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NazjamRa -> far away (12/14/2008 8:57:52 PM)

Have you ever noticed that sometimes the one you connect with here on CM seems so far away i.e. another state or country, how do you handle that?



moonvine -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 8:58:56 PM)

I don't.   I only look for people within a 250 mile radius.  



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:00:55 PM)

I connect, and make no commitment.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:08:57 PM)

I handle it by only considering people to be anything important in my life that are local. If you're not less than 2 hours away, We won't be  bosom buddies, Nor will we be dating.
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ORIGINAL: NazjamRa

Have you ever noticed that sometimes the one you connect with here on CM seems so far away i.e. another state or country, how do you handle that?



LadyPact -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:09:30 PM)

As much as I hate to say it, sometimes you connect and you don't handle it.  If people can't get around the situation, the connection is lost.



porcelain26 -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:09:44 PM)

While we didn't connect on CM...Master and I are over 900 miles apart. It sucks....and not in the good 'cock in my mouth' kinda way either. I handle it by sending Him endless emails and talking to Him every chance I get....which, sometimes isn't near enough and I loose my damn mind (sorta like I'm starting to do now). But, at this point, there is nothing that can be done about the seperation and it must, therefore, be endured. It's no fun, I don't like it, but it's either deal with it, or not be with my Owner, and that last one is NOT an option.



slavejali -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:15:42 PM)

Fast Reply

Be prepared to move or dont allow yourself to entertain thoughts of being together.



DrkJourney -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:18:35 PM)

I talk to them.  Of course I get the distance is not an issue if it's meant to be blah blah blah.  But realistically, there is more chance than not that we will never meet, so I just try and make a new friend and expect nothing....who knows maybe one day I"ll be pleasantly suprised.  lol



marie2 -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:21:52 PM)

If someone is in another country (or I have to fly to see them), I don't even consider it a viable option.  If someone is in a neighboring state, it's not my preference, but if I was really moved by him and thought there was a good chance of a meaningful relationship, I would deal with the driving and the not so frequent visits, but it would take someone really really compatible for me to consider that. 

Having said that, I don't believe in "the one" so I don't get too hung up or heart-broken over hitting it off with someone who is far away.  I think there are many "right" people out there with whom substantial relationships can be had, therefore, I focus on finding one of those "right" partners in my own area.



CountrySong -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:23:36 PM)

OP here's an idea - become financially free so that you have the time and money to travel and play or pay for there travel and play. You'll get to meet so really great people.
I'm working on it so I can go visit. Also you might want to try some play that you can do long distance. I'm working on hypnosis.[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m18.gif[/image]
If not, stay local. True LD sucks and rarely works out based on my experience.



littlewonder -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:33:57 PM)

Master is 3 hours away in another state. We  handle it by trying our best to see each other at least a couple times a month until we are both at a time in our lives when we can be closer.

In the meanwhile we see this as an opportunity to really get to know one another and not to rush.



KyttynTheMynx -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:39:18 PM)

Master and I deal with it.  Trains are fairly cheap, as is gas now.  We also talk by im or phone every day.  



Usako -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:40:23 PM)

I don't handle it. I don't deal with people who aren't local. I will chat with them but that's it. I'm not in any position to travel or visit so it's up to them. If not then oh well, but I'd rather be alone than stuck in something long distance.



elegantalexis -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:42:55 PM)

Its suck majorly.  I want to be with Sir, fussing over him and pampering him to the best of my ability.  Alexis wants to be help remodeling Sir's home.  But soon, very soon, we will be at Sir's place, making him happy and telling Mistress that he is happy.

Shahar



Aszhrae -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 9:44:23 PM)

Eighteen years ago, meeting present mistress, was a plane ticket one way.
When it comes time for girl, it will be another plane ticket one way.
Some may think me foolish but girl's trust is put where others perceive doubt.



utopicus -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 10:21:27 PM)

Nobody can stop me from having pen pals - friends on-line.



pompeii -> RE: far away (12/14/2008 10:52:35 PM)

I too don't handle it. When I did searches, looooong ago, I would set the filters at 30 miles max until I realized 20 miles was more practical. Anything longer than that just isn't gonna work. I'm amazed a the answers here (900 miles!) so far ... wow ... talk about long-distance relationships.

I like to hover my mouse over the folks who've viewed my profile. If they're local, I click on their profile and read it and their forum posts; however, the vast majority are in the UK or some out-of-this-world location (like Kansas, for example), so I then don't even bother to read their profiles (unless, of course, their picture is super interesting).

Even then, I correspond, when the rare instance occurs, with these "foreigners" (i.e., anyone more than 25 miles away), with a quick aloofness that isn't generally befitting my standards ... but, ... why spend hours on a missive that isn't going to get you a friend that's you'll actually meet.

Having said all this, I'm sure, especially based on the surprising responses so far, that YMMV.



slaveluci -> RE: far away (12/15/2008 5:44:32 AM)

Hmmmm, let's see[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m21.gif[/image]................ I handled it by taking it from that first online connection to phone calls everyday to going 800 miles south to visit for a week six weeks later.  One year later I moved permanently to Him and this past May we got married.  Yep, that's how we handled it once that connection was established[:)]...................luci



GreedyTop -> RE: far away (12/15/2008 5:59:32 AM)

we started talking simply as friends, it's morphed into something greater and he'll be coming here next month, we're getting married in Feb and when the immigration hoops are sorted I'll be moving to him.
In the meantime we talk via skype or IMs every day, usually for a minimum of 2-3 hrs by skype (and on and off all day via IMs)



Lynnxz -> RE: far away (12/15/2008 6:04:27 AM)

I quit dating people in other states, and started dating a guy who lives down the road. [:D]



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