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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 7:10:38 AM   
LadyLupineNYC


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I have a daughter who is 5'10" and frequently wears heels. Doesn't make her a dominant personality or a domme sexually.


Yes but how old is she?
 

*snip*


What does age have to do with it?


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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 7:54:24 AM   
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*twitch*

domiNANT


*double twitch*

I wear heels all the time, mostly because I am only 4ft 11 and a little bit. I am just about to run off to Master and tell him that I am now Dominant because of my heels.

I never knew thats all that was needed.

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 8:00:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		I went to a party last night. It was a private house party/cook out. I wore jeans, a white button down shirt.... and FLIP FLOPS!! damn I guess I need to turn in my international uber dom card...... *sighs*

Clothes do not make a person dominant, I could dress the OP in leather/latex, and towering heels and walk her into a hotel, that would not make her dominant.

*shakes head* wow heels in Vegas, who would have thunk it?

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 8:03:54 AM   
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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 8:55:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

*twitch*

domiNANT

You are wrong and the OP is right---after all she grew up in a dominate family, she should know!

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 8:59:38 AM   
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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 10:42:39 AM   
zakkan


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Status: offline 		So what will a switch wear? One heel? 

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 11:02:46 AM   
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So what will a switch wear? One heel? 


Of course not, we wear platforms

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 11:02:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: UmbraDomina

I went to a party last night. It was a private house party/cook out. I wore jeans, a white button down shirt.... and FLIP FLOPS!! damn I guess I need to turn in my international uber dom card...... *sighs*


I can usually be found in crocs or flip flops, personally!  I tend to call my high heels my "sitdown shoes"... I tend to wear them only for a scene or on an outing where I have someone to serve me while I sit comfortably showing them off.  Lovely to look at, not particularly functional.

Other than those times, I go comfy.  I've foot issues from surgeries in the Army, so I baby my feet.

So my domestic gets to kiss my crocs.  Gives me an entirely different enjoyment than when I do a heel-oriented scene or kissing... they're so not glamorous or stereotypical... so ugly, comfy and functional... that to see a sub bent down kissing them pleases me and gives me giggles, both.

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 11:54:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Based on her height and wearing heels, I would guess that.... she's a tall woman who wears heels. My thigh-high black platform heels don't make me dominant. Sexy yes, dominant no.

When I wear them it's not superiority. It's about I really like how my legs look in really tall heels and Val doesn't seem to mind the view either. Plus, if every woman who wore tall heels was a dominant or expressing superiority, there wouldn't be a shortage - more like a surplus.

Plus, it's very easy to be fooled when trying to guess who is what in the workplace or other situations. Different enviroments bring out different aspects of one's personality.

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 12:07:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: susie

*double twitch*

I wear heels all the time, mostly because I am only 4ft 11 and a little bit. I am just about to run off to Master and tell him that I am now Dominant because of my heels.

I never knew thats all that was needed.


I'm just a little over 5 feet and wear heels a good bit of the time.   I guess this settles it.   Thanks for enlightening me. 

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 12:30:03 PM   
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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 1:14:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I live in stiletto's. 4' minimum and I am 5'8".At work I always have on tailored suits, often pinstriped. It means nothing other than I like to look a certain way at work and I have worn heels since high school.

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ORIGINAL: knees2you

 Knees here.
 
Growing up submissive in a Dominate family
I got to see what Dominance was all about.
 
But I didn't really ever get to see it out in the vanilla world. I couldn't tell who might of been and who wasn't Dominate?
 
Yesturday at work their was this Woman  who was probablly 5'8" tall. With her heels she was probablly
6'2" tall.
 
I work at the Bellagio Hotel, so alot of men would had seen her!
 
Would some of you consider that she might be Dominate?
 
How do you recognize Dominance in the workforce or vanilla world?
 
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< Message edited by Aynne88 -- 9/28/2008 1:16:47 PM >

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 4:07:06 PM   
mbes


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Status: offline 		This is funny, I've started wearing heels again since getting my collar. I haven't worn any in years and they're hell on the feet, but damn don't they look good for him?
Oh, and at work, I damn well want to look dominant. It's only at home (or out with him) that I'm anything else.

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 4:51:57 PM   
tweedydaddy


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Status: offline 		We have been Dominant for all our married life and have had dozens of pets, we also have three children who have never seen a bloody thing. I don't even want to guess what your upbringing was like. We stayed at the Bellagio last year, no one saw anything there either!

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 8:08:03 PM   
auburnvixen


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ORIGINAL: CalifChick
Unfortunately, Domdar and subdar is not as reliable as gaydar.


Too true!

Everywhere I've worked, people have kidded with me about being Dominant, and though these were vanillas making jokes, I do come across as pretty intimidating to some people. I always chuckled to myself and thought "Little do they know..."

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 8:30:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sitting in a sleazy snack bar
Feet in sickly soggy soles
Slipping on carpet, slipping on lino
Think I'll sign off the dole

Cos the doms on the Tyne are size nine, size nine
The doms on the Tyne are size nine
The doms on the Tyne are size nine, size nine
The doms on the Tyne are size nine

Could a cobbler catch a Collarme moderator
Could a cobbler comprehend
That a Collarme cobbler is just a shoe repairer
Who can't be dominant, but shoes to be a friend

Cos the doms on the Tyne are size nine, size nine
The doms on the Tyne are size nine
The doms on the Tyne are size nine, size nine
The doms on the Tyne are size nine

Wear your heels tomorrow but your sandals don't forget to bring
Presently it's doms and subs together everybody do their thing

Cos the doms on the Tyne are size nine, size nine
The doms on the Tyne are size nine
The doms on the Tyne are size nine, size nine
The doms on the Tyne are size nine

We can be dominate, we can be submissive
We can have a scene on the wall
If someone thinks you're dominant cos you walk in high heels
Just slap it down and slap it on their smalls

Cos the doms on the Tyne are size nine, size nine
The doms on the Tyne are size nine
The doms on the Tyne are size nine, size nine
The doms on the Tyne are size nine

- with apologies to Lindisfarne

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/28/2008 8:58:18 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you



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I have a daughter who is 5'10" and frequently wears heels. Doesn't make her a dominant personality or a domme sexually.


Yes but how old is she?
 

*snip*




What does age have to do with it?


If she was under 18 then that scares alot of people.
 
It felt like it to me. How many can tell when some is depressed?
 
Now getting to the real question~~~>
 
How do you recognize Dominance in the workforce or vanilla world?


quote:

*shakes head* wow heels in Vegas, who would have thunk it?

 
Always, knees


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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/29/2008 12:14:08 AM   
susie


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Status: offline 		As many have said before dominance in the workplace, or the outside world for that matter, is very different from dominance in a relationship. I hold a senior management / Director roll in a company where I control, by nature of the job, many people. I dress smartly, wear heels because of the roll. I chair meetings and control the company's finance, administration and marketing.

Then I go home to my Master where I am totally submissive to him. Whatever happens in my worklife he is always in control and my dominance in the workplace makes him realise even more how much I am submitting to him.

The only way to tell if someone is dominant is to get to know them.

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RE: Seeing Bdsm in the workforce/vanilla world? - 9/29/2008 12:36:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hey susie, are you hiring??? LOL

I'm a motivated team player whose only weakness is I work too hard! haha

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