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RE: FAQ: When to use a Signal & Other question - 12/9/2008 7:11:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Uh oh....I've been doing it all wrong.

Noooo! Say it isn't so, Aileen! We look up to you as a bastion of knowledge and wisdom. If you're doing it wrong, where does that leave the rest of us? *shuffles off sadly with her illusions shattered.*

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RE: FAQ: When to use a Signal & Other question - 12/9/2008 7:17:08 AM

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I thought it was a good post, directed at newbies. It wouldn't have been an issue if she had posted in response to a question, I'd much prefer this than some of the other first posts I see.

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RE: FAQ: When to use a Signal & Other question - 12/9/2008 7:19:21 AM

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Personally, I've found that flying by the seat of my pants has led to the most incredible experiences of my life. I'll do this wrong every day...

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RE: FAQ: When to use a Signal & Other question - 12/9/2008 7:24:07 AM

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Looks to me as if she is putting this post up both as a public greeting and invitation to potential subs, and an effort to answer some of the more frequently-asked questions that she receives, or an effort to at least show those potential partners what HER thoughts are on those topics. Didn't come off as one true wayism at all. In fact, she clearly stated that the answers would be different for all doms and subs, before offering her own answers to those questions.

Maybe the Introduce Yourself forum would have been a better choice, but still.

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RE: FAQ: When to use a Signal & Other question - 12/9/2008 7:45:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Personally, I've found that flying by the seat of my pants has led to the most incredible experiences of my life. I'll do this wrong every day...

I've done that too and I've got to agree. Sometimes impulsive decisions turn out to be the best a person has made. I always tend to error on the side of caution, but that doesn't rule out impulse decisions at all.

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RE: FAQ: When to use a Signal & Other question - 12/9/2008 9:46:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Did she have a question? One of the simplest things to remember, in so many areas (work, home, play), is "know your audience."

At work, can you sell me copy machine toner if I don't have a copier? No.
At home, can I expect the kids to sit quietly if they are tired and cranky and dinner is an hour late? No.
At play, can I expect that I will get a warm reception if I start preaching to people that have more than a clue as to what they're doing? No.

Know your audience.

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Not sure who the OP's audience is, but that sentance right there, shows you know thishereboi.

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RE: FAQ: When to use a Signal & Other question - 12/9/2008 12:12:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: MsAnnThrope

I have received a lot of questions from subs, and newbies asking about what they should except from a session or if an online or personal experience would be more preferred. Those questions are difficult to answer because all Doms, Domme, Subs, and slaves are different. What not be right for one maybe what the other needs.

Maybe you should of just ended with the above statement... the rest you had to say was well... Not so good. In fact, both of your answers would be wrong in regards to answers for my relationships with Alandra and Kyra. They don't have safewords.. and they don't decide what occurs or doesn't occur in the scene with me.

I suggest when you answer questions.. maybe answer them in a manner that is appropriate to your relationship and not project what everyone should do.

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RE: FAQ: When to use a Signal & Other question - 12/9/2008 2:44:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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ORIGINAL: MsAnnThrope

I have received a lot of questions from subs, and newbies asking about what they should except from a session or if an online or personal experience would be more preferred. Those questions are difficult to answer because all Doms, Domme, Subs, and slaves are different. What not be right for one maybe what the other needs.

Maybe you should of just ended with the above statement... the rest you had to say was well... Not so good. In fact, both of your answers would be wrong in regards to answers for my relationships with Alandra and Kyra. They don't have safewords.. and they don't decide what occurs or doesn't occur in the scene with me.

I suggest when you answer questions.. maybe answer them in a manner that is appropriate to your relationship and not project what everyone should do.

Damn! You're so sexy when you're stubborn and unreasonable.

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RE: FAQ: When to use a Signal & Other question - 12/9/2008 5:17:39 PM

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It's okay.. now I understand and have the kind of idea I think what the OP was getting at. How to use a signal confused me, for the only time I would use a signal would be to stop a train or set one moving. I had an idea this could be a thread about train fetishists and trainspotters, but I'\m wrong. So I guess I will try with 'other questions'.

In my almost 3 years on this site many male submissives have written to me addressing me as Mistress. However I list as a submissive, and I guess some people have problems working out what is a Mistress. Therefore I will respond to the question - What is a Mistress?

Mistress is a title used by a dominant female rather like Lady, Goddess, Queen, Princess, and Moderator.

What is a dominant female? A dominant female is a female just in the same way as a submissive female, a swich female, and a vanilla female. She is also known as a domme, and in parts of the Untied States as a dominate female.

However a dominant female is different in that she likes to be dominant. She is not normally submissive, not even to male dominants, and any attempt at getting her to submit may have adverse effects - sudden termination of relationship or interaction, rude words, foul language, and in extreme cases temporary rearrangement of male genitalia and nerve and brain cell activities connected with the processing and management of pain.

The female dominant likes having control in relationships, making decisions, telling others what to do, tying people up, hitting them, humiliating them and oher activities.

The female dominant often looks no different from other women, but sometimes the appearance can be quite different, as many enjoy wearing leather, such as boots, skirts, also corsets, some enjoy being photographed by bits of equipment to show they are dominant, some prefer to hold canes and riding crops and scrunch their face up a bit to produce what is known as a 'domme stare' (also effected by wearing corsets and underwear too tight), and some like to dress up and plaster make up on like glamourous transvestites, but these dommes also usually flash their tits to show they are dominant females.

On CM dominant females have bright red screen names.

(taken from Wikipedia for Dummies)

ETA Untied States is a typo and should be of course United States.

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RE: FAQ: When to use a Signal & Other question - 12/9/2008 5:52:57 PM

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Stella, I certainly hope you save a collections of posts like this. They could make a great BDSM comedy book someday.

Thank you for the laugh.

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RE: FAQ: When to use a Signal & Other question - 12/9/2008 7:20:19 PM

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Remember this is your session.

Really? I never think of it as "My" session. We're both getting something out of it, or should be.

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