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LATEXBABY64 -> THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/18/2008 7:16:03 PM)

We talk about experince levels and what people and couples bring to the lifestyle

a lot of people say age does not matter. Some people say you can have experince at any age  (jack of all trades master or mistress of none ) any how 

in the connection process   dom domme sub slave switch  or IT  for those that are bound to come up with some new label  What area of all generations do find it most hard  or easy to comunicate with    younger doms dommes or older doms dommes  or subs  and why are they   difficult to talk to or easy




missturbation -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/18/2008 7:19:08 PM)

I get on well with most people. There'sgood and bad in all ages, types etc.




CruelDesires -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/18/2008 7:41:58 PM)

I've met 18 year olds who communicate better then people 2 or 3 times or more their age so communication is not that much of an issue. The issue is can they comprehend . Usually that level of comprehension only comes with age and wisdom earned thru experiance. Then again, I've met people older then me who have lived full and fruitful lives, who are still dumb as a box of rocks. [;)] YMMV

C-D




missturbation -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/18/2008 7:56:49 PM)

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Then again, I've met people older then me who have lived full and fruitful lives, who are still dumb as a box of rocks.

Objection!!
The dumb one is the one who fills the box with rocks. I mean really, why would ya? [:D]




WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/18/2008 8:47:06 PM)

I personally don't buy into the Generation bullshit stereotyping!   There are people in my own generation I don't relate to, people in older and younger generations that I don't relate to.   Generation has nothing to do with it.  There are immature people in all age ranges.   There are people in their 20's, 30's, 40's, and 50's and above that act like spoiled little kids, or are assholes or whatever else.

I don't look at age or generation as being an issue.  Some people have closed minds about shit and are very wrapped up in their own generation for their own good at times.

The Generation Gaps and generational thinking is basically another form of social mind brainwashing and mental conditioning that is an an ill by product of Commercialized Marketing on people.   TV ads geared towards promoting people to strongly identified with being in this or that generation.   Books on the subject and all kinds of things to target groups of people based on age.

It's a stereotype mindset that many people have been brainwashed to believe in this magical pill. 

An Asshole at age 50 is no different compared to an asshole at age 20.  One in the same.   Now, somebody want to hang onto living their life like they are stuck in the 70's, 80's or whatever else.   It's basically the fact, they are caught up on trying to hold onto and relieve thier own past on a daily basis.   Fucking people bitching about today not being like it was 20 years ago or whatever else.   Come on get with the program people.  Society is dynamic. 

I really don't have a problem talking with even a 27 year old or a 77 year old.  Sure the topics are somewhat different because of personal tastes or interests.  However, I listen to newer music and I'm into things going on currently in our society.  My experiences are different compared to both these people.  In fact, I believe I have just as much to learn from a 27 or 77 as they do from me.

Experience, personality and etc are bigger factores compared to age.   In fact many teenagers are pretty smart.   They have family memebers that have gone through things.   Teenagers and kids observe the experiences people around them are going through.  They pick up and learn a hell of a lot.

Ok, enough of a rant.  I'll let everybody get back to thier socially brainwashed conditioned state of mind. 




susie -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 12:10:38 AM)

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

I get on well with most people. There'sgood and bad in all ages, types etc.


Agree there are good and bad in all ages. It would be nice if more people looked at the individual instead of categorising everyone into little boxes. Communication comes from both parties so you need to make just as much of an effort as the other party.




candystripper -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 12:19:28 AM)

I dunno.  I think an asshole at 20 has a chance of outgrowing it that the 50 year old probably does not.
 
As for people...well...I have always liked all sorts.  Everyone has something positive to offer...and many will, given an opportunity.
 
candystripper  [sm=pole.gif]




lally3 -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 12:53:56 AM)

im with everyone else on this - its not age its attitude.

i think that since the bdsm explosion into clubs and on the net all age groups are emmersing themselves across the spectrum.  young people are picking up new experiences the same as people quite a bit older.  older people are 'finding' themselves a niche here and have the same experience levels as those much younger.  its possible that an older person might have a different perspective simply because they are further along the growth and change curve and have sussed out the relationship package according to their needs a little more, but again thats largely due to attitude too.

i think its a mistake to assume that someone of 50 lets say has a greater understanding of BDSM than someone who is 30.  if anything its the older ones who try to pass themselves over as enormously experienced simply because of their age, when in fact their experience levels are no greater than someone 20 years younger than them.

maturity or even emotional intelligence isnt something that comes with greater age - whatever the experience levels.




ramalamaDingDong -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 1:26:10 AM)

attitude counts more than anything.  




LATEXBABY64 -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 5:18:00 AM)

they say the roles that define our persona are defined and engrained at  that age

some say by 30 is when we really find out what who we are.  can a young dom of twenty take care of a sub of 40 or 50  i mean reality bites but the truth of it is
you are what you are some say the traits happen early on




RCdc -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 6:02:32 AM)

Hello LB
 
There is no generation harder or easier.  There are people of all ages that are either good communicators and compatable or not with me and that is it.
 
On the issues regarding younger caring for older - I will give you the example of care-givers.  There are plenty of people of varying ages who care for the well being of those who cannot.  Age has no relevance LB - I know you want to believe that, but it just isn't true in reality.  Young people look after their parents or even partners who cannot every day all over the world.
 
the.dark.




scarlethiney -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 6:10:19 AM)

I get along well with the majority people regardless of age, those that act foolish or need drama I ignore, they just aren't worth my time and energy.
I do think the people who seem to be the best communicators are already "good listeners", it isn't all about them it's about truly understanding what others are saying and acknowledging that.
Age has nothing to do with it...................until someone acts foolish then every one wants to know why they are behaving the way they are at that age.


scarlet




Dnomyar -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 8:30:02 AM)

Age is not the issue. Education is. That is the root of the age issue.




KnightofMists -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 8:59:33 AM)

I find it easest to talk to Open-minded Intelligent people... AGE is irrelevant.

The only thing that is harder to talk to the than a Close-minded stupid person... is one that is Closed-minded and Intelligent.




IvyMorgan -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 9:21:26 AM)

Age doesn't matter in terms of talking to someone, interacting etc, as others mentioned, but... it does matter to me as far as dating goes.  I have age limits.  Just like I have preferences for other things.

And experience really has nothing to do with age.  But, it's so much fun to have people look at you like there's no way you know what you're doing and prove em wrong.  (On the flip side, a 22 year old DM does not command anywhere near as much respect/authority as the 50 y.o.  The number of people who *didn't* listen to me cos "what do you know about it, kid" was annoying.)




Dnomyar -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 9:54:57 AM)

Whiplash inform me what I have to learn from you. All I see so far is a lot of words thrown about.




VivaciousSub -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 10:28:42 AM)

As for the age/experience thing, I'm reminded of something my great-grandfather used to ask people who bragged about how many years of experience they had:

"Do you have 20 years of experience? Or one year of experience, 20 times?"




FRSguy -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 10:35:34 AM)

I dont care how old they are as long as they consistantly agree or disagree with me.  If they disagree with me thats really great because I can learn from the aposing points of view as long as they dont get shitty about it.




Lynnxz -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 10:36:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Whiplash inform me what I have to learn from you. All I see so far is a lot of words thrown about.


D you've made it pretty clear on several occasions you don't 'want' to listen to the younger gen. There's no sense in him informing you on anything.




MadRabbit -> RE: THe Older Younger and what ever generations (9/19/2008 10:39:34 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Whiplash inform me what I have to learn from you. All I see so far is a lot of words thrown about.


D you've made it pretty clear on several occasions you don't 'want' to listen to the younger gen. There's no sense in him informing you on anything.



The irony is to his viewpoint is, that from where I sit, all I see is consistent one line posts that never have any real substance to them. I would be interested in being informed of exactly what I can learn from an older man like D when nothing is ever offered.




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