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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/29/2008 2:45:41 PM   
rockybaynurse


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Status: offline 		I too will  laugh about something that happened yesterday, the only problem with that is, I just got the joke.  LOL,

thanks for your reply to my post and may you have many more days together in all that you want it to be. rocky

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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/29/2008 2:47:15 PM   
slaveluci


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From: Little Rock, AR
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Master contacted me here on CM after reading my profile.  We lived 800 miles and several states apart.  We chatted online for all of one day and then He called me.  We talked online and by phone lots and lots every day after for about six weeks.  I then took some vacation time and drove from WV to AR to spend a week with Him.  It was the best time of my life.

We visited back and forth over the next year while making preparations for me to move to Him.  Not a day went by without talking hours on the phone.  In July 2007, I finally made the move.  Just this past May, we were married.  If any of my friends had told me they were doing what I did, I'd have probably laughed them out of the room and cautioned them to wise up and use some common sense.  Thankfully, my friends didn't do that to me because it was the best decision I ever made to talk with Him and proceed with our relationship.

I know some scoff at the idea of "soul mates" but who cares?  He and I found ours.  No regrets at all.....................luci

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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/29/2008 5:11:19 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		LDRs are harder than local relationships.  That said, they're not impossible.  The fact that you're not a teenager and should be able to keep your head about you, is a plus, and the fact that relocation is an option helps a lot.

Good luck!

Since we call you Rocky... can we call him Bullwinkle?

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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/29/2008 5:21:27 PM   
WyredWraith


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Status: offline 		My Master and I met through a random chance thing when I phoned a company he works for for a quote for printing for my company. We ended up chatting for a long time over a few months and it was pure coincidence that we are both 'who/what we are' if that makes sense.

At the time we lived at few hours away from each other and while we chatted briefly online or on he phone we weren't an item or in a LD relationship at the beginning ... which was at the same time I was in the dying throes of an abusive marriage.

To cut a long story very short 9 years later we are still together and have been very happily for all that time... we have a wonderful M/s relationship despite many many issues regarding my health and neither of us would be anywhere... or with anyone... else.

I also know another couple who met online and are still together many years later :)

I'm sure it can work well for a lot of people and I wish you everything you want for that first meeting :)

Lorii



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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/29/2008 6:41:57 PM   
sblady


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Status: offline 		Although I've never been in a LDR, I wanted to tell you to be yourself, relax and treat this first meet (sorta) like you would a first date. 

Most of all have fun!!  Do all those naughty little things you've been discussing with your Dom. 

Good luck!!





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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/30/2008 1:00:22 AM   
MidMichCowboy


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Status: offline 		Sorry to be a wet blanket, LDR has never worked for me and neither has online.

Must be me.

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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/30/2008 2:22:09 AM   
atypicalsub


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Status: offline 		I am right now wrapping up my old life to relocate to my Mistress next week.  I am in Minnesota and she is in New York (about a thousand miles and five states in between).  We met on here a few months ago.  After chatting online for about a month we traded phone numbers.  The first night we talked until the battery in my phone died.  The next night I kept the phone plugged in and we talked until it overheated and shut down.  Once we worked around the technical problems we talked every single night for 3-5 hours for the next month.  Finaly we made arrangements for me to visit her in July.  The plan was for me to be there a week with her and her partner.  I ended up staying two weeks until I had to return for a job I couldn't postpone.   It had already been agreed that I was going to relocate to her even before the visit, that was just to make certain we would all be comfortable together before I moved out there.  While many things did not go as planned, it only helped prove we are all highly compatible.  Knowing we could get alone so well when so many things went wrong was very reasurring.  If everything had gone perfectly I know I would be second guessing this a lot.  Now the only thing I've had to question is shouldn't this feel a lot more scary than it does?


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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/30/2008 3:22:39 AM   
Rayne58


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I have now been living with Sir in Australia for almost 5 years, and married/collared for nearly 2.  I moved from New Zealand, we met on Literotica forums, and were "just friends" online for several months before we developed deeper feelings for each other.  I was a complete newbie to D/s and He had been a Dom for about 10 years then.  So I guess we would count as living "happy ever after"

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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/30/2008 6:51:20 AM   
sblady


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy

Sorry to be a wet blanket, LDR has never worked for me and neither has online.

Must be me.


Relationships in general can be tricky.  That being said, I'm sending you a big ole hug and kisses!!



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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/30/2008 7:01:52 AM   
persephonee


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Status: offline 		Well, youre not alone. i cant tolerate the intensity of a relationship and a long distance separation. i also can not have an online relationship where real time involvements dont interfere. i am just a real time kind of girl. Thankfully, i have not become involved in a long distance relationship. That would just doom me to unhappiness for sure.

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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/30/2008 7:27:51 AM   
Twicehappy2x


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Status: offline 		I met mine here on cm, flew over 2000 miles to meet in person, almost three years later, here i still am.
 
So, yes it can happen.

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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/30/2008 10:30:10 AM   
thetammyjo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: rockybaynurse

I am meeting my on-line Dom for the first time next month. I am from the West coast and he is from the Southwest.
Are there any success stories of any long-distance relationships working and or relocation that has happened b/c of the meeting?

I have heard some horror stories, I am only intested in the successful ones b/c of my interest in possible relocation. Thank you.




The key term in your post from my perspective is "working" --- there is no "happily ever after" that is a lie that we tell oureselves and future generations setting up countless people for disappointment.

There is only what you and the other person/people are willing to make work for as long as you want to make it work. It requires everyone and it is work, I think the majority of it should be beneficial and good in the final analysis.

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And my LJ where I post fiction in progress if you "friend" me at http://thetammyjo.livejournal.com/

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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/30/2008 3:41:37 PM   
rockybaynurse


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Status: offline 		ORIGINAL: rockybaynurse

I am meeting my on-line Dom for the first time next month. I am from the West coast and he is from the Southwest.
Are there any success stories of any long-distance relationships working and or relocation that has happened b/c of the meeting?

I have heard some horror stories, I am only intested in the successful ones b/c of my interest in possible relocation. Thank you.

Thanks to all who have written me with there encouraging stories.  It makes me more excited to know that many of the relationships heave worked out so well so, FULL STEAM AHEAD FOR ME.


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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/30/2008 11:55:15 PM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		Good luck rocky! I met Master online, we talked on phone, we met for 5 days in July 2003 in a neutral place sort of between our homes (we were diagonally across Australia, many thousands of miles apart), then i served Him at His house for 11 days in Nov/Dec, then He visited my house for 23 days in March and in June 2004 i flew over and helped Him drive across country for 6 days to live with me! Feb 2007 we made the choice to drive all the way back across country and settle back 300km from His home! We are together and very very happy. So yes, it can work. It takes work of course ... and some sacrifices ... but it can work out! Now I just have to find a sub to move to be with us and complete the family!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/31/2008 12:13:22 AM   
whis31


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Status: offline 		i meet my Sir thru ALT.com, we talked online for a couple of months before we meet in person, that first meeting was just over a year ago, and in that time i have accepted a job offer in His town and i am in the processes of packing and relocating myself! we will still live in different homes due to the fact we both have kids and W/we aren't quite ready for me to live full time with him. but this is my choice...but i will be living in his mom's empty condo

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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/31/2008 6:55:07 AM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		We met on line in November of 2004; it was a chance encounter in a chat room that slowly grew into something more.  I lived in Southern Florida and he and Alandra lived in Northern Alberta.  Fast forward over three years and we are all living together in very Northern Alberta.  It is more than 3,700 miles from where I used to live.

Going through the immigration process and living long distance was extremely stressful and painful.  It is not something that either of us would choose to endure again for someone else.  Dispite the pain, it was worth it.  We have never been happier and life just keeps getting better.

Knight's Kyra

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RE: HAPPY EVER AFTER? - 8/31/2008 7:40:30 AM   
incantatrice


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Status: offline 		Hi Rockybay

Yes I have a success story for you.

I found a mans profile on CM, there were no pictures but a lot of information about his interests and experiences and also a short rant about fakers lol. Yet I was intrigued to find out more so I sent him a short message, he replied within 24 hours and with every message that passed between us I became more and more interested. We had so much in common and reflected each others BDSM desires so perfectly. after a week we had a PM and he convinced me to turn on my cam for him, I did so ad he seemed to like what he could see. He sent me some photos and I was flabbergasted! Tall dark and handsome with piercing blue eyes and a fit body to die for! I wondered if he could possibly be real?

We had such a connection I gave him my phone number, we texted back and forth then we decided to meet.

I was so so frightened that night, he had given me his car reg and home address to leave with my family. We were supposed to meet in a pub but I was too scared to walk in alone so I waited in the car park, looking or the car that would match the description he had given me. Those moments lasted forever, I sat so still in the dark, waiting, barley daring to breath, watching the car park entrance a million doubts running through my mind, not least that he wouldn't show up at all!!!

Suddenly I saw it, the car from the description, same make and reg ..it was him.

I watched him park his car and was like I had been turned to stone ..then I got a text ..which said ...

''I am here''

I replied ...

''I know I can see you''

He replied ...

''Get out your car''

I took a deep breath and obeyed, as he walked over to me and I walked towards him all I could hear was my heart hammering in my chest. We finally met face to face in the middle of the car park, I looked nervously up into his eyes and he smiled and I ..well I melted ..I swear I fell in love with him right then in that very moment.

That was June 2007 I am now collared by him and we live together in a full 24/7 TPE relationship. I am so happy, more so than I ever thought it was possible to be. I found the love of my life doing the very thing you are about to but don't get me wrong I am aware of the amount of luck involved!!

My advice would be to do as I did, meet in a public place, get his personal info and give it t a friend, when you see his car you will have a bit of security knowing you have a friend with his real details that knows where you are.

CM has a lot of good points but it's worse point is the way it has been set up to advocate trolls. It is all too easy to fake a profile here and people do a great great deal. That is one of the reasons I am moving my online socialising to another BDSM network, I am still looking for a woman and find it impossible to distinguish the fakers from the real people here. The place I have gone to is called Vanilla Spiced and it has rules in place to control fake profiles so you can trust that who you talk to is real.

I wish you a great deal of luck with your meeting I hope everything works out as you are dreaming.

With Respect

Incantatrice

PS I forgot to mention, we lived about 30 miles apart. Eventually wegot a place together in the middle. Distance is seldom a problem for true love! x

< Message edited by incantatrice -- 8/31/2008 7:44:49 AM >

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