thru placing an order and you shall be plesantly shocked how much better your result .I am in no way saying lie , and if you want them to really think your telling the truth and not lie'n then it is easy do not lie .you can be respectful and use a term like Ma'am as an honorific , but know most people on here have seen or read or experienced a lot .I would also suggest you see if there is a local TnG chapter near you , so you may get involved with a real live comunity .

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ORIGINAL: dman88

well after i read their profile, i send a message with a heading of Mistress, Goddess, etc. whichever they prefer to be called and then i say hi, my name is danny. i live in Illinois. After reading your profile, I would like to say that i am very interested in the possibility of serving you. I am very obedient, respectful, and have a strong passion to serve. If there is anything i can do to earn your consideration, please let me know. Thanks for your time. And then i either dont get a message back or i do get one that accuses me of being a fake and thats it.

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/11/2009 7:08:09 AM

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Focus on the unattractive ones?

What?

It was just a question.

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/11/2009 8:18:46 AM

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Welcome to the forums, danny. You seem like a sincere young man. I say that from having read your posts in this thread. I would add, to the good advice you've gotten here, keep posting on various topics in the forums. It's a good way to let people get to know you better and makes you seem more than one or two dimensional and simply focused on your sexual desires being fulfilled.

When I get a nmessage from someone I have never heard of, the first thing I do is see what they have posted in the forums in an attempt to learn something about them. If they have no posts, I tend to take them much less seriously.

< Message edited by cjan -- 2/11/2009 8:22:12 AM >

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/11/2009 8:57:27 AM

dman88

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ok i am officially going to take a completly different approach when messaging a Domme. Thanks again for the advise.

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/11/2009 9:03:31 AM

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There wasn't anything in my area either. Long weekends meant I could attend a munch that was 6 hours away. Vacations were planned around kinky events. It was at one of those kinky events that I met my Dom. Being a volunteer at an event is a great way to meet lots of people. You meet the greatest number of people while showing that you are polite and helpful...a win win situation that might get you the attention of a special lady.

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/11/2009 9:18:18 AM

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there might be a way for you to get involved/connect with people local or closer to you

http://www.leatherpalooza.com/about.htm

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/11/2009 9:30:44 AM

Madame4a

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oh.. I know I'll go straight to hell for this...

but.. not that there's anything wrong with a masturbating supplicant.. on the right day of the week.. and when I'm in the mood... offline of course...

but seriously.. Redmagic has got it... stand out from the crowd, write to a woman, not a living breathing fetish satisfying barbie doll and you might get a response...

and while I'm not typical.. two things that would immediately put me off are calling me Goddess or Mistress.. or anything like that, and the whole cam thing... not my cuppa...

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: dman88

well after i read their profile, i send a message with a heading of Mistress, Goddess, etc. whichever they prefer to be called and then i say hi, my name is danny. i live in Illinois. After reading your profile, I would like to say that i am very interested in the possibility of serving you. I am very obedient, respectful, and have a strong passion to serve. If there is anything i can do to earn your consideration, please let me know. Thanks for your time. And then i either dont get a message back or i do get one that accuses me of being a fake and thats it.

This sounds as though you have not read her profile, even if you have. Write something about her profile in the first line of your email. You don't even have to agree with it. "I see you are looking for a long-term relationship with a sub or slave. I don't know if that's for me, but I'd like to get to know you better, and see where things go." Stuff like that. Be human and realistic.

Don't be fooled by the fact that there are 20 kajillion sub male profiles. Write a letter written by a human being, not a masturbating supplicant, and the dominant woman will pay attention to you.

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/11/2009 5:50:28 PM

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I would suggest taking a piece of paper and writing down your user name on it, then taking a picture of yourself holding it and putting it as your profile picture. That way they know you're a real person and not a troll.

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/19/2009 10:30:52 AM

MistressMeltz

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although you are very young, i would not doubt that someone would be interested in training you. some dominas like the idea of havin a younger guy/girl. be persistent, turthful and dont act like a horndog1 your sincerity should show thru to the right domina for you. you will find your match. you are very young. be patient and let a mistress pick you instead of the other way around!

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/19/2009 11:29:32 AM

MMagic

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This happens to us subs too, lol. I know we're supposed to serve our Doms and Dommes but I often wonder why a Dom/Domme would want someone to serve them if that sub isn't into what they are into. That's very one sided fun. Hmmm time for a journal posting.

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ORIGINAL: Sanguinarian

Well, cookie, your best bet is to first approach the potential Dominant as a person, not a sex machine. Most Dominants, myself included, get annoyed with new subbies who detail the kinks they want, without ever once asking who I/They are and if they would even want such things,.

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/19/2009 11:49:42 AM

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Danny

For me the e-mails that I get that proclaim that the gentleman in question wants to serve me based solely on the sparse information of my profile are a complete turn off. If someone wants to devote their life to another then they should want to get to know them before offering their service. I want to know that when someone asks to serve me that they are doing so because they know me and what makes me tick and they would rather serve me then someone else. I am not a blow up doll and I don't expect any partner I have to be vacuous either.

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/19/2009 12:08:05 PM

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(Using fast reply.)

1. Turn off computer.

2. Door. See door. Go through door.

3. Car. Get in car. Drive.

4. Event. Attend event. Meet people.

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RE: how do i get a Mistress to believe me - 2/19/2009 1:02:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: dman88

since there are really isnt any bdsm in the city i live in, i have to message Mistresses from a couple hours away. It seems that when i message them, most of them think im a fake. What do i need to do to get them to believe me without being annoying?

If you are willing to find a woman to create a Ds or BDSM relationship with who lives a few hours drive away are you willing to start driving to go to munches and meetings of various BDSM organizations? Just because these events aren't in your city does not mean that they are outside your reach. If they are so would be the women you are contacting.

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