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wandersalone -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 6:41:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Destiny2nite I really have to work to find something to punish him for! Evasiveness was the only “crime-of-the moment” that I could use as an excuse to give him the punishment he so enjoys receiving! Therefore, my delimma is, finding a suitable (and perhaps, enjoyable) punishment that can be accomplished at a distance! I may be getting caught up in semantics however from reading your post, especially the part I have snipped above it doesn't sound like you or he are seeking actual punishment which from my understanding is not meant to be enjoyable. If he enjoys being punished maybe it would be more effective to not not punish him for his transgression. ps. welcome to the forums edited to add the welcome

Destiny2nite -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 6:45:58 AM)
Good point. Maybe this is all a question of terminology. "Punishment" is perhaps not the correct word to use in this, our situation.

tammystarm -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 6:48:27 AM)
personally i have a thing for "making the punishment fit the crime". So if you asked him what time is it? (as an example) and he in return tells you how to make a clock, then i would have him make the clock and send it to me, in an appropriate well "time" a friend once ate two pieces too many of cheese on her sub, her master made her eat two pieces of cheese in a chilled wine glass that he pee'd into....... GROSS but punishment that fitted the crime. by the way she doesnt eat cheese anymore and neither do i after hearing that lol

wandersalone -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 6:52:59 AM)
going along with Tammy's thoughts... and to be very evil (in a fun way), you could ask j to write a 500 word essay on the precise meaning of the word 'evasive' without using the letter E in the essay apart from in that one word.

sirsholly -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 7:01:58 AM)
ooo...you ARE evil, Wanders!! I like that in a person....

Destiny2nite -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 7:09:40 AM)
Dear Wanders, I've just now read your profile as well. Congrats on your move! I like your idea regarding j's "punishment"! And perhaps for every misused "e", he might be required to do something slutty for me.. tee hee! Thanks for your messages and warm welcome, Ms Des

Destiny2nite -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 7:15:49 AM)
**Correction from previous post: To SiennaDiamond: jtutors is the consummate sub! I reach to find things for which to “reprimand” him and to me (delete). His punishments are meant to be “enjoyable” and entertaining to him and to me** (add). Perhaps makes more sense? Ms D

wandersalone -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 7:25:22 AM)
Thankyou for your good wishes and you are welcome for the welcome....lol

MAMandSlave -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 7:29:50 AM)
It kind of doesnt make sense to me that a simple posting requesting punishments that would work long distance turned into an analysis of someone else's relationship. Regarding the punishments: Another method is kneeling nose to wall with penny, hands on back of head, or kneeling on rice. both of these can be time limited, and observed by cam.

tammystarm -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 8:17:02 AM)
and THAT is why i love you wanders your wickedly evil beautiful and fun

ladysekhmetka -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 8:28:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wandersalone going along with Tammy's thoughts... and to be very evil (in a fun way), you could ask j to write a 500 word essay on the precise meaning of the word 'evasive' without using the letter E in the essay apart from in that one word. I applaud your creativity... evil in that 'e' is in the top five most used letters in our alphabet ^.^

yourMissTress -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 10:01:34 AM)
Maybe you should take a look at the "funishments" thread. I believe what you are looking for, and what the rest of us understood you to be looking for are two different things. For many people involved in power exchange relationships (and including myself) punishment is a strong word and not usually used to describe giving the s what they are seeking. It goes beyond the need for behavior correction and is, in extreme cases, the end of the relationship.

jtutors -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 1:41:34 PM)
thank you so very much for the "funishment" idea, at first i thought it was a typo. then i looked at your face and decided i may be limiting myself. your smile convinced me to go look. thank you again.

Destiny2nite -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 2:10:03 PM)
Thank you for your post! I believe this is exactly what We/we are looking for....... funishment ideas! Thank you, thank you, thank you! Its grrrrrrrrrrreat!

TysGalilah -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 3:15:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jtutors i'm amazed that anyone would assume that the communications between my Mistress and i lack patience. If that were the case, we would hardly be using this forum. Thank you for your observations, but i do not find my Mistress lacking on any level. jtutors Thank you for your responses....and for additional information you have added..it helps. I stand by my sentiments about longdistance relationships. of the 12 year relationship I have had with Tyson, the lions share of that was local, both in Arizona. During that time, and in the beginning, this subject was one we tackled ourselves. I was not a bratty sub, nor disrespectful at all, wanted to please and wanted with all my heart to be open and share my thoughts and feelings as well as he was able to with me. I WASN'T there yet, in my life. for reasons that are not pertinent here and so I will passover > it was not easy for me to have free flowing feelings when he and I began. I would "analyze" what I wanted to say before I said it. This was not what he wanted. We worked on it together. He did not punish me...he encouraged me, with patience and guidance. When I began "sharing" more deeply I went to the other side of the spectrum and I would "build a clock to tell him what time it was" < the expression he made up years ago. We would chuckle when he would use it to "tell me" I was doing this. I would smile..blush and then try to condense my sharing and get back to the point... Once again > I was not punished nor did he get angry... it was part of my growing...part of his leadership and part of our growth together. anger and punishment would have had the opposite effect on me than what he was aiming for, I guarantee that. This, I feel, is why you got the responses you got from the forum. the punishment effect because you are not able to communicate yet as she would like you to. the last several years Tyson and I have been longdistance from one another. So I also understand where you are coming from re: that added challenge to your relationship. Because it is a challenge and comes with its own set of rules we have learned. I was sympathizing with you..and not meaning to critizise your lady. But if punishment is used, it seems counter-productive to me as well as impatient on her part. It would be different if you were not trying..or acting out. But I don't feel that is the case. It just seems to me that re-direction is different than punishment as a submissive who is trying to please their Mistress feels it. I wish you both well...and much patience with one another : ) Cyndi

jtutors -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 3:28:35 PM)
to take the time to respond and add your personal experiences is very much appreciated. thank you so very much. jay

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/3/2008 9:47:03 PM)
Punishments should be learning tools and are not fun or sexy, and are often painful for both parties. Now, if you want to role play that he's naughty and you must "take him in hand" that's entirely diffrent, but I wouldn't lable it punishment. quote: ORIGINAL: Destiny2nite Evasiveness was the only “crime-of-the moment” that I could use as an excuse to give him the punishment he so enjoys receiving! Therefore, my delimma is, finding a suitable (and perhaps, enjoyable) punishment that can be accomplished at a distance!

MasterBrat -> RE: Long distance punishments (9/13/2008 10:23:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Destiny2nite Also, please know that I am not interested in harming him, or punishing in the strictest sense of the word. This was meant to be a part of his punishment assignment. Our/our conversation about this started with Me saying something like: “Oh you brat! Now I’ll have to punish you for being such a brat! You need to as others what might be suitable punishment for your behavior. Please compile a list and I’ll decide how best to deal with you.” Thanks to all for your responses. I look forward to hearing more from everyone! Ms Des Ok, so what you are really looking to do is give him a corrective action. Cause punishment is supposed to used for... well to punish where he knowingly and with intent violated a rule, whereas a corrective action is because he didn't mean to do it and being a brat is not a capital offense...

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