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RE: How do You define Love? - 8/30/2008 4:38:14 PM

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I like this one myself :

"Loving someone is giving them the ability to destroy you.. But trusting them not to"

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RE: How do You define Love? - 8/30/2008 4:41:42 PM

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Love exists in many aspects; family, friends, romance and sex. I believe that respect and love entertwined are essential to a lasting relationship of any kind.

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RE: How do You define Love? - 8/30/2008 5:01:58 PM

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But honestly, why worry so much about defining love? Why do we want to pin it down like an exotic bug and put it in a jar labeled "Love" ? It just seems silly to try to accurately define the parameters of an emotion. Fuck it, I say.

We don't all sit around trying to figure out exactly what sadness, or grief, or indifference is. We know it when we feel it or see it. So take love at face value, and stop being so critical of it. Now if you'll excuse me, I'm off to xtube.com to fall in love.

Perhaps I'm odd....No, i know i am and frankly i'm okay with that. But, honestly i do sit around and trying to figure out what sadness, grief, or indifference is. i don't actually "know it when i feel it". So, if You'll excuse me i'll get back to my question at hand.
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RE: How do You define Love? - 8/30/2008 5:58:08 PM

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By the time you have tried to define love, you miss it and it passes you by.

It is unquantifinable.

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RE: How do You define Love? - 8/30/2008 5:59:17 PM

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The word pales in to insignificance in the prescence of feeling , the feeling a dagger so infintly sharp, barbed and ever lasting, a weapon of the self which strikes hard and cuts deep, a mortal wound in the very heart of the soul.

But as with all things reality rules, the wound of love can sometimes heal, but the best of the best healing always leaves a mark, that mark a feeling that we always feel for the one that caused ourselves to to cut our soul so deadly deep. An act of the feeling the word cannot describe.
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RE: How do You define Love? - 8/30/2008 6:26:29 PM

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But honestly, why worry so much about defining love? Why do we want to pin it down like an exotic bug and put it in a jar labeled "Love" ? It just seems silly to try to accurately define the parameters of an emotion. Fuck it, I say.

We don't all sit around trying to figure out exactly what sadness, or grief, or indifference is. We know it when we feel it or see it. So take love at face value, and stop being so critical of it. Now if you'll excuse me, I'm off to xtube.com to fall in love.

Perhaps I'm odd....No, i know i am and frankly i'm okay with that. But, honestly i do sit around and trying to figure out what sadness, grief, or indifference is. i don't actually "know it when i feel it". So, if You'll excuse me i'll get back to my question at hand.
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I find it a tad hard to believe that you don't know when you're sad, or happy, etc. So if someone comes up and hands you your wildest dreams in a box free of charge, no taxes, and they ask you how you feel, your reply is, "I have no idea."

My post was not a shot at you or your timeless question of love. It was just a general observation. It seems like we're obsessed with analyzing love, and picking it to pieces, and putting such romanticized definitions to it that there's no possible way that any emotion could live up to the expectations.

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RE: How do You define Love? - 8/30/2008 6:44:41 PM

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But honestly, why worry so much about defining love? Why do we want to pin it down like an exotic bug and put it in a jar labeled "Love" ? It just seems silly to try to accurately define the parameters of an emotion. Fuck it, I say.

We don't all sit around trying to figure out exactly what sadness, or grief, or indifference is. We know it when we feel it or see it. So take love at face value, and stop being so critical of it. Now if you'll excuse me, I'm off to xtube.com to fall in love.

Perhaps I'm odd....No, i know i am and frankly i'm okay with that. But, honestly i do sit around and trying to figure out what sadness, grief, or indifference is. i don't actually "know it when i feel it". So, if You'll excuse me i'll get back to my question at hand.
Kali

I find it a tad hard to believe that you don't know when you're sad, or happy, etc. So if someone comes up and hands you your wildest dreams in a box free of charge, no taxes, and they ask you how you feel, your reply is, "I have no idea."

My post was not a shot at you or your timeless question of love. It was just a general observation. It seems like we're obsessed with analyzing love, and picking it to pieces, and putting such romanticized definitions to it that there's no possible way that any emotion could live up to the expectations.

LAz.. you said DEFINING these feelings..

Iknow that Kali FEELS them..but defining them? Ithink thats difficult for any of us, because it's alllllllllllllllllllllllllllll subjective

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RE: How do You define Love? - 8/30/2008 7:18:22 PM

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How do I define love? As insanity. Doing the same thing over and over, while expecting the results to change.

In all honesty, I quit believing in "love" quite a while back. About the same time that I quit believing in "romance" and "happy endings." While I still nominally acknowledge "love" in the aspect of familial affection/duty/loyalty, beyond that I pretty much draw a blank. I think that humanity generally mistakes lust for that ultimately indefinable sensation that people term "love."

To define the word, you must first define whether you are refering to aspects of Romanticism - ie, the emotional/physical responce between 2 adults, generally (but obviously not always) those of opposite gender - or to aspects of Familial feeling or even those emotional responces often associated with deep, long term friendships. All of them, at various times, have been termed as "love" of some sort. How is it that the Greeks defined love? There are 3 types - Eros (romantic love) Philios (familial love) and Playtonic (love for friends, country, inanimate objects or other things not emcompassing another Single individual person.)

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RE: How do You define Love? - 8/30/2008 8:09:22 PM

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Love is a madness.

Though as Nietzche commented "A pair of powerful spectacles has sometimes sufficed to cure a person in love."

Bitter, party of one? Your table is ready.

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RE: How do You define Love? - 8/30/2008 8:56:54 PM

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Been thinking about this a bit.

Love is a choice, but you have no choice. Whatever the reason is, you have no choice.

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RE: How do You define Love? - 8/31/2008 10:27:08 AM

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i want to thank You all for Your responses. The reality is, for me for most of my life i did not think i was capable of either loving or being loved. 8 years ago or so, my life completely changed as these three wonderful creatures were brought into them. They would never ever believe anyone who has anything bad to say about me.
Recently, i have discovered that at some point, when neither one of us were looking we fell in love. i know beyond a shadow of a doubt that i love Him, and i do so unconditionally. i know that He feels and believes the same way for me. The reality is, it was only 12 years ago that i was finally introduced to a group of people who not only sat around talking about loving me unconditionally, but actually did so....actively..... They loved me regardless of my behaviors, my actions, my attitudes, my beliefs, my accusations.They loved me. And there was nothing i could do to change that.
i'm not sure that everyone has the opportunity to experience a love like that.
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RE: How do You define Love? - 9/1/2008 10:01:21 PM

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If you can define love you are automatically wrong.

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RE: How do You define Love? - 9/1/2008 10:10:55 PM

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Well that's about as cheery as dropping your ice cream in the gutter.

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RE: How do You define Love? - 9/2/2008 12:12:45 PM

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If you can define love you are automatically wrong.

i'm not trying to be deliberatley obtuse here, but what does this mean?

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RE: How do You define Love? - 9/2/2008 12:38:01 PM

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I see love differently. I see it as an energetic force in the quantum spectrum, with its own resonance/frequency--a tool, but not an emotion.

All of the actions and behaviors people typically associate with 'love' can be associated with any number of other things, including self-interest (both enlightened self-interest and base, selfish interests). Physical and emotional fondness exist both within and outside of any framework called "love" and it is impossible to ascertain whether it is infatuation, fondness, lust, self-interest, or something else that compels or maintains emotional connection.

On a physiological level, there are physical responses that supposedly indicate "love" -- however, these very same physical responses are expressed (simultaneously or separately) in literally hundreds of other emotional states -- so what makes love any different than, say, lust?

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