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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/20/2008 4:23:29 PM

DominaErotica00

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I guess I did not take your comment as lightly because I feel this post is dealing with a serious topic which strikes up good conversation. Not to say that I don't have a sense of humor though..If you don't get into the "key of the reason of your being" etc..then that's a personal choice I have no problems with that. Yes the statement is heavy but then again so is the mind sometimes....had to go there.

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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/20/2008 4:54:16 PM

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I do have a sense of humor, just did not mean it lightly when I posted the question or comment here..the keys to the reason of being, keys to fulfillment and a positive journey are basically going down the same road...they aren't separated...I agree. Happy spankings!

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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/20/2008 8:48:30 PM

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I did not mean to post twice basically the same comment on My above reply to Califchic...for some reason I can't delete the last reply. So please disregard it...

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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/20/2008 9:38:49 PM

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In My experience and opinion the psychological aspects of the B&D S/M Lifestyle is more important than the physical...as it's said free your mind and the rest will follow! Although having fetishes based upon actual physical scenarios is erotic, fun and sometimes entertaining and I really do enjoy them.To relinquish your mind and give in to being lead down a road to self discovery as a submissive person is the key to fulfillment and a positive experience. Especially when traveling on that journey with someone who understands and follows this way of thinking.

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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/20/2008 9:56:23 PM

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To be honest with you, I try to not over think this crap at times. There are mental and physical aspects to any relationship.   At times, I simply don't give a fuck about the whole mental deal, I want to take and fuck their brains out like a wild animal.. feel their skin, body, sweat and such beneath me.   I might simply want to hear them scream and moan and all that.   The last thing that's on my mind is how far inside her head I am.

There are moments when I'm into the whole mental aspects. Fucking with the mind, or exploring and going into deep places.   There are times when I enjoy deep mental bonding without Sex, S&M and BDSM involved.

I think some people overthink this crap a little too deep at times. That it's a mix of different things.   At least from my experiences, this mix is what works best. It's natural.   Frankly if I thought about things like this to these levels all the time, I'd become a fucking basket case worried if I was inside her head and to what level all the time.

Actually, there are times when the connection is awesome. However, there are momemts when having a Disconnection can be hot as hell. Where really, I'm not too worried about shit going on inside my partners head.

BDSM play has not really been a very difficult or confusing thing for me to over think.   Actually, I've done a hell of a lot of introspection and thinking about my past.   A few things make a little more sense to me, and I've sorted out a few issues out.   Let's just say, I don't have as many limits or hangups as I once did.

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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/21/2008 1:27:37 AM

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I don't know so much about psychology but atmospehere and the senses are a big part of things for me.

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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/21/2008 10:29:09 AM

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I find a scene which links the phsyical and psychological has more depth of experience for me, but frankly sometimes all I want is rough, kinky sex so hard I can't think for a week after. It's ok to like both, right?

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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/21/2008 11:15:48 AM

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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/21/2008 3:31:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile2

To be honest with you, I try to not over think this crap at times. There are mental and physical aspects to any relationship.   At times, I simply don't give a fuck about the whole mental deal, I want to take and fuck their brains out like a wild animal.. feel their skin, body, sweat and such beneath me.   I might simply want to hear them scream and moan and all that.   The last thing that's on my mind is how far inside her head I am.

There are moments when I'm into the whole mental aspects. Fucking with the mind, or exploring and going into deep places.   There are times when I enjoy deep mental bonding without Sex, S&M and BDSM involved.

I think some people overthink this crap a little too deep at times. That it's a mix of different things.   At least from my experiences, this mix is what works best. It's natural.   Frankly if I thought about things like this to these levels all the time, I'd become a fucking basket case worried if I was inside her head and to what level all the time.

Actually, there are times when the connection is awesome. However, there are momemts when having a Disconnection can be hot as hell. Where really, I'm not too worried about shit going on inside my partners head.

BDSM play has not really been a very difficult or confusing thing for me to over think.   Actually, I've done a hell of a lot of introspection and thinking about my past.   A few things make a little more sense to me, and I've sorted out a few issues out.   Let's just say, I don't have as many limits or hangups as I once did.

Look there is nothing wrong with wanting to just screw someones brains out and get off, I am totally down for that too. I am just posting about a specific subject on the depths of psychology in scene play. I understand some people are not made to be wired to the mental aspect on a frequent or consistent basis. I just so happen to be one of many that likes to think deeper about this and can still function on a day to day level...If we all thought alike this world would be a very boring and colorless place with no diverse conversations and lives to speak about and to learn from, that's the grace of expanding our horizons and elevating.

I am not here to put anyone down for their desires and ways of doing things, I just like to hear where people are coming from...In My personal opinion I find it unfulfilling to try and get to know people without at least wanting some kind of connection, that's just Me. Everyone is entitled to their opinion......I actually do have alot of fun and at times thoroughly entertained when in scene play so not every instance is 100% hard core psychology, that balance is necessary too. I believe in Living free...Loving hard....Laughing alot!!

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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/21/2008 5:21:51 PM

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timing is everything. last weeekend i needed to feel every stroke to help ease hormones. the physical release was the need that my tops filled. when i am getting cut, and i know that i am safe. the ferral portion of my mind will release, and it is done. beyond flying.

a couple of weeks ago, four needles and i was cashed. i cried like a baby. i needed that emotional release. every aspect, every naunace sets within the flow of the energy, the wants and needs of the individuals at that moment.

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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/22/2008 2:47:24 AM

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I've recently been reminded how important both aspects are to me...i need to feel the mental/emotional connection before embarking on the physical side of BDSM. Bottoming doesn't fulfill me in the same way as submission to my Dominant does.

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ORIGINAL: DominaErotica00

In My experience and opinion the psychological aspects of the B&D S/M Lifestyle is more important than the physical...as it's said free your mind and the rest will follow! Although having fetishes based upon actual physical scenarios is erotic, fun and sometimes entertaining and I really do enjoy them.To relinquish your mind and give in to being lead down a road to self discovery as a submissive person is the key to fulfillment and a positive experience. Especially when traveling on that journey with someone who understands and follows this way of thinking. It is important to delve into the key to your reason of being...

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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/22/2008 1:07:26 PM

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In My experience and opinion the psychological aspects of the B&D S/M Lifestyle is more important than the physical...

There is a physical side? LOL

I'm with you, for BDSM, it's the meaning behind the actions, not the actions themselves. For thrill seeking, kink and swinger exploration, the actions may hold higher value than for the hardcore BDSMer.

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RE: How important is the scenes psychological aspect to... - 9/22/2008 3:41:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: DominaErotica00
In My experience and opinion the psychological aspects of the B&D S/M Lifestyle is more important than the physical...

There is a physical side? LOL

I'm with you, for BDSM, it's the meaning behind the actions, not the actions themselves. For thrill seeking, kink and swinger exploration, the actions may hold higher value than for the hardcore BDSMer.

The meaning behind the actions is exactly My point, that's what I been trying to convey. But is seems that those who are not that concerned with a deeper level of BDSM will look at this posts subject as "over thinking, crap and too much to do".
I agree, strickly thrill seekers and those that are just in it to tie someone one up and screw their brains out is missing the point. Like I mentioned before I can enjoy strapping on and getting down to business too, but I have a desire for something of more substance.

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