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Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:09:59 AM   
SimpleQuestion


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Status: offline 		Ok, so I am submissive and am not collared to this Dom but we do enjoy playing and chatting often. I have all hopes of starting a relationship with Him it is just a timing issue for both of us at the moment with our busy lives. Not the point at the moment. lol.

I have been challenged to earn the right to Him telling me His fantasy. Which is something i want to know soooo badly which is exactly why He wont tell me *damn Doms and i mean that with love*. This little power play has been going on for almost a month *GRRRR* and now i have figured out that i must earn it by doing something specifically to get it. Being a good girl is simply not enough. And neither is a round of naughty pictures *i tried*.

Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas for me?

I've thought about writing Him a story as I am a writer... but he has read my work and I dont know if that will be enough. Any suggestions would be great :)
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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:24:42 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Ask him what's required to earn it. Me, I freely admit that I failed mind reading.

Do you enjoy this kind of game playing? I'd guess that he's looking for you to give him anything he wants, no limits, no negotiations. Up to you if you feel like going there.

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:27:41 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		'ya know; often you hear on these boards that 'Dominants/Masters' are NOT mind-readers. It should also be stipulated that neither are submissives.

However, since you refer to the process as an ongoing one month "power play" maybe you enjoy the game. If you don't resign from it, declare him the 'winner', and ask him directly. Maybe he has confidence enough to consider directness fulling the 'earning' requirement.

Beyond that - maybe he has a frustration fetish that you are placating?

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:30:17 AM   
SimpleQuestion


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Ask him what's required to earn it. Me, I freely admit that I failed mind reading.

Do you enjoy this kind of game playing? I'd guess that he's looking for you to give him anything he wants, no limits, no negotiations. Up to you if you feel like going there.


I did ask... haha he's not giving any hints.

He is not asking me to give up all my limits or anything he wants. That's definetely not what this is about. This is about me being creative and using my mind to figure out what he wants. He enjoys this kind of game and so do I. I like the challenge of it.

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:33:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

'ya know; often you hear on these boards that 'Dominants/Masters' are NOT mind-readers. It should also be stipulated that neither are submissives.

However, since you refer to the process as an ongoing one month "power play" maybe you enjoy the game. If you don't resign from it, declare him the 'winner', and ask him directly. Maybe he has confidence enough to consider directness fulling the 'earning' requirement.

Beyond that - maybe he has a frustration fetish that you are placating?


True I am not a mind reader. I wish...

I do enjoy the game because he knows i cannot resist the challenge. Which i also know is part of the point. I've thought about concieting but I dont think that's what he wants either...i think he's trying to see how far he can push me and how creative i get with ways to earn it.

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:41:57 AM   
Emperor1956


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Status: offline 		Unlike Celeste or Mercnbeth (both of dem)  I AM a mind reader, and I know EXACTLY what he wants.   Pay attention. 

He wants you to ask him to lay on his back.  Blindfold him.  Then gently, lovingly massage him from head to toe.  Take your time.  Relax him.  Think of yourself has his worshipful slave.  Then, ask him to roll over, still blindfolded.  Then take a 14" dildo and SHOVE IT RIGHT UP HIS ASS.

That is what he wants.  You can thank me later for the deep insights.

E.

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"What's for breakfast? What do you say, Piglet?"
"I say, I wonder what's going to happen exciting today?"
Pooh nodded thoughtfully.
"It's the same thing," he said.

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:45:36 AM   
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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:50:52 AM   
Emperor1956


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Of course!

Merry Xmas, dear, and I hope you have a wonderful 2009.

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"What's for breakfast? What do you say, Piglet?"
"I say, I wonder what's going to happen exciting today?"
Pooh nodded thoughtfully.
"It's the same thing," he said.

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:52:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SimpleQuestion

Ok, so I am submissive and am not collared to this Dom but we do enjoy playing and chatting often. I have all hopes of starting a relationship with Him it is just a timing issue for both of us at the moment with our busy lives. Not the point at the moment. lol.

I have been challenged to earn the right to Him telling me His fantasy. Which is something i want to know soooo badly which is exactly why He wont tell me *damn Doms and i mean that with love*. This little power play has been going on for almost a month *GRRRR* and now i have figured out that i must earn it by doing something specifically to get it. Being a good girl is simply not enough. And neither is a round of naughty pictures *i tried*.

Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas for me?

I've thought about writing Him a story as I am a writer... but he has read my work and I dont know if that will be enough. Any suggestions would be great :)


Sounds like a pretty silly "power play" game to me but to each their own I guess. I mean, if you like the mental aerobics, more power to you.

My worry is when the fantasy is finally revealed it will sorta be like a really good movie with a crappy ending.

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:55:53 AM   
SimpleQuestion


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ORIGINAL: SimplyIsaac


quote:

ORIGINAL: SimpleQuestion

Ok, so I am submissive and am not collared to this Dom but we do enjoy playing and chatting often. I have all hopes of starting a relationship with Him it is just a timing issue for both of us at the moment with our busy lives. Not the point at the moment. lol.

I have been challenged to earn the right to Him telling me His fantasy. Which is something i want to know soooo badly which is exactly why He wont tell me *damn Doms and i mean that with love*. This little power play has been going on for almost a month *GRRRR* and now i have figured out that i must earn it by doing something specifically to get it. Being a good girl is simply not enough. And neither is a round of naughty pictures *i tried*.

Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas for me?

I've thought about writing Him a story as I am a writer... but he has read my work and I dont know if that will be enough. Any suggestions would be great :)


Sounds like a pretty silly "power play" game to me but to each their own I guess. I mean, if you like the mental aerobics, more power to you.

My worry is when the fantasy is finally revealed it will sorta be like a really good movie with a crappy ending.


Its very silly... i admit it but for us right now its rather fun given some circumstances. Plus i do really like the mental challenge.

Yeah... that's my worry too... but hey... i have to have a little hope that it will be worth it. or at least not the crappiest ending of all time.

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:56:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think he hasn't got a particular fantasy in mind and just enjoys keeping you busy trying...(sorry for being so blunt about such great-dom-ideas )

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:57:26 AM   
SimpleQuestion


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ORIGINAL: Emperor1956

Unlike Celeste or Mercnbeth (both of dem)  I AM a mind reader, and I know EXACTLY what he wants.   Pay attention. 

He wants you to ask him to lay on his back.  Blindfold him.  Then gently, lovingly massage him from head to toe.  Take your time.  Relax him.  Think of yourself has his worshipful slave.  Then, ask him to roll over, still blindfolded.  Then take a 14" dildo and SHOVE IT RIGHT UP HIS ASS.

That is what he wants.  You can thank me later for the deep insights.

E.


Wow thank you so much for.... making me laugh. :D

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 10:58:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower

I think he hasn't got a particular fantasy in mind and just enjoys keeping you busy trying...(sorry for being so blunt about such great-dom-ideas )


I've wondered that quite a few times actually. It wouldnt suprise me.... but i still do enjoy the challenge. (dont worry... bluntness is good :) and sometimes necessary)

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 11:14:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think you both are into game playing and get a lot of enjoyment out of it. I think also it would be better if you come up with your own ideas of creative expression. Know that he can keep pushing you for more, if the first one doesn't work, and probably will. As i said it's more of a game then anything between the two of you. Perhaps make a board game with the mind games listed on it.

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 11:19:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe he doesn't know and is looking to you to come up with ideas and calling it a masterly power play...

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 11:21:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think his true wish is to be dominated.  But he's too shy to admit it.  Start with a strap-on and see how he reacts.    

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 11:27:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Emperor1956

Unlike Celeste or Mercnbeth (both of dem)  I AM a mind reader, and I know EXACTLY what he wants.   Pay attention. 

He wants you to ask him to lay on his back.  Blindfold him.  Then gently, lovingly massage him from head to toe.  Take your time.  Relax him.  Think of yourself has his worshipful slave.  Then, ask him to roll over, still blindfolded.  Then take a 14" dildo and SHOVE IT RIGHT UP HIS ASS.

That is what he wants.  You can thank me later for the deep insights.

E.

you just made me spit out my gum...


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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 2:36:01 PM   
devotedinSD


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Status: offline 		I like specific tasks and not open ended assignments that make me feel like I'm doing his thinking. Sorry, I can't help, good luck.

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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 2:36:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		He probably wants tit for tat..you reveal yours, he'll reveal his.


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RE: Earning what I desire - 12/29/2008 2:47:57 PM   
tia111


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Status: offline 		I think this sounds like fun. He wants you to be creative and it is a fun little mental challenge to see how closely you have been paying attention. So what if in the end its ...i want to tie you up to the bed and slowly fuck ya silly. It is all part of he game.
I love the idea of the board game. I don't know if you are online or real life or how far it has progressed into real life but what bout making him a little package of fun silly things that you have previously spoken about.
Have fun with it as it does sound like a fun "getting to know you" game.

< Message edited by tia111 -- 12/29/2008 2:49:05 PM >

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