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RE: doing something wrong? - 12/10/2005 2:26:33 PM

Wulfchyld

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Lacyann,

What seems to be a constant norm on the profiles is a rundown of what your “hip” to. What I “think” may be the problem is the open-endedness of the profiles, Dominates and submissive both. Many profiles I have viewed… I have only been here for a short times… are not very specific.
What I would like to see, I hope others agree, is specifics.

1.Be very clear on what you want.
2.Be very clear on what you don’t want.
3.Post a pic that is you.
4.If you have been trained, do tell.
5.If you intend to train, how so?
6.What environment will h/she be coming to?
7.What environment wont you got to?
8.Do you have a contract?
9.Other than what is listed, what limits do you have?
10.What is the payoff? What does the sub expect or what does the Dom expect?
11.The sub chooses you. If you chose the sub you wouldn’t be here right now. You would command and they would pack and be on your door.
12.The Dom accepts you. Regardless of your body shape, convictions, or intelligence you are meeting the Dom’s criteria.
13.Keep in mind that if all that counted was on the inside, welfare would be full of super models.
14.Do not B.S. anyone. If you deceive your way into a Dom’s graces, or manipulate a sub into your life, you will only cause pain to you and the Dom/sub.
15.Use some sense. A breach of contract is a breach. Walk away.

Feel free to add to this. There are good “sensible” people here that have shown that they are eager to help one another.

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RE: doing something wrong? - 7/19/2006 12:13:52 AM

Caretakr

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Look at the bright side, rudeness is an honest way to show someone is not worthy of note. They allow for an easy decision not to bother with them, saving you time.

Isn't that nice of them?

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RE: doing something wrong? - 7/19/2006 1:43:14 AM

SusanofO

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Wow, this was helpful, Wulfchyld (and I am not the OP, but have been wondering about this). Thanks.

- Susan

< Message edited by SusanofO -- 7/19/2006 1:45:31 AM >

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RE: doing something wrong? - 7/19/2006 1:53:39 AM

mons

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greetings

it is sad but true some of the folks not many here feel the need to belittle someone
becasue they themselves feel small and to make there their own person feel good they are the grown up bullies of the cm boards. it is not you it is just something they love to do. remember this the very true dominant males and female are nice here and will help you all they can they are true watch the ones who have nothing kind to say stay aways from them and you will be fine
take care

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RE: doing something wrong? - 7/19/2006 6:09:30 AM

eruditegirl1

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Good Morning lacyann, I sympathize with the frustrations you are feeling....I was there just last week....at first I thought I was being to picky in wanting all that I sought in a Dom...was even considering just playing casually with an awesome Dom I meet here on Collar....even though I knew it wasn't part of me....just because I was becoming inpatient....BUT...(there is always a but).....what I was doing was focusing so much on this...that I almost missed a wonderful man...not here on this site...but right in my own backyard....so my advice from personal experience....is to look every where...you never know where you will find someone....

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RE: doing something wrong? - 7/20/2006 3:09:20 AM

bandit25

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lacyann, you find rude people everywhere and you find nice people everywhere...such is life. Just be open...you nevere know what you may find. I don't necessarily agree with ES...you may not get as many offers as you'd like, but you still get plenty.

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RE: doing something wrong? - 7/20/2006 3:37:54 AM

wandering4u

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Unfortunately, rudeness does seem to rule the internet. That being said, there are many out there that are wonderful people. Unfortunately, you have to wade through the dross before you find the gold!
Hang in there!

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RE: doing something wrong? - 7/20/2006 5:49:33 AM

Roisseynpromise

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ignore ignorance!

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RE: doing something wrong? - 7/20/2006 10:08:50 AM

badpaliden

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WOW!!! now I sure dont understand! either this is the worlds worst case of puter lag or some ones having fun.. this thread was started in Dec of 05 and your still going at it!!??? wow!

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RE: doing something wrong? - 7/20/2006 10:10:18 AM

michaelGA2

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all i can say is "WELCOME TO THE JUNGLE"

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RE: doing something wrong? - 7/20/2006 10:32:42 AM

losttreasure

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quote:

ORIGINAL: badpaliden

WOW!!! now I sure dont understand! either this is the worlds worst case of puter lag or some ones having fun.. this thread was started in Dec of 05 and your still going at it!!??? wow!

I wondered when someone was going to mention that.

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