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RE: Fantasy island? - 8/27/2008 2:43:27 PM

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Oh, heck -- if I had a dime for every fantasy squashed in getting involved in this, I'd be a wealthy woman and own as many houses as McCain -- [oh, wait, that's right, he doesn't remember how many he owns, so maybe I'd own -more-!

] In any case, I've had fantasies cost me more than just my own chances -- I've had my fantasies really mess up things for people that I really cared about. I grew from the experience, but I'll be honest, I'll probably never completely abdicate fantasy -- after all, how could I ever make a living writing fiction without my fantasies? At least these days, I try to keep them on the pages of an upcoming novel.

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RE: Fantasy island? - 8/28/2008 6:02:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

And now........off topic........PADRIAG!! It's nice seeing you around. Either I've missed your posts or you've been busy offline for awhile.

Have been mostly offline. An the topic of this thread has been part of the reason why. I've got a lot going on in my life right now, a lot of demands on my time. I've found that I just don't have the time to spare to wade through all the fantasy profiles, write letters of which most go unanswered, until I get down to a small percentage that might actually call on the phone and/or meet, and of that an even smaller still percentage actually shows up and turns out to be who and what they claim.

Especially compared to the fact that even though I live in a small town, I don't seem to have too hard of a time meeting submissive women I find attractive simply going to the grocery store or going about my daily business.

In short, I just haven't found the whole online thing very efficient for me. Its largely been a huge time waster. An these days I just don't have the time to waste.

Maybe some of these submissives ought to take note of that. I'm considered one of my town's most eligible bachelors. I'm successful, stable, smart and not hard to look at. That so many are more concerned with how many floggers I might own, or whether I would keep them caged in my basement, or whether I can do elaborate shibari says a lot about where their priorities are, and it isn't where mine are.

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RE: Fantasy island? - 8/28/2008 6:27:47 AM

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

Ever seen,or been someone so entrenched in a fantasy that you basically sabotoged your own chances?

amazing ... am watching someone very dear to me destroy their chance at a happy, contented and fulfilling reality because they are chasing an extreme fantasy. I managed to see it in time, I really hope they do too.

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RE: Fantasy island? - 8/28/2008 1:22:01 PM

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A fantasy doesn’t have to be all consuming. Fantasy can be described in different ways and may only represent a submissive’s feeling to submit. Many women carry on with excellent careers and families, yet turn on their computer to fulfill their passion in a safe way. But many will continue from that and do want to meet a dominant to act on their powerful desires.

Being patient with a reticent submissive, bitter as it is, can have its rewards and end sweetly. Of course, there are limits to everything and if it is taken too far it is a sign of her fear more than wise caution.

Of the submissives I’ve actually met in the past 10 years, all of them told me they started online with a fantasy. That strikes me as significant.

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RE: Fantasy island? - 8/28/2008 2:04:18 PM

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I think my biggest issue is in having a fantasy expectation based more on fear of oneself than of others. I've always been amazed at how many people suffer from so much repression of things that are perfectly natural.

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