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VivaciousSub -> RE: Inflicting pain vs receiving it (10/22/2008 6:10:38 PM)

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There are times when I'm in emotional pain and do not want to be touched under any circumstances, and by the same token I love a good beating if I'm feeling emotionally "stuck" on something and finding that I can't exorcise the demons on my own. In that case, a good spanking/caning/whipping can literally shove me beyond the stuck point and in some way helps me verbalize that which I'm feeling. Even if verbalizing is "ow! FUCKER!". [:D]

I find it very cleansing and cathartic in a way.



WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Inflicting pain vs receiving it (10/22/2008 7:36:43 PM)

I'm sadomaso, and I've done both given and recieved it to find a little relief for the moment.

I have inflicted physical pain upon myself to simply cope with mental pain at the moment.  Happens from time to time.   Still this is just a coping thing, not something to avoid emotional pain itself.  

I have inflicted pain upon to release stress and mental pain before as well.

At one time, I posted a detail list about all the different reasons why I have engaged in Sadistic or Masochistic pain.   It's rather varied for a number of reasons.  No one single reason, just different ones.

Regarding if this is healthy or not, it can go either way, depending upon the situation and people involved.

This activitity can be healthy just as much as it can become harmful.   It can also be like walking on a fine line between healthy and harmful as well.

There is physical harm limits and levels and mental harm limits as well. 





Esclava2one -> RE: Inflicting pain vs receiving it (10/22/2008 8:27:50 PM)

i do not want pain for emotional issues, i try to deal with that head on and  work it out.  If i am unable handle it at the time then i store until i am better able to cope, probably not a good practice, but works for me. Now when stressed beat the hell out of me and i am good for a while.



littletia -> RE: Inflicting pain vs receiving it (10/23/2008 3:59:20 AM)


I'll give it to a girl but I like it better to be a sub for a man must be the putting me in my knees and pulling my hair has always been a turn on! I know thats not real pain! Its just the pain that hurts so good!




little Tia



DommeChains -> RE: Inflicting pain vs receiving it (10/23/2008 6:15:40 AM)

I will make jokes about releasing frustration/stress through pounding on a sub/bottom thoroughly but, in reality, I refrain from so doing.  I know from personal experience what happens to me when I do vent my emotional distress onto another through physical means and it is not an aspect of myself I choose to indulge ever again.  I find other avenues to vent my emotional distress that do not unleash my inner demons.



SayaNereida -> RE: Inflicting pain vs receiving it (10/23/2008 8:16:13 AM)

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What say yall - doms, do you release your emotional pain by inflicting pain on others? Subs, do you seek release from emotional pain by having pain inflicted on you?


Personally, I find I do most of my deep emotional processing in an altered or subconscious state (sleep or meditation).  The infliction or inflicting of pain allows either or both to enter an altered state, thereby 'forcing' the emotional pain to a place where it can be processed.

The phrasing of 'use to release' implies, to me, avoidance, and from my point of view we are not trying to avoid feeling or dealing with the pain but to shift the focus so that it can be processed and does not become so overwhelming and negatively affect/effect those around us and the things we do in the rest of our life. 

Saya



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