Termyn8or
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Hunky is right, write it out. Most likely they will start speaking after the first line, which is when you put your fingers in your ears.
I have also used other techniques. Sometimes I would hit them, not in the face or anything, like in the arm or leg. Other times I just clam up and the conversation may be over. Do it just right and I can have them begging me to finish. I frequently refuse.
I have two friends who are very bad in that respect. It can be very annoying. Though they are vanilla I have considered bringing out my full head harness Bishop style gag and threatening to make them wear it for the duration of their visit. Problem is no beer. Well more for me.
I have also been known to point at the front door. Then I get "It just popped into my head and I said it". At that point I ask them their age, and allude to the fact that act like a five year old. You state that this is not an option in this case. I would recommend severely limiting conversation with the person then. Refuse to talk. Put everything in writing. When they talk, keep typing at the keyboard, and then later after the talk and talk and talk say "What did you say ?". Become a person of very few words.
For one you give them nothing to which to respond, and then when they do, make them think that you didn't listen. They want an audience and have the audacity to think that their opinion trumps your's. They think that what they have to say it the most important thing in the world.
I mean I don't care if they say something so intelligent and it catches your interest, even if they spout off a valid solution to all the world's problems. Let them spend their wind and then say "What did you say ?". They will repeat themselves, and you respond in exactly the same manner.
In other words, share your aggravation with them. Don't get mad, get even. For example, leave a note on the fridge "Good food in the blue containers". They ask what it is, write it down. REFUSE TO SPEAK.
All for now, let me get some beer in me and I'll explain mode two. It helps if you have a loud stereo, just as a hint. Hell I don't need the beer. Whether you hate it or not, when this person is in the room, ALWAYS have the music going, just loud enough so they have to raise their voice to be heard. When they get done (if ever lol) say "What did you say, I was enjoying the music".
Raising your voice, telling them to shutup, even administering a bit of pain is not likely to work. The main goal here is to make them feel lonely, unaccepted, on the outside. Keep your eyes on the prize and you yourself are likely to come up with more effective tactics, as long as you don't forget the goal. Make this person feel alone, with others. That is the most effective plan, I guarantee it.
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