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Perhaps I am unusual here but I like a certain amount of arrogance in people. To me the difference is self confidence is thinking you are right. Arrogance is knowing you are right.Too much arrogance and it becomes pompous which is not attractive.

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ORIGINAL: naughtysubK

A self confident person can admit their mistakes, allow others a differing opinion, or ask questions when they don't quite understand something. They can do all of these things and remain confident in their own qualities and abilities.

An arrogant person believes they are never wrong, their opinion is the only valid opinion, and knows everything.

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ORIGINAL: GhostWhoWalks

Women have told me they find self-confidence in a man sexy. Self-confidence in a Dominant is mandatory.
I've also been told by women that arrogance is a major turn-off.
Where do you draw the line, between self-confidence and arrogance?
Is one person's arrogance anothers self-confidence?
Is either merely in the eye of the beholder? Or are there commonalities, actions or words most of us associate with crossing the line between self-confidence and arrogance (For example, walking down Lovers Lane alone)?
Are there gray areas, where said actions or words could be interpreted either way?
Inquiring Minds Want To Know these things.

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ORIGINAL: allthatjaz


A confident man is someone who is knowledgeable, direct and clear, self assured and can hold his own with anyone.
An arrogant man is someone who uses sarcasms, put downs, rudeness and an un-earned demand for respect. There is a very clear difference between the two.

Is one persons arrogance anothers self confidence? you have to know both to understand the difference but a good example is that a confident man is never rude just positively assertive.

For me there are no grey areas, there is a very clear distinction.

Maria

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

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ORIGINAL: allthatjaz


A confident man is someone who is knowledgeable, direct and clear, self assured and can hold his own with anyone.
An arrogant man is someone who uses sarcasms, put downs, rudeness and an un-earned demand for respect. There is a very clear difference between the two.

Is one persons arrogance anothers self confidence? you have to know both to understand the difference but a good example is that a confident man is never rude just positively assertive.

For me there are no grey areas, there is a very clear distinction.

Maria

I know a goodly number of men who are arrogant, never rude, with impeccable manners, who know their place in the system and roughly half were born to high positions. Their arrogance is a natural arrogance born of knowing their place, never abusing it but expecting that their “requests” will be met when dealing with those under their sphere of influence. All the men are self confident in themselves and their abilities in what they do. To a man they all have the power of command.  None of them are weak people hiding behind a pose of superiority or abuse.  People who do not know me but hear/see me commanding our two dogs by voice or hand signals just shrug as hearing/seeing something quite acceptable and common. Yet if they see/hear similar commands to a slave, I will be accused of being an arrogant and abusive bastard. Arrogance, real arrogance is a matter of perception.

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ORIGINAL: gumshoe

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ORIGINAL: GhostWhoWalks

Women have told me they find self-confidence in a man sexy. Self-confidence in a Dominant is mandatory.
I've also been told by women that arrogance is a major turn-off.
Where do you draw the line, between self-confidence and arrogance?

Self-confidence = I'm swell and so are you.
Arrogance          = I'm swell.  Ugh!  Who are you?

Self-confidence is something you see in a strong individual.

Eric Hoffer wrote that rudeness is the weak man's immitation of strength.  A fairly good definition of arrogance I say.

The difference between self-confidence and arrogance is the same difference between strong and weak.

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ORIGINAL: allthatjaz

I find arrogance a man turn off but then I lived with an arrogant man for four years so I was attracted to it at one point in my life.

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

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ORIGINAL: gumshoe

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ORIGINAL: GhostWhoWalks

Women have told me they find self-confidence in a man sexy. Self-confidence in a Dominant is mandatory.
I've also been told by women that arrogance is a major turn-off.
Where do you draw the line, between self-confidence and arrogance?

Self-confidence = I'm swell and so are you.
Arrogance          = I'm swell.  Ugh!  Who are you?

Self-confidence is something you see in a strong individual.

Eric Hoffer wrote that rudeness is the weak man's immitation of strength.  A fairly good definition of arrogance I say.

The difference between self-confidence and arrogance is the same difference between strong and weak.

Hmmmmmm...there must be a lot of weak men and women around these days among the younger set.  I've talked about it before and I don't want to hijack so I'll just throw a new observation about that in...I wonder how much of that comes from too much time with video games instead of real games where you have to engage with other humans and the object is NOT to kill as many as you can.

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ORIGINAL: naughtysubK

A self confident person can admit their mistakes, allow others a differing opinion, or ask questions when they don't quite understand something.  They can do all of these things and remain confident in their own qualities and abilities. 

An arrogant person believes they are never wrong,  their opinion is the only valid opinion,  and knows everything.

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self-confidence - freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities

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A person who is truly confident in his/her abilities doesn't spend time telling, instead they just show their competence in their actions.