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Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 6:59:36 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		Master/slave/Dom/sub and all in between – this isn’t about any of that. This is about an observation about a request I get regularly, at least 3-4 times a week on average. The request is for the use of beth. I’m flattered really; but I don’t think many have the faintest clue. Reality is beth is my possession, my chattel if you will. I ‘own’ her as much as any one human can ‘own’ another. Best put - I ‘own’ her as much as I want. Just as important to my attitude is beth’s. she considers herself ‘owned’, possessed, dedicated. Best of all (for me) there is NOTHING she wouldn’t do, or give her best effort trying, if I told her to it.

So, you think this is about ‘limits’ and/or ‘safe-words’ – NAH! This is about reality.

What makes anyone think if they just ask me, I’d have beth show up to serve them? I mean come on really? Do you know how hard it is to find someone like her? How many years it took me? How difficult and tiring it was to be with people whose most common complaint was at some point; “you REALLY want to do this ALL the time!?” How many fakes and frauds to sift through? How many who, even if they were compatible, sexually, physically, emotionally, mentally; wouldn’t give the ultimate sacrifice to meet my requirement to not serve any other ‘master’ like a job or career? I'm supposed to turn this over to anyone who asks?

Don’t let the mushy stuff I post fool you. I do mean it all. I love beth more than anyone/anything in my life. As I say in our journal, I love her so much I hate her because I now know how it is to be lonely and fearful that I’ll never be able to go on living if she was not a part of my life. However that doesn’t change the fact that I’m a sadistic bastard! Argue all you want about whether beth and I live 24/7 as M/s; if there is one thing I’m confident as representing myself 24/7 its being a ‘sadist’. YES, all the time, even when the object of sadism doesn’t know who; unscrewed the salt shaker top, threw the gum at the foot of the steps, or takes the Do Not Disturb sign off your hotel room door. Sad examples I’ll admit, but I can’t help myself. Even my exhibition of beth is sadistic. Ask me in public and I’ll indulge you, and beth’s exhibitionist tendency and have her flash for you. I love posting her pictures which I imagine are ‘enjoyed’ by many; I love teasing her about that. But always remember, what anyone fantasizes doing to her - I CAN do, anytime I want. Which brings up another ‘value added’ reality – beth takes much more than any other who came before her in my life. High intensity compatibility on both the physical sensation and mental anguish involving society perceived ‘humiliation’ and ‘degradation’. More consideration that borrowing a book from the library should be made.

It’s not like I don’t share. Many of our friends will confirm that fact. But that’s the point – we’re friends, we know you, shared a couple of thoughts and conversations. We’ve had some discussions about your experiences and there is a common ground of intimacy, sensuality, sexuality. What happens may be ‘spontaneous’ but not ‘instant’; and always in the parameters of our relationship. That’s what it is too. For a night, weekend, or ongoing; distinguished with a small ‘r’ instead of a cap ‘R’ that beth and I share; but involving trust, goals, and all the other ingredients. Most of all, like most things we do, it’s FUN!

Does anyone really expect that to occur with an introductory email of; “Hey – can I play with and fuck beth?! --- PLEASE!” Okay – I do enjoy the begging part, but seriously… Of course, my laughing icon embellished response gets the standard “you’re not real!” intellectual rebuttal; which of course generates an invite to our home along with the standard disclosure that beth is, in reality, a 275 pound 5’6” bald 52 year old man. I never hear from them again.

Maybe those making the request needs for it to be put in context. Just a suggestion guys, put the request into something you can relate too; your car, your favorite tool, perhaps your video game controller.

I’m not really sure why I’m posting this. I may miss out on some sadistic opportunities if I don’t get these requests anymore!
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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 7:04:08 AM   
CruelDesires


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Status: offline 		Idiots abound. Clueless or not.

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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 7:06:27 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Is'nt that why they are idiots because they are clueless?

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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 7:09:57 AM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		Merc, if I ever DO get out to sunny CA....can I borrow beth to go shopping?

(Yes, there are some seriously clueless people in the world)


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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 7:14:06 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Master is much the same way. He considers me to be his most prized possession. He maintains that in order to have access to me, he'd have to trust you on the level of lending you his car or his credit card. We do get a good chuckle of out the requests though.

< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 9/4/2008 7:32:14 AM >

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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 7:14:48 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I used to get requests like this pretty often too. I dont share. I trained my Fox to be exactly what I want because I have no intention of letting anyone else touch him. I have always wondered how the people asking would react if they were the ones with the partners...and someone else was asking to use them. I am willing to bet they wouldnt really react far different than we do.

DV


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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 7:16:11 AM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Merc, if I ever DO get out to sunny CA....can I borrow beth to go shopping?

(Yes, there are some seriously clueless people in the world)


Well, if you think you'd enjoy going shopping in LA with a 275 pound 5’6” bald 52 year old man - sure!

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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 7:24:37 AM   
urlittleprincess


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Status: offline 		as always i love reading your posts Merc...always food for thought...and always a reminder that someday i might find- or be found...

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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 7:58:30 AM   
TallDarkAndWitty


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
It’s not like I don’t share. Many of our friends will confirm that fact.


Guess what!!!  We'll be in LA on the 20th!  I am buying the tix tomorrow and will send you the details on the other side!  I can not wait to see you guys again!

Taggard


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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 8:03:41 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		I'll also add that one of things I find entertaining is when someone contacts me asking to play. When I say that anything of that sort has to be approved by Master, they respond with "Go ask him".

I don't get why they think I should be the one to ask when they're the one soliciting me to play with them.

Now I just say, "Okay". Disappear for a little bit and then come back, "He says 'no'". When they ask why, I say, "Because you don't have enough balls to directly ask him and you sent a submissive to do your dirty work."

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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 8:11:30 AM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
It’s not like I don’t share. Many of our friends will confirm that fact.


Guess what!!!  We'll be in LA on the 20th!  I am buying the tix tomorrow and will send you the details on the other side!  I can not wait to see you guys again!
Taggard


Great! We'll be sure to have plenty of candles on hand! September right?

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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 8:16:23 AM   
CalifChick


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
YES, all the time, even when the object of sadism doesn’t know who; unscrewed the salt shaker top, threw the gum at the foot of the steps, or takes the Do Not Disturb sign off your hotel room door. Sad examples I’ll admit, but I can’t help myself.

(snip)

Does anyone really expect that to occur with an introductory email of; “Hey – can I play with and fuck beth?! --- PLEASE!”


First...  making notes... do not give Merc our room number at the hotel... do not pick up the salt & pepper until someone else does... stay on alert.

Second... my first thought (well, okay, my second thought after the "keeping vigilant" part, but the phrase "my second thought" doesn't sound so good), is that these guys wouldn't know what to do if you said yes.  What would happen if you said, "Sure, meet me at Denny's for coffee and we'll discuss what I'll let her do for you."  I'm thinking not a whole lot would show up.

Cali


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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 8:25:19 AM   
Icarys


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Status: offline 		It's nice to see an example of how this can work out with all of the passion and intensity that i think it deserves.

As i stated on one of my other posts. Your a lucky Bastard.

Safe Journey's,
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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 8:31:55 AM   
OrionTheWolf


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Status: offline 		Yeah I get those email often as well about my property. Especially the one's that believe Gorean means to share your property with just anyone. They show that they do not have a clue. I may share my property with someone I am close friends with and/or respect a great deal, but the eligable ones can be counted on one hand with three fingers and a thumb left over.

I would not just loan my expensive car out to someone, so why in the hell would I loan out my valuable slave?

They are clueless and hoping that we do not actually care about our property.

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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 8:31:58 AM   
BlackPhx


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Status: offline 		I could enjoy that shopping trip as would Master I am sure, it is ALWAYs fun going shopping with people who know where to find the hidden shops and toy possibilitlies.

You know it is odd. The Dominant/Sadist can be extremely posessive about the Sub/Mas/Slave and that is good. Being careful of your posession is important if one expects to keep them in reasonable good shape. You have spent a long time searching for that partner that fulfills you. However, no one ever expects the shoe to be on the other foot as well. We subs/slaves/bottoms etc. search just as hard if not harder for that one person who fulfills us, yet we are expected to share that person with whomever else they can conquer or catches their eye for a night. While the dangers are far less for the Dominant in such situations that doesn't stop us from worrying about you as well as potential exposure to diseases as well as psycho subs. Yet far too often we can do little save sit quietly by and watch as others contact you to play or try to gain your attention at a club or elsewhere.

You are the Home we have always sought, yet, all too often you hand the keys to that House to any bright smile and submissive bend that comes along and let them trip through our Home. We need to trust the persons who enter the area of that home as much as you do the person you hand the keys to your most precious posession..

The feels are mutual, even when we say nothing because it is not our place.

poenkitten (speaking only for herself as others may feel otherwise)


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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 8:34:46 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		I never understood the mentality of people who ask to use someone else's stuff.  As a child I was forced to share a doll I had just unwrapped at xmas.  She was broken in 5 mins, and thereafter stayed in the back of my closet, untouched, face to the wall.  I had wanted that doll, was the best little girl I could be so santa would bring it for me, and when I unwrapped her it was like being given a star.
It is nice to be generous, however no one is going to relate to how hard you worked to get your star. 
People who dont understand that never had what you do.
Kyst

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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 8:44:22 AM   
MAMandSlave


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Status: offline 		I have loaned kristine in several situations, always with discussion before hand. She has been loaned to dominants who have skills that I am not as proficient at, such as single tailing. She has been objectified at parties, with strict limits on interactions with her, but open to all who request service. She will be auctioned off at the next Master's den play party for a scene with whomever bids the highest. All of these situations are with observation by me, monitoring to make sure she is safe. She also has been loaned to close friends who we both trust.
Kristine is also a fetish model, so she plays with others without my supervision. She sets her limits prior to shoots, and of course uses a safeword.
I am proud that she is mine, and love her dearly. I understand she is an exhibitionist, so public service is fun for her, and for me as well. She enjoys making me proud by serving others to her best. But once again, all of her play with others is closely monitored, or with people we trust.


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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 8:48:40 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I am selfish. Very rarely do I loan out anything anymore if someone asks to borrow. There is usually a very good reason they do not have one of their own.

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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 8:50:31 AM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		Daddy receives requests like this on an almost daily basis as well. "hello, i am LordSirMasterXXXofDC, can i use your b*tch?" or they will send a request through me, "slave, tell your Master that i want you to serve me. i expect a prompt response." lmbo. the truly hilarious ones are those who seem to feel as if they are offering my Master a service by f*cking me..."Brother, i would like to assist you in the training of your slut. i am a very experienced highly trained sadodom from the House of Buttwax, old guard leather blah blah."

Daddy gets a real kick out of these messages, sometimes he will play with these guys a bit and send a smart alecky response, sometimes he will suggest a meeting place and time, knowing that he will never hear from them again...lol. while it is true that my Master enjoys sharing me with/offering my services to others, it is done his way, under circumstances he dictates, not some stranger begging to get some. it is not that he only shares me with some select few...yes, i am a valued and loved possession, but he enjoys sharing me with many, having me used by countless others over the years. so the person does not have to be his good friend of the last 10 yrs, who he respects and trusts without fail. not by any means. but they will not be some clueless bozo getting hot and bothered by profile pics online either. Daddy does have a base IQ requirement.

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RE: Owned Reality - 9/4/2008 9:42:52 AM   
TallDarkAndWitty


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
Great! We'll be sure to have plenty of candles on hand! September right?


Yes!!!


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