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Old Topics - 8/16/2008 4:17:15 PM   
DomDolf


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Status: offline 		I have recognized that there are many topics brought up by people new to the site/forums. I am new here too. I am sure there are topics that have been beat to death and people that have been here do not want to see. I see the titles to these topics, just like everyone else, and I have a choice whether I want to investigate it further. If it is of no interest to anyone it will go away. If it is of interest to someone than no one should be posting their disgust with the fact the topic was posted. Make a choice to not read it or at a minimum not comment.

I am frustrated by this because I am seeing topics that I might want to see what others here, TODAY, might have to say go away when someone posts their dissatisfaction with the post being there. The newer the person to the lifestyle/site/forums the less likely they may be to say something, so I am. I am asking for people that don't want to read the topic to pass on it like they do on many other topics. There are people that want to read them and they may even want to comment further. Maybe what they posted six months ago no longer applies or has changed for some very interesting reason that we may never know because you squashed the post. Enlightenment can come from the most unexpected places.

Dolf

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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 4:31:57 PM   
nejisty


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Status: offline 		  I agree, I have seen many forums I found interesting be highjacked by those making snide comments or comments totally non topic.  I can very well understand people no longer wanting to ask or post comments on here.  If the people that have been here for years want to have the site all to themselves that is a very good way to go about it.   
   nejisty  (thinking of finding somewhere else myself) 

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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 4:40:20 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I think with some topics we are more readily impatient with the topic... like when it is a complaint on why they can't get a hook up with someone or something most would find silly.  But sometimes, I agree, we need to be more understanding of someone new to the boards who doesn't know the search feature and is being brave enough to post period.  They don't know we are sick to death of a topic.  I have seen it go both ways... kind and informative and welcoming and the other way of bashing them over the head. 

It's hard enough to join a new place and find a place within it... it would be nice if we could welcome them, but I do know that some days I can be tedious and not always so nice.  I do enjoy some of the new post on a same ol same ol thread, becasue there are always newer people who have something to say or people who didn't get in on the one's found in a search.  Besides, I have used the search and it isn't always easy figuring out what to search for.

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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 4:58:06 PM   
E2Sweet


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ORIGINAL: DomDolf

...I am asking for people that don't want to read the topic to pass on it like they do on many other topics....


I'm OK with that. I'm fairly new here as well, and I have found some of the (what seems to be) older topics interesting.

On the flip-side, I do see some of the "failing to hookup" posts and the like are redundant and not-so-fun to discuss. Perhaps a new, read-only forum to answer frequently asked questions would help to alleviate that. That way we could just point people there and allow those sorts of repeat threads to die much sooner than they normally would...

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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 5:11:09 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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For those who have been on the boards more than 6 months, the same thread over and over gets boring.  How many times can people answer the "slave vs. sub," "why do FemDoms want tribute," or "am I getting used/abused because a D-type did X" questions?  If more new people would use the Search feature to see what past responses have been to similar questions, it would go a long way to reducing the level of snark. 
 
With that said, I recognize that the Search box doesn't always come up with adequate results.  However, using it can help newbs know what questions have been asked and use that information to word their questions more clearly.  I've found that doing so results in responses of much higher quality.  And isn't that better in the long run?

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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 5:20:44 PM   
SL4V3M4YB3


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Status: offline 		Didn't this topic come up the other week and stef gave that link showing a guide to new people posting on message boards about how to use the search button.

A place for everything and everything in it's place.
 
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=2047629


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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 6:02:08 PM   
DomMeinCT


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ORIGINAL: DomDolf

Make a choice to not read it or at a minimum not comment.

Dolf


By the same token, you can make a choice not to read those posters' comments with whom you'll disagree.

If your aim is to try to control others' comments, it's a losing battle and up to you to:  get a thicker skin, block and/or ignore those you don't like, or find another venue to post.


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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 6:08:55 PM   
DomDolf


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Status: offline 		This along with most topics have probably been posted before. Precisely my point.  IF you have seen it AND you are sick of it, PASS over it. Commenting is not a requirement. Essentially if I don't have something to add to the topic I leave it alone. Useless comments and quips are not my way, generally.



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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 6:14:30 PM   
DomDolf


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT

quote:

ORIGINAL: DomDolf

Make a choice to not read it or at a minimum not comment.

Dolf


By the same token, you can make a choice not to read those posters' comments with whom you'll disagree.

If your aim is to try to control others' comments, it's a losing battle and up to you to:  get a thicker skin, block and/or ignore those you don't like, or find another venue to post.



What bothers me is not the comments themselves. No one has thicker skin that I am aware of. What bugs me is how new or more timid people are not feeling it is okay to post because someone that IS TRYING TO CONTROL is telling them either directly or in a more coy fashion that they shouldn't have posted what they did.

Your point is invalid if it was directed to me personally. It's difficult to tell intent at times. Anything stated with the intent to prevent open and flowing communication is wrong. It doesn't matter whether it's important to only one person on this site.

Dolf

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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 6:15:47 PM   
SL4V3M4YB3


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No seriously do a search and add to an old thread if you feel you have a relevant point to make because there is only so much room for discussion on any board. People usually like to find answers in one place rather than spread out in half a dozen threads. It's just common sense and good organisation not a personal vendetta against new posters.
People hate Google when it gives them a thousand results, think about the future rather than your needs here and now.
 

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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 6:17:31 PM   
Aneirin


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Status: offline 		I have no problem with old topics being brought up by new comers to the site, I am sure I have done it and everyone else for that matter. Although we point fingers at search buttons, not many of us can actually admit to using that thing themselves. There is also with the search that when an article of interest is found, it does not answer the specific question the askee wanted an answer too. And as everything is changing, more knowledge is being found, what might have been in the past, might not be relevant now.

Bringing up old topics is renewed education for all of us, as I am sure new things will be found each time.

And remember, we have all been there, we were all newbies at one time, why not give the new newbies a break ?


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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 6:22:03 PM   
DomDolf


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Status: offline 		That is a good argument. Organization like that on a list this large with this many posters likely will not be possible, but I agree with the idea. One way to make that more possible is for the moderators to send an introduction to the forums email or require CM members to sign up for the forums. I am really interested in organization, but it's up to the "management" to help with that. They will if there is perceived value, I'm sure.

Dolf

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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 6:24:24 PM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		I've been here a while and dont mind at all those reoccuring posts. 
Most often there is a small twist to each question that alters the answers some. 
And often new faces get to add their .02. 
Telling someone to go search a topic at least for Me seems to negate the premis of
communication We preach here. 


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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 6:25:18 PM   
kdsub


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Status: offline 		I say don't worry about what others think...just post your interest. The forum will quickly judge its worth.

If it does not interest the forum it will die . You have a right to say anything inside of TOS too bad if some don't like it.

Butch

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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 6:27:15 PM   
MsStarlett


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Don't panic.  I think just about every new poster brings up some old thread and gets yelled at about it.  I know I did!  *whew*  It took MONTHS before people stopped throwing popcorn at my head.  Just keep going.  If you come up with interesting things to say, people will eventually forget that you said something stupid.


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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 6:41:11 PM   
DomMeinCT


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomDolf

quote:

ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT

quote:

ORIGINAL: DomDolf

Make a choice to not read it or at a minimum not comment.

Dolf


By the same token, you can make a choice not to read those posters' comments with whom you'll disagree.

If your aim is to try to control others' comments, it's a losing battle and up to you to:  get a thicker skin, block and/or ignore those you don't like, or find another venue to post.



What bothers me is not the comments themselves. No one has thicker skin that I am aware of. What bugs me is how new or more timid people are not feeling it is okay to post because someone that IS TRYING TO CONTROL is telling them either directly or in a more coy fashion that they shouldn't have posted what they did.

Your point is invalid if it was directed to me personally. It's difficult to tell intent at times. Anything stated with the intent to prevent open and flowing communication is wrong. It doesn't matter whether it's important to only one person on this site.

Dolf


Nope, it wasn't directed at you; it was, as I see it, the options available to anyone who is dissatisfied with the responses in any thread.

There are people who are going to try and control any number of things on a public board.  If anyone isn't resilient enough to ignore what doesn't work for them, they're going to be frustrated.


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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 6:49:54 PM   
Termyn8or


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Status: offline 		Know what Dolf, just dredge up any post from the past in which you are interested. Nobody has a damthing to say about it except the mods and admins. If nobody wants to take the subject up, it will fade into obscurity just like last time. And now that people are all worked up about politics and oil prices, a blast from the past might be quite welcome.

Just what were we talking about six months ago, does anyone remember ? In six months it doesn't matter anymore ? Why bother posting at all then ?

Those threads, as long as they are not locked and are still available are fair game just like any other post.

T

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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 7:02:28 PM   
Owner59


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Status: offline 		Just as a new posters chime in,there`s new members and lurkers reading.

Some of the most important topics are old ones.

Don`t worry what other people might think.Just post,start threads.If it`s interesting,folks will reply,if not,it dies.Whatever.

It`s everyone`s forum.Have fun.

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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 7:17:50 PM   
Aneirin


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Status: offline 		If it were not for threads of a common subject constantly coming up, what would we all find to talk about ?

As it is, the , ''Off topic discussion '' is becoming a discussion on American politics, which is all well and cool as this is largely an American site, but it comes across as though the American people which I am sure those here are a good cross section of are worrying about the forthcoming elections.


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RE: Old Topics - 8/16/2008 7:35:07 PM   
Owner59


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Status: offline 		 Let`s have an ~On Topic Descussion~ forum.


I imagine that people other than Americans are also concerned w/ the election.

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