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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 10/31/2008 4:59:35 PM   
Barelily


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Status: offline 		I am friends with one person whos a member of CM in real life. Mostly we chat, trade ideas, show eachother things we've found.
If it was someone I worked with but wasn't friends with....I'd take the cautious approach and out of respect for their privacy not say anything.
Would it make me nervous or see them in a differant way? No...I don't view the lifestyle as diferant then any other lifestyle.
With that said, if I saw that this person was struggling with something through a post or such and I thought I could help, I might be brave enough to send them a message offering such.
It would depend on who the person was and what kind of person they were.

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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 10/31/2008 5:10:17 PM   
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The complaintant need not even be the individual with whom you interact.  It can be anyone that may be witness to what is said or done, and feels offended as a result.
 
Blame the trial lawyers.
 
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Bingo, which is why I wouldn't appreciate it at all if someone put a flyer for an "event" on my desk, as another poster mentioned.

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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 10/31/2008 5:15:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I got contacted on here one time by a person that I had worked with, but do not work with any more.  I declined to contact him, since I'm still not "out" to alot of people.  If I were interested in the person, I might answer on here, and once we talked and got to know each other better, I'd meet with him or her without a question.  But I'd do my contacting on here and not at work.

As far as the sue happy environment, I learned first hand that you don't need to say something to a person to get jammed up.  I once was flirting with a woman, who stated that she wouldn't have vaginal intercourse with me.  (I won't get into the reason)  I told her, I don't want to fuck you, I just want to eat your pussy for a few hours.  She laughed, I laughed, she left.  She was telling a friend of hers the story later on, and another woman, who wasn't even part of the conversation, overheard the story, and reported ME for sexual harassment.  The woman that I was speaking to stood up for me with HR, but I was still in trouble for a little while.

Even now, I don't flirt at work. 

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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 10/31/2008 6:42:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd think or say nothing of it, I rarely socialize with those I work with. 

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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 10/31/2008 7:35:58 PM   
flower2007


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ORIGINAL: panthersub

If you knew that someone you work with is on here, how would you react to it?


I'm posting on a BDSM board and my profile says I'm a virgin.  Isn't it obvious how I'd react?  I work in a fairly laid-back office, no HR in sight.  We joke about S&M and bondage - in fact, because of my position, people joke that I must like pain.  But for them to know the truth?  No thanks.

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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 10/31/2008 7:47:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: panthersub

If you knew that someone you work with is on here, how would you react to it? More so if it is inevitable that you can't not see them on a daily basis? Would it make you uncomfortable, nervous, excited?


Two years ago, I had only been working at my place of employment for about a week when I took my new supervisor with Daddy and me to DC's LeatherFest event in Thomas Circle.  Everyone there was pretty open about their "quirks" and my supervisor was openly gay, so I told her about my lifestyle.  She thought it was pretty interesting, so I asked her if she wanted to see what it was about.  She said ok, and Daddy met her and slapped her ass as part of their first meeting.  It was weird, but funny.  We had lunch, talked, and went to the event.  After that, I got her interested in the boards here, and she created a profile, and met a few nice people she became friends with on here.  She never really took the step into real time play, but had fun with her online buddies.  She knew everything, read my journal, played on the P&RS threads with me, and it was fun.

It didn't bother me then, but having my new co-workers (who are far less "open") knowing my business now would be uncomfortable.

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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 10/31/2008 7:48:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: panthersub

If you knew that someone you work with is on here, how would you react to it? More so if it is inevitable that you can't not see them on a daily basis? Would it make you uncomfortable, nervous, excited?

I suspect my employees would think it to explain a lot!  LOL

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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 10/31/2008 8:42:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		i had a cousin on here.  don't know if she accidentally ran across my profile or not, but it's odd that her is gone, lol.  no biggie, so it runs in the family!
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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 10/31/2008 10:14:54 PM   
theobserver


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Status: offline 		If I saw someone online in this community that I worked with?

I would not think anything of it, because I have a non conventional job. I'd think she/he were just doing research. 

Edit: but if it was a relative, I would just shrug it off, because it's their business. I'm not the one to judge or relay what they do to anyone else. As for them seeing me, well they know I'm Karazy so people would just say ... "Oh that's just her being ... her"


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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 11/1/2008 12:29:37 AM   
came4U


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I  mind my business, as I would hope/expect them to do the same.  It is the mature thing to do.

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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 11/1/2008 12:40:08 AM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		I've seen people on here that I've met under various circumstances; some I acknowledge knowing, others not.  As I don't post a photo, it'd be pretty unlikely for most to identify me. 
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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 11/1/2008 7:09:51 AM   
MidMichCowboy


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Status: offline 		I don't allow my work life to intermingle very much with my personal life. Been there, done that and paid the price.
I feel no need to strut my views around. I will no longer date someone from work. Work is where I make the money to support family and myself.
My personal life is for fulfilling the rest of my needs.
I need both. I can't let one wreck the other. If I ran into someone from work having a profile on here, I would play ignorant. Simple.



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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 11/1/2008 9:08:34 AM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: panthersub

If you knew that someone you work with is on here, how would you react to it? More so if it is inevitable that you can't not see them on a daily basis? Would it make you uncomfortable, nervous, excited?

While none of those that I work with are actually members on here, there are very few that do not know of my little quirks; so, If I was to see one of them on here, I would probably high five them.

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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 11/2/2008 12:35:59 PM   
SubbieLilPetGirl


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Status: offline 		I found someone on here and I used to work with her. I was shocked when I saw her here and yet relieved at the same time. Now we are even closer than when we were coworkers. We hang out, hell, we even talk to each others Dominants from time to time. It's always great to have lifestyle friends, and even better whenever you find someone you already know in the lifestyle. 

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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 11/2/2008 4:30:43 PM   
FaithBlue


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Status: offline 		The new ex-husband posted on here a few times this summer about an online relationship he's had for over a year and a half. I don't think he knows I'm on here, wouldn't matter if he did.

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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 11/2/2008 6:48:25 PM   
Sandyshores29718


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A lot of my co workers know, but then again they don't.  Depending on the person and how close I am to them would mean if I messaged them or not. More than likely I wouldn't however.

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RE: Knowing someone on here? - 11/3/2008 8:29:11 PM   
worshippingyou


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ORIGINAL: Rover

I would be very wary about anything that could be brought into the workplace.  It could become the unintential basis for dismissal if it's portrayed as some sort of harrassment.
 
If they contacted me first, I'd invite them to the next munch.  Short of that, I'd keep my mouth shut.
 
But that's just me.
 
John


I agree, John.  I'd be very shy about bringing up the subject, but it's quite possible that the other person wouldn't be merely shy or embarassed, but perhaps mortified.

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