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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 7:07:56 AM   
lovingpet


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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

Thank you all for these very affirming posts!  I hope to continue to read more.  I was very careful to mention that very night how much this gesture meant to me.  He also reads my posts, though he has not written any to my knowledge.

lovingpet


There are a thousand things at the core on a day to day basis my friends do to ensure that i know im cared for and loved. That one shiney phone call from J  was one thing that happened to me. But there really honestly are things that M does for me that i am grateful for but perhaps am remiss in thanking him for. The little thing that M does for me that means the most is the way he interacts with my anklebiter. That is the most significant and heartfelt way i feel loved and cared for by this partner.

The most common thing he does...is he monitors the clutter of my car and whatnot, keeps me more organised.....im a work in progress and hes not done. Once my car had built up just way too much crap and he noted that and told me clearly...."You wont be playing tonite if you come here and the car is not cleaned out"...and he meant it. As soon as i pulled into the lot, he came over and inspected and ...whew....i passed. i fully expect him to enforce that rule. How bad would that suck to come to the dungeon and have to watch from the corner as everyone else gets scened?? Lets hope i never find out.

Its the day to day grind things that mean the most to me. Over the holiday weekend, M and i were standing outside a coffeeshop and a lady walked by and smiled...she said.."nice to see two people in love" because we were smiling and he had me in his arms as we were chatting and enjoying the day. We thanked her and held in our chuckles until after she was out of earshot. If she had any idea of the beating i had taken 4 hours earlier, her comments would have a distinctly different flavor. You only beat the ones you love, right?

So im sorry to post again, its really not my fault that i have so much love in my life that i have to make multiple posts....(where is the irony icon here??)

kiwi, im so sorry to hear about the loss of your pet. Everyone else, i come back to this thread to feel better about things....Yay Us!!!


I am glad to hear of how much love there is in your life.  Lucky girl!

I am also touched that this post that I almost didn't make has meant so much to people.  I look forward to contiinued responses if any are willing.  It is good to celebrate our relationships and what makes them worth holding on to.  There have been some more deeply personal small things he has done, but this was one I could put out to the public.  I kinda like bragging on him! 

Warm Wishes,
lovingpet

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 8:55:15 AM   
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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 9:56:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's still early in our relationship, but there have been things that surprised and touched me...

* sent me a text on my trip to Florida, around the time my plane should have landed, to see if I got there okay (I was stuck in North Carolina at the time)

* remembered that I said I didn't have a certain something and gave it to me as a gift on our first meet

* chose to book a flight home on our next trip that will be at an inconvenient time for him, because it coincided with the only flight I could get for myself to go home.  I told him it was okay, I could go to the airport later by myself, but he said no, that we would leave at the same time, together, even though we're flying to different places.

I'll stop at three.

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 10:10:44 AM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		We're not in a committed relationship; just enjoying and getting to know each other, but last week I had an early morning state exam (for a job) and he messaged me 10 minutes before start time to send me good vibes.  It was 4:50am his time, but he got up to wish me well and called me as soon as I got out to see how I thought I did.

He sings to me (sometimes funny stuff, sometimes seriously)

He calls me to say good morning and good night every day (and several times in between).

I'll follow Cali and stop at 3, also. 

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 11:21:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

what kinds of little things does your partner do that mean more than they probably think?  In what ways do these things reinforce what you already know?  Does it ever just take your breath away and have your realizing how blessed you are?

lovingpet


There are way too many things to list, She has this way of catching me off guard, surprising me with little things that give me that goofy grin.
 
I can't help but smile, knowing we both take the time to find those little things that maybe won't even be noticed right away...but some where down the line the other will stop and smile knowing someone cared enough to do ______. 
 
She does one thing, every time i spend the night at Her house.  When friends are present, especially other Dominants, they tend to give Her a very odd look; until She tells them why She does it. 
 
Every morning that finds me in Her bed, She wakes before me, goes downstairs and makes a pot of coffee.  She doesn't drink coffee.  I do.  She brings my first cup of coffee,to me.. in bed.  Yea, Mistress delivers me coffee in bed.. how crazy is that?  At first i was shocked, horrified, freaking out because She was up before me and waiting on me?????  OMG.  Horror of all horrors. She just smiled and explained to me why She was not only willing, but looked forward to doing this.....
 
as She told me; pj, you serve Me every day, in every way.  That She appreciates all i do for Her and wanted to find something that would give me the same warm fuzzy loved feeling i give to Her.  So, it was Her decision that any morning that found me snuggled in Her bed, She would start that day off with a cup of coffee, delivered to me in bed to show me how much She loved and appreciated me.  Waking to coffee in bed is Her way of telling me i'm doing a good job and She is happy. 

so, seeing that cup of coffee tells me that She is pleased with me and that i am so loved  
 
 
 

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 11:46:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you every single one of you...and the more that are sure to post...your intimate precious moments that you all enjoy!

Good to know I'm not the only person here full of glee!!!



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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 12:14:14 PM   
BKSir


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Status: offline 		It does my heart good to see so many out there that have caring and wonderful Masters/Owners/Doms that care and take responsibility for their subs/pets, just as they should.  Too many fail to realize that when you have a pet, it IS your responsibility to take care of him/her as best you can with love and kindness as well as the occasional firm hand when needed, just as one would take care of any pet.  I'm glad for all of you, and actually feel somewhat proud to see others out there like this, in a time when I was doubting if this is where I belonged.

Just remember though, us big, mean, lovable D-types love when we see the same thing from our subs as well.  It's amazing when I'm going to be leaving the house, and suddenly hear "Sir!", from the other room, before my Dear One comes rushing out to hand me an umbrella because it's raining, or a cold gatorade if it's hot and I'll be out a while, as I'm heading out the door.

It's the little things.  It always is.

I like to say, 'Neither life nor love are big things.  They're both just massive collections of little things, both good and bad.  The trick is, when all is said and done, to have the good ones more plentiful than the bad.  But savor them all, every last fleeting moment, in their own ways, for, at the end of the day, it's what makes them both worth every second.'


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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 12:28:22 PM   
justgemmie


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Status: offline 		greetings everyone
greetings lovingpet :)

my Man does stuff to show His affection and caring, concern and worry about and for me often.

and i do love it ~~ however ,,,,,

am i the only one that thinks, sometimes, it's kinda weird? or not very Domly; or something?  i don't know how to explain it exactly, but sometimes when He's very observant or caring, it makes me want to pull away. 

gemmie

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 12:31:44 PM   
BKSir


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greetings everyone
greetings lovingpet :)

my Man does stuff to show His affection and caring, concern and worry about and for me often.

and i do love it ~~ however ,,,,,

am i the only one that thinks, sometimes, it's kinda weird? or not very Domly; or something?  i don't know how to explain it exactly, but sometimes when He's very observant or caring, it makes me want to pull away. 

gemmie


You're probably not the only one, by any means.  In fact, I can all but guarantee it.  This is why I was feeling a bit at odds with whether I belonged or not.

However, if you stop to consider, why wouldn't your D-type want to do these things?  You belong to him, sort of like property in a way.  I know I do my best to make sure that all things that are mine are well taken care of.  I mean, I'm not going to just be wandering around pouring a soda into my laptop, or leaving the oven on because I don't care if my house burns down or not, now am I?


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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 1:29:38 PM   
Prinsexx


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Status: offline 		He called today because i text to say i was upset.....He called immediately to ask what was wrong and calm me.
He listens to every single world, until i have run out of things to say.
He asks me about my day and all my family and friends.
He pays attention to the smallest details and will refer to them days later.
He includes me in all aspects of His life.
He gives me the gentlest of after care.
He makes love beautifully after a scene....
The list is endless....
He promises eternity......
i'm in bliss.


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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/9/2008 3:49:18 PM   
lovingpet


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ORIGINAL: justgemmie

greetings everyone
greetings lovingpet :)

my Man does stuff to show His affection and caring, concern and worry about and for me often.

and i do love it ~~ however ,,,,,

am i the only one that thinks, sometimes, it's kinda weird? or not very Domly; or something?  i don't know how to explain it exactly, but sometimes when He's very observant or caring, it makes me want to pull away. 

gemmie


I still recoil too.  I am not used to the attention and the care.  I am not used to mattering.  Even with this event, I kind of gave him a bit of the brush off with the "I'm a big girl and I can take care of myself"  lecture and attitude.  He was firm, yet gentle, in reminding me that he didn't want anything happening to me because I was his.  I think there are those even on these forums that can testify that often, the reason we can't handle love and tenderness from our dominant is not because it is unbecoming, but that we have not experienced it enough to know how to respond or, for that matter, that we deserve both the expressions of such that are given to us or the feelings it wells up deep under our fear.  Try not to run from it.  See if it is something that, after all this searching, is what has been missing.

BK, please do not ever feel as though your ways somehow do not meet a standard of practice.  There are many who need a kinder, gentler dominant.  There are some that need a person so cold as to make the ice feel molten.  It is about the fit between mates, not our pecking order in the view of others.

I, too, am enjoying reading along and hearing all the ways that we tell each other how special we are to the other.  I only hope to be creating the same completely cared for feeling in him that he does in me.

lovingpet

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/10/2008 6:23:36 AM   
justgemmie


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Status: offline 		greetings BKSir and pet :)

thanks for helping me  not feel like a crazy woman :)   i believe it rather annoys and frustrates Dauntless also, but i feel what i feel.  i do share my feelings with Him though, good or bad, and we're working through it.  truth be told, i think i have some commitment issues  :(

gemmie

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/10/2008 6:51:30 AM   
babygurlrides


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ORIGINAL: BKSir

This is why I was feeling a bit at odds with whether I belonged or not.



I have been reading these posts with tears in my eyes, as I wish I were in a situation where I could appreciate the little things from the man I view to be 'all-powerful". We have an online relationship... I get from him whatever it is he chooses to give me.
Your comment struck a chord with me. I feel I need to say to you what I have said many times to the man I speak of:  In my humble opinion, dominance has NOTHING to do with showing you care, or putting your needs aside when your partner needs  you to. To me, a man is a dominant man when he knows what he wants..personally, professionally, and sexually and is not afraid to state his expectations. He is willing to listen, but is also willing to set rules. He will not tolerate manipulation. He understands that there is a time to give, and a time to take. He is willing to use the words, "I am sorry" when he makes a mistake. 
As someone who is exploring their submissive side... I say to you, "show me you care (in a way that I can understand), and I will bring you your slippers when you walk in that door...damn straight!!!! I will roll over and play dead for you!" To me, it is just that simple.
When a dominant man knows what his loved one needs but chooses not to give it  ... he is no more Dominant than the man who shows he cares.

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/10/2008 8:24:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		He takes great care of me when i'm sick. even when He's dead tired He will offer to get me whatever i need or want to make me feel better.
He tells me what a good girl i am and how He overlooks some things because i'm always such a good girl. that makes me feel better when i feel i have done something wrong.
everyday He says or does things that make me feel truly beautiful and desired .
that i was found by Him was the luckiest thing to happen to this girl.

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/10/2008 10:05:25 AM   
Juliannadelion


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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

I just had a moment this morning that completely made me smile.  A certain someone, whom I have posted about before with the same dopey grin I have on my face now, did something that counted more than all the drama and platitudes he could have ever offered.  I told him of my plans for the evening to go out with a friend.  He stopped me in mid thought, to remind me of the very bad weather that is expected here tonight.  He asked me to stay in because it was to be so stormy and even unpredictable.  He wanted to know I was home safe and snuggled up riding the storm out.  I promised I would be very careful if I went out and would cancel my plans or go home early if things deteriorated while I was out.  He agreed, but urged me in no uncertain terms to keep myself safe for him.

No one has ever taken such a concern over me before.  It meant a great deal.  And I could just list more and more of such things.  My question, and reason for posting other than just to flash that goofy smile again, is  what kinds of little things does your partner do that mean more than they probably think?  In what ways do these things reinforce what you already know?  Does it ever just take your breath away and have your realizing how blessed you are?

lovingpet


hello loving,

I know exactly what you mean.  I too walk around like a 12yr old girl with her first crush and the biggest goofy grin you can imagine.  I am also prone to fits of girlish giggling the likes I have not seen since sixth grade. 

My Lord and Master listens to me.  He can tell by the inflection of my voice how I am, whether I want him to or not.  Those times when you are just having a horrible day, but do not wish to burden anyone else with it?  He always knows, always calls me on it, and always, always, always makes me feel better.  He let's me know, that I can share the bad as well as the good.  That I am no longer in this alone.

He takes the time to understand me, and where it is that I am coming from, even if I do not.  He has given me the gift of acceptance, unconditional love, real comfort and safety.

I wake up everyday knowing that I am blessed and that our relationship is nothing short of a miracle.

I am a desperately happy, goofy grinning, giggling slave girl- AND I LOVE IT!

I'm glad I'm not the only one with such a wonderful Lord and Master.



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To please and be pleasing to Him, always, in all ways.

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/10/2008 10:44:36 AM   
magicone


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Status: offline 		yes... the little things makes the difference between the daily/ the routine and the special/ unique

often we forget - but thanks for sharing and at least to know ...

it does exist ,-))

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/10/2008 10:51:51 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Just My initial thoughts from the OP.

One of the greatest things we have in this is for any s-type to have those initial thoughts of being owned.  After having stood alone too long at the crossroads, they find direction.  A path they have always wanted and never know.  The fact that they want someone to take their hand in theirs and have someone say, "walk with Me."


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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/10/2008 6:22:10 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		It is so very good to recall all these things and have all these precious things floating about in my mind right now.  I hope to hear more.  I also hope that, even if someone decides not to post, that they will take the time and savor those things that make their relationships so special and take the time to let the other person know just how much it all means to them.

lovingpet

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/20/2008 7:34:25 PM   
califsue


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Status: offline 		It is wonderful to read all of these and I agee with the post about how strange at times it can feel and see the tender loving side of a Master/Dom/me. It truly is what makes the relationship so wonderful for me. Someone who understands, can and wants to be in control and has the s-types best interest at heart. Master came out today and then had to leave as his pop wasn't well and mom called. What is funny and tender about today is that he called me 'hon'. Which is the first time but it just adds to the depth of how much We mean to each other. 

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RE: The Little Things of Care and Protection - 9/20/2008 8:02:24 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		A strange but wonderful feeling to see the "softer" side of the dear domly ones.  Hope all is well with your Master's father!

lovingpet

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