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The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/6/2008 1:36:47 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		I just had a moment this morning that completely made me smile.  A certain someone, whom I have posted about before with the same dopey grin I have on my face now, did something that counted more than all the drama and platitudes he could have ever offered.  I told him of my plans for the evening to go out with a friend.  He stopped me in mid thought, to remind me of the very bad weather that is expected here tonight.  He asked me to stay in because it was to be so stormy and even unpredictable.  He wanted to know I was home safe and snuggled up riding the storm out.  I promised I would be very careful if I went out and would cancel my plans or go home early if things deteriorated while I was out.  He agreed, but urged me in no uncertain terms to keep myself safe for him.

No one has ever taken such a concern over me before.  It meant a great deal.  And I could just list more and more of such things.  My question, and reason for posting other than just to flash that goofy smile again, is  what kinds of little things does your partner do that mean more than they probably think?  In what ways do these things reinforce what you already know?  Does it ever just take your breath away and have your realizing how blessed you are?

lovingpet
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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/6/2008 5:40:26 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		He does lots of little things but I think he knows how much they mean to me but they still surprise me each and every time since I haven't had anyone ever do those types of things for me in many many many years.

He just takes my breath away each time to know someone cares for me so much to take the time to do those things for me.

He'll call me if he thinks I'm even slightly having a problem or just because he wants to talk to me.

He'll notice and remember the smallest details that I've mentioned or he sees.

And he'll do things for me that I would never expect anyone else to do or even care about.

It's the small things that matter.

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/6/2008 6:13:44 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		My Sir notices me    -    he actually looks at ME!   I came in Thursday and he immediately asked me what was wrong - i had just had to put one of my dogs down, and he noticed that something was wrong.   It doesn't sound like much - but i was married for 13 years to a man who wouldn't have seen that if i was crying my eyes out.

He has gone out to get me supplies when i was sick with the 1 week flu.  Ditto with the above scenerio with the ex.

He reads my body language better than i do - and calls me on it.   I still can't get used to the idea that i am so important to this man. I am so used to loving and not having someone reciprocate that it is almost scary.

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/6/2008 6:54:06 PM   
califsue


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Status: offline 		OMG...yes and yes. He just takes my breath away and keeps a smile on my face.
It is amazing the care and love he has for me. Since we don't live together and only see one another on the week-ends I asked him if he missed me during the week. He said he misses me as soon as he walks out the door. And...lovingpet to hear how much happiness you have found and may it continue. 

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/6/2008 6:54:29 PM   
persephonee


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Status: offline 		Funnily enough just that sort of thing happened yesterday.

i was working and was notified that there had been an accident at the sitters and my child had been hurt. No need for details here but everythings just fine now. Once i had the situation under control i texted my phonebook in a group forward to update everyone. This included my two playpartners. Everyone texted me at once in response, but one of my doms called (which is a big no no at work...and he never calls me when im working.) i took the call more out of surprise and fear that he had been hurt at the same time or something. i asked why he called and he said....i just got your text....then he peppered me with questions about the incident, my actions, the outcome and my plans for the future in relation to the incident. He was literally worried. i had never seen such an immediate reaction..and not one this strong. Especially considering that i keep these parts of my life mostly separate if possible...although he has met my um. i was just taken aback i guess. Its been years since anyone but my blood family cared about my um in any significant way, and i was profoundly touched.

He always talks about loving me and being concerned for all parts of my life. And i accepted that but i think i was qualifying it in my head to mean that he cared... but only from a distance..yaddayaddayadda.

He loves me. He cares.

Have i mentioned that im having the bestest year EVER???

just made me smile the rest of the evening...and today....and now.....and.....

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/6/2008 8:16:57 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		Thanks so much for the responses!

I was afraid this thread not going anywhere there for awhile. 

Thanks califsue for your well wishes.  I see no end in sight as things continue to unfold in ways I would not have imgained not that long ago.  I hope those who have those moments of feeling so completely cared for bask in those moments to their fullest.

I am hoping to hear from both sides.  My example happened to have a submissive tenor, but I encourage anyone to join in.  I really do think it is in the small things that make all those words hit home and finally make us able to grasp just how much we truly are cared for and, dare I say, in some cases, loved. 

My sympathies kiwi in losing you dog.  I know how hard that is.  It seems like a small thing, but it is difficult.  Persephonee, hope all is well with the kiddo.

lovingpet 

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/6/2008 8:18:44 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		This was beautiful!  It also speaks to how I often feel these days, even though we are currently not with each other full time. 

lovingpet

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/6/2008 9:54:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		A gazillion a day.  When he makes Dr. Horrible references, when he remembers "my order" at a fast food place.

He bought strawberries tonight to enjoy for our first night in our new place.  Special Kaylee Firefly strawberries.

I'm still not very easy to spoil and really horrible to ask for help outright, but he's taught me it's OK to let someone take care of me and BE spoiled.

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/6/2008 10:18:32 PM   
pixidustpet


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Status: offline 		TheEngineer....calls me mid-day to make sure i'm ok.  knows by looking at me when i'm not telling him things.

took me to get my nails done today even though he hates the smell...sat there making gagging faces (in jest) and told me "when we get home you get beat for torturing me!"

he cares.  he listens.  he loves me and puts up with the massive amounts of bullshit that is my current life.

kitten

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/7/2008 5:12:53 PM   
Midnght


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lovingpet

No one has ever taken such a concern over me before.  It meant a great deal.  And I could just list more and more of such things.  My question, and reason for posting other than just to flash that goofy smile again, is  what kinds of little things does your partner do that mean more than they probably think?  In what ways do these things reinforce what you already know?  Does it ever just take your breath away and have your realizing how blessed you are?

lovingpet


I was going to list some things I've done but I'll just say this. Make sure you let him or her know that you noticed and how you felt. Especially as the relationship gets on in years.

M





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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/7/2008 6:36:39 PM   
AnnaOfAramis


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Status: offline 		Smiles... this girl can think of several things...

The very first day she met her Master... before it was even a thought that he was going to be her Master... we met at a restaurant and, it was raining. After lunch, he walked her to her car under the umbrella, opened the car door, tucked her dress into the car after she had climbed in, stopped and took a look at her tires with a frown and commented that they needed replacing, then shut the door and went to his own car. She thought it was sweet of this man whom she had just met to take so much care with her. Then on the way home, 5 minutes later, he called to say he had forgotten to say to drive carefully and asked her to call him when she reached home. This was something that made this girl feel warm inside and, unbeknownst to her, deepened the seed that had formed in her over lunch that would grow into her desire to be owned by him.

Another thing this girl remembers is that during this early stage before she was considering the possibility of becoming his, we were on IM, and somebody else this girl knew suddenly sent this girl something that startled her and made her gasp. Keep in mind this is IM and he (Master-to-be) couldn't see or hear this girl on the other side of the computer. In mid-sentence, he stopped what he was typing and said "what's wrong?" This girl was shocked! She asked how did he know? He said he felt something from her! She was amazed that he could feel what she felt!

And (this girl will limit herself to just three things so the post doesn't get too long, lol)
she loves when he rests his hand on her head and strokes her hair. Just a little thing, but it conveys so much and makes her feel so his and so loved and cared for.

Thanks for starting this thread- it is pleasant to think of these things and to read from others their special moments too. It's nice to have a positive thread for a change!

regards,

anna

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/7/2008 6:43:02 PM   
shyhuzzy


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Status: offline 		It is the cute little notes you get, that HE did not have to do, that make me smile, and smile more  :)

shy.

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/7/2008 6:47:38 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lovingpet
My question, and reason for posting other than just to flash that goofy smile again, is  what kinds of little things does your partner do that mean more than they probably think?  In what ways do these things reinforce what you already know?  Does it ever just take your breath away and have your realizing how blessed you are?

lovingpet


Fox does things like this all the time. I had my hair cut, and he has asked to brush it every morning since I had it done. He will look over at me, randomly, in public and in private, and say things like "Do you know how beautiful you look right now?" He calls me a million times a day just to let me know he is thinking of me.
The very little things mean the most.

DV


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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/7/2008 8:06:15 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for these very affirming posts!  I hope to continue to read more.  I was very careful to mention that very night how much this gesture meant to me.  He also reads my posts, though he has not written any to my knowledge.

lovingpet

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/8/2008 3:42:47 PM   
Midnght


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Status: offline 		Good job. }:>) Hooray!

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/8/2008 4:57:53 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		Thanks

lovingpet

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/8/2008 7:35:45 PM   
whis31


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Status: offline 		Master just takes my breath away some days, i'm moving and starting a new job in the next week and to knowning how stressed was He took care of my housing needs for both me and my daughter! and because i was concerned about my work clothes (going from a short and t shirt job to professional casual) He took me shopping to help me out, i just about melted on the spot!

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/8/2008 10:30:00 PM   
sistermargaret


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Status: offline 		He is a Master .. i thought that just meant He was good with the whips & floggers. i'm always amazed and goofy grinned when He does those little things too. i'm not at all used to being treated like that. He washes me, like a little girl, after a hard session and that just melts my heart.
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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 2:57:34 AM   
VioletAshes


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Status: offline 		When he loosens my bindings as my hands go purple (I like my hands numb but it worries him...)
 
When He lights my cigarette for me...
 
He asks me how my day was after our kiss and cuddle when He gets home
 
His first "Good Morning My Love" text of the day
 
Too many things to list...

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 6:39:23 AM   
persephonee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lovingpet

Thank you all for these very affirming posts!  I hope to continue to read more.  I was very careful to mention that very night how much this gesture meant to me.  He also reads my posts, though he has not written any to my knowledge.

lovingpet


There are a thousand things at the core on a day to day basis my friends do to ensure that i know im cared for and loved. That one shiney phone call from J  was one thing that happened to me. But there really honestly are things that M does for me that i am grateful for but perhaps am remiss in thanking him for. The little thing that M does for me that means the most is the way he interacts with my anklebiter. That is the most significant and heartfelt way i feel loved and cared for by this partner.

The most common thing he does...is he monitors the clutter of my car and whatnot, keeps me more organised.....im a work in progress and hes not done. Once my car had built up just way too much crap and he noted that and told me clearly...."You wont be playing tonite if you come here and the car is not cleaned out"...and he meant it. As soon as i pulled into the lot, he came over and inspected and ...whew....i passed. i fully expect him to enforce that rule. How bad would that suck to come to the dungeon and have to watch from the corner as everyone else gets scened?? Lets hope i never find out.

Its the day to day grind things that mean the most to me. Over the holiday weekend, M and i were standing outside a coffeeshop and a lady walked by and smiled...she said.."nice to see two people in love" because we were smiling and he had me in his arms as we were chatting and enjoying the day. We thanked her and held in our chuckles until after she was out of earshot. If she had any idea of the beating i had taken 4 hours earlier, her comments would have a distinctly different flavor. You only beat the ones you love, right?

So im sorry to post again, its really not my fault that i have so much love in my life that i have to make multiple posts....(where is the irony icon here??)

kiwi, im so sorry to hear about the loss of your pet. Everyone else, i come back to this thread to feel better about things....Yay Us!!!

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