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The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 5:21:44 AM   
MistressAinCT


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Status: offline 		Is anyone having a difficult time during this economic downfall with keeping their D/s relationship together? Seems My slave who already works strange hours, might either have to take a second job or move out of our area (we live in an expensive town!) which will put further strain on the relationship.  Even though he lives 5 minutes away, we rarely see each other as it is.  But he has to earn a living and he can't live with Me :(

I was just wondering if anyone else was having trouble keeping it together either losing the relationship altogether or cutting down on together time.

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 5:32:02 AM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		Yes we are too having problems. Sir's hours got cut, which means less money. It is affecting us getting together. My job has had a decline as well, so is affecting my finances. It is cutting down on visiting time.

You are not the only one and yes it sucks big time.

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 5:49:39 AM   
IronBear


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From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline 		Won't be just the D/s relationships at risk but the M/s, Poly, Victorian, Gorean relationships but marriages both kink and vamnilla which will  be under a great deal of pressure. We had it a few years ago here in Australia where the over high interest rates and lack of jobs caused both suicides and family break ups..

You need to learn to improvise and to survive..


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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 5:57:11 AM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		In this crazy time I had the good fortune of securing a great job at a very comfortable salary, after being unemployed for a year.  I just met someone who I've been talking to a short while, and he has his own local business.  He told me it's been struggling and last year was the worst.  He and another business just joined forces last week to see if together they could stay afloat.  Because of this, he is somewhat hesitant to embark on any possible relationship with anyone, as he won't be able to do many of the things he has been accustomed to doing.

I agree with IronBear - improvise.  To me, a movie at home, cozied up on the couch is more comfy than a movie out in the theater.  A home cooked meal (at least mine, anyway, heh) usually tastes better than a restaurant can do.  And an open & creative mind goes a long, long way in alleviating any worries or stresses. 

Hey when all else fails, have sex a lot!  :)


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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 5:57:14 AM   
persephonee


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Status: offline 		On a related note, the financial stress i am under at the moment, and probably for a long time to come, has forced some lessons on me as a sub...like, learning to ask for help...accepting help graciously....things that i, as a person, wasnt the best at prior. im sorry about your situation, but there are very few obstacles that simply cant be overcome, so hang in there!

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 6:31:33 AM   
Prinsexx


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Status: offline 		I am working in fact luckily working more than I ever had. I guess as specialist teacher/therapist a recession like this means i am in more demand. (In terms of prices it's a great time as everything is reduced, even the price of food in the shops. I go buy at the end of the day and the local supermarket is virtually giving the food away. I focus on necessities).
My friend and I are still living 24/7 and he is self-employed and re-located so his professional life is still being put back together. Property is hard to find even to rent or to buy at any reasonable price in my area which is one of the highest property price-wise and an area most effected by recession. So we are being patient with each other: he is very very kind and I have learned to ask for help. he cooks, contributes by doing man's work around the house. Gives lifts and picks up and as I have had an operation recently I am very grateful for the help.
We all chip in and my sister and I live around the corner from each other. We have both lived through two previous recessions before. The worse has not yet hit in the UK. People pull together. It's a Brit thing..... like we need a catastrophe to get close almost..... but staying in is the new going out, i am grateful for my grannies skills of cooking and a working-class way of making ends meet.
Mealtimes are often shared between the two houses and my table is always full and floweth over.he main thing is to realise that there are always those who are far far worse off than us...... those in the third world who live on a bowl of rice a day and who have no tap water and who live on rubbish heaps and those whose ony source of income is to beg.....
it's ony a sense of relative deprivation that makes us feel anxious but surely it's a sense of relative wealth that should be making us feel great right now.
My ex-Master and I will work it out, will always support each other.... this is new to me and all good.



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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 6:49:49 AM   
michelleryder


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Status: offline 		We are totally spoiled in so much as we both work for the same place in a very stable enviroment hopefully!

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 6:52:00 AM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		Where there is a will, there is always a way IF someone wants a way.

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 8:29:10 AM   
chezzy71


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Status: offline 		If i had to hitchhike in a blizzard with my meds and a backpack to be with Mistress i would do it.

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 10:26:46 AM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		Getting separated (Over 16 months ago) and having a spouse that didn't work much in the 2 years preceding the divorce did a lot to re-situate my thinking on finances.  In my 20's, I was crazed about having perfect credit, being able to buy a house, etc.  The afore-mentioned events cause me to realize that I can do what I can do and while I am willing to work hard, I am not going to go insane over a late payment or a ding to my credit and that there are bigger, more important considerations than that.  My approach to this recession is much the same.  And, if it all goes to Hell in a Handbasket, I have my 'doomsday' plan for looking after me and mine.  Aside from that, living life and attempting not to preoccupy on the negatives as there are definite positives in life too!  :> 
  Davan

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 10:41:06 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: chezzy71

If i had to hitchhike in a blizzard with my meds and a backpack to be with Mistress i would do it.


not to worry when all else fails, we have the horses!

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 11:09:01 AM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		His business came to an abrubt halt when the housing market hit the fan, as he does structural steel work. We have cut down on spontanious vacations, and outings, but other than that we're perfectly happy to entertain ourselves in other ways.

I've always been a very low income person until this last year, so it doesn't bother me at all.


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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 12:00:33 PM   
MsDDom


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Status: offline 		as one who is a stickler for time management, i can indeed seeing it becoming an issue. if a sub/slave cannot balance his work schedule, then some alternative will have to be worked out.


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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 12:07:32 PM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		He has to work away from home a lot as he does very upscale housing renovations on a beach community. People aren't going to spend $20,000 on a fabulous bathroom when the old one works fine but as it's a vacation community they are still spending money on screen door repairs/replacement. And since he will transport materials bought much more cheaply up here down to there and pass on part of the savings, they will hire him instead of a local charging upscale local prices.

It's a pain but a lot of people up around here commute long hours to be able to earn money.

To work closer to home people want an upscale job on prices that wouldn't pay for materials yet alone labor.

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 12:27:22 PM   
CreativeDominant


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Status: offline 		I'm lucky, so far...knock on wood.  People that need my services need them when they need them.  They may not stay in therapy as long as I would like but the one thing I am noting...as I have in other downturns...is that my number of people coming in for stress-related conditions has gone up. 

Since I've gotten so frugal the last 10 years, finances are a concern and the fact that things are going well right now does not mean that they will 6 months from now.  And having watched myself...and other friends of mine...have a lot of what we worked for stripped away, I am fairly firm about any submissive I deal with being willing to pick up their portion of expenses.  Not all, not even half but at least a portion.

Since I am kind of a homebody, the idea of staying home and finding things to do there to "entertain" each other is not repellant or disappointing to me at all.  In fact, I prefer the idea of being at home with my submissive as to be out on the town every night or every other night.

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 1:04:42 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Not yet but it's a huge concern of mine. If things get any tighter for me I may have to take a second job and we're both already busy enough in our lives as it is.

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 1:36:52 PM   
KnightofMists


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ORIGINAL: MistressAinCT

Is anyone having a difficult time during this economic downfall with keeping their D/s relationship together?


I suppose there is... but not in my house!

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 2:19:52 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		I have no D/s examples... yet... but a friend told me just this morning, "I am petrified," because of the economy.  And she is always the one making everyone else laugh.  That kind of emotional change is going to affect relationships of all kinds.


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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 3:43:27 PM   
SummerWind


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Status: offline 		The economy is having no impact on our relationship. We find a way.

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RE: The economy and D/s relationships - 2/3/2009 6:06:42 PM   
slaveluci


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressAinCT

Is anyone having a difficult time during this economic downfall with keeping their D/s relationship together?


I suppose there is... but not in my house!

Not in this house either.  We both work full-time jobs and our schedules don't usually match up.  On days where I work 9-6 and He works 3-midnight, it can be rough not seeing each other much.  Fortunately this isn't every day and, on the days it does occur, we see each other either very early in the morning or very late at night.  We make a way, period.

Finances haven't been tight.  We don't have an overload of bills as we aren't in debt and don't have car payments, a huge mortage or so many of the other things so many have to worry about.  We just work 40 hrs. a week, pay what bills we do have and still have plenty left for meals out, music, books, etc. - all the things we enjoy.

I can't imagine our relationship unraveling no matter how many hours we work and how low on funds we get.  First things first and we both have our relationship as top priority no matter what hell may break loose in our lives...............luci

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