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Mercnbeth -> RE: Fantasy island? (8/27/2008 7:59:39 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Leatherist
Ever seen,or been someone so entrenched in a fantasy that you basically sabotaged your own chances?
Most definitely, it happed to each of us before we met and it's still occurring. We've had so many contact us and proclaim they want to join us, or do something. It is why we don't have expectations from any internet contact. When it doesn't happen we're not disappointed; if people actually come through it is a pleasant surprise. It's much easier, and often accurate, not to expect anything.
We like to get to that point quickly. If someone says they want to meet, join us going to a club, or do something, we say "GREAT!"; and provide a range of places where they should, if they were not playing out a fantasy, be comfortable. We also provide our phone number and direct contact information. In other words we try to remove all the barriers and reasonable concerns. Our 'success' rate for meeting, or people coming through as promised, is about 10%.
The majority of the time, they have no intent to back up how they represent themselves over the internet. They are living a fantasy. Their goal was to involve us, most often just beth, into some kind of cyber-play.
That's the key to avoiding being stuck on someone's 'Fantasy Island', get off the computer, and/or take away from your side reasons why they claim they can't do what they claim they want to do for/with you. Avoid at all costs, being non-consensually involved in someone's internet one handed web surfing fantasy. Don't start cybering unless that's something you enjoy. Don't expect or anyone to do, or be, what they say they are in their profile or their email. Then - sit back and enjoy the rare exceptions and surprises.
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