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RE: How Do you look for A BDSM Girl? - 1/23/2009 10:59:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: pompeii

All the advice given so far is good (it's amazing how often this same question gets asked ... ).

I keep saying it but I'll repeat (briefly) for the OP ...

My best advice for you is to consider yourself one of ten thousand similar guys all looking for the same thing. Consider that the women you approach have been approached by each and every one of those ten thousand similar (well, similar enough) guys. Then, consider that each of those women do latch up with one of those ten thousand guys ... so, it is possible ... and, in fact very likely, that you'll find someone.

You just have to stand out from those ten thousand guys. At least for that women who is attracted to you and to whom you are attracted.

How do you do that should be your real question.

Ha ha And thanks i really can't believe the responses very smart and real. This is the first site I have gone 2 that hasn't been one asking for creditcards of some BS and sorry for being such a noob but hey gotta start somewhere :)

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RE: How Do you look for A BDSM Girl? - 1/23/2009 11:50:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pompeii

All the advice given so far is good (it's amazing how often this same question gets asked ... ).

I keep saying it but I'll repeat (briefly) for the OP ...

My best advice for you is to consider yourself one of ten thousand similar guys all looking for the same thing. Consider that the women you approach have been approached by each and every one of those ten thousand similar (well, similar enough) guys. Then, consider that each of those women do latch up with one of those ten thousand guys ... so, it is possible ... and, in fact very likely, that you'll find someone.

You just have to stand out from those ten thousand guys. At least for that women who is attracted to you and to whom you are attracted.

How do you do that should be your real question.

Well I am basically looking for a comfortable way to enter the lifestyle. Not "looking for the love of my life". lol But if I meet someone kick ass than cool or if i just meet up with someone that helps me to explore this new world. Sweet!! I will use the experiance and move on. Thanks for helping a noob that goes to all:)

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RE: How Do you look for A BDSM Girl? - 1/24/2009 11:34:39 AM

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My best advice is what not to do. DO NOT go to a goth club and ask the "chick" in the corset to beat you. she just might and it might not be much fun when she comes out as a he. DO NOT approach a goth with really sexy boots and tell her "nice boots". This is propositioning her for sex, on her terms which might mean that you get to have quality time with her sexy boot up your ass (in a very bad way) or that she expects you to do complicated things with rope on her. DO NOT go to a sorority party and expect to get laid, or if they take a liking to you, expect to get out without doing an inhuman amount of chores and repair projects.

To make this less silly (darn), don't take people at face value. lots of people are into things that they don't generally advertise to all and sundry. find a person that you find attractive and then ask discrete questions. Or in a more BDSM setting, start by talking about things that don't have much to do with your fantasies and more about what and who you are.

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RE: How Do you look for A BDSM Girl? - 1/24/2009 3:22:33 PM

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Having read your profile, if you want to make a good impression, get rid of the spelling mistakes, check for good grammar and lose the "cool". Most dominants read profiles before responding to an email and there is nothing in yours that tells us about you as a person, hobbies or interests outside of BDSM.

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