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Lockit -> The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:16:12 AM)

Can you see submission or dominance in someone's eyes?

I have been told over and over that my dominance can be seen in my eyes.  Today I get a dom saying he reads all this stuff in my eyes and that I am really submissive.  I think my reply to him will show a bit more than my eyes, but it made me wonder what other's thought.

I think there are expressions that can seem or actually come from a dominant or submissive place... but I wouldn't gauge someone one or the other based on a picture or expression or two. lol



IrishMist -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:19:10 AM)

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Can you see submission or dominance in someone's eyes?

For myself...no. It takes a bit more than just a picture on a website for me to make a determination to MYSELF about what kind of person they may be.



yourMissTress -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:25:13 AM)

Looking directly into a person's eyes, I can read a lot.  My favorite thing to see in the eyes of a sub is pain and suffering, maybe deisre, lust, love, hatred... you get the picture.  But not from a picture on a monitor.



Asmodeus -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:26:32 AM)

Not from a photograph.

However, in person I think there is some validity to this, but it's not really the eyes; it how a person reacts when a dominant personality directs their attention towards them. If there is someting about that person that touches on the submissive part of that person's personality, it tends to show itself in a lot of subtle ways (how they react, how their body reacts, the movements of their head , eyes, hands, etc.) that can be "read" by someone accustomed to looking for that unconcious physical response.

If someone says they cantell from a normal photograph on their monitor, their system is experiencing an ID-10-T error.



IrishMist -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:27:40 AM)

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If someone says they cantell from a normal photograph on their monitor, their system is experiencing an ID-10-T error.

LMFAO
I may have to steal that [8D]



Lockit -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:28:44 AM)

Tress, I love those moments! lol 



Missokyst -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:29:10 AM)

I dont think so.  I have big dark brown eyes that are somewhat intense.  Half the people tell me I look determined and dominant.  The other half tell me I look like I want to be saved.
I have seen other profiles here whose eyes scream, take care of me I am an innocent doe!  But frankly after seeing some of them attack.. LOL I think the doe is a lure.
Kyst



Lockit -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:30:53 AM)

ROFL Asmodeus!  I may need to use that in my reply to him! May I? hehe



Shadow-tiger -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:31:24 AM)

The eyes can show quite a lot.. But just what is shown depends on the persons mood and so much more. Now and then a picture can evoke a certain reaction, yet it's still a frozen moment in time.



Lockit -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:32:55 AM)

Basically I think that people see what they want to see from an online picture.  I just love it when they come off all intelligent like... positioning you to move in for the kill. lol

In person... the eyes are amazing!



CruelDesires -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:35:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I dont think so.  I have big dark brown eyes that are somewhat intense.  Half the people tell me I look determined and dominant.  The other half tell me I look like I want to be saved.
I have seen other profiles here whose eyes scream, take care of me I am an innocent doe!  But frankly after seeing some of them attack.. LOL I think the doe is a lure.
Kyst



Classic example of the old "bait and switch" swindle. If this keeps up, I'm gonna demand my money back.

C-D



pixidustpet -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:37:03 AM)

there is a picture of me that fallcon took...he tried 10 times for the expression he wanted.  finally he said "i want THAT look!" and i knew what he meant

its a weird mixture of shy, playful, and "if you get within arms reach i'm gonna turn you every which way but LOOSE."  its the one that drew Daddy's attention when i first signed up at collarme.

kitten who believes the eyes are the windows to the soul, but photos dont tell the whole story.  oh and kyst?  i get the same "needs to be rescued!" reaction from my deep brown eyes too.



softness -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:43:41 AM)

Fuck yes.

Eye contact restriction is highway robbery for me .... it takes away one of the most important aspects of play, the connection with the perosn I am playing with. Even outside of play, even just sharing a joke with a friend, its all in the eyes for me.

Eye contact and behaviour, along with all forms of non-verbal communication are dead give-aways about a person's character. I feel that I can judge whether someone really is who the seem to be by what their eyes say. When you look someone right in the eye, you can tell a lot about their personal power, if they allow you to.

Eyes really are the windows to the soul, I don't trust people who keep the curtains closed.



gypsygrl -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 11:47:57 AM)

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i get the same "needs to be rescued!" reaction from my deep brown eyes too.


Yeah, there's something about brown eyes that do that to people.  



chiaThePet -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 12:05:55 PM)

 
I've been told my blue green eyes have a submissive shy gaze about them.

That is of course unless I want sex.

Then they just burn through your clothes and my lashes lick you to orgasm.

Bat Bat.

chia* (the pet)



pixidustpet -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 12:06:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: gypsygrl

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i get the same "needs to be rescued!" reaction from my deep brown eyes too.


Yeah, there's something about brown eyes that do that to people.  


and its why i like my glasses.  i can hide to a certain extent behind them, and not let just anyone in to see who i really am till i *choose* to. 

kitten, thoughtfully



chamberqueen -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 12:08:49 PM)

It takes eye movement to truly be able to read them.  I know I have a bad habit of rolling my eyes though I typically pride myself on keeping a poker face. 

In my latest profile picture I was trying for a look that I had read that most men respond to:  big eyes looking slightly up, playing with my hair - it is a look of innocence and willingness to be guided.  I had someone write to me to tell me how sad I looked and how I obviously was not meant to be a slave and should go back to being a full time Domme.  (I got many more emails complimenting me on the photo, even a couple where people told me that they wished they looked as sexy as I did.)  When reading someone's eyes it can be very easy to project your own feelings.



E2Sweet -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 12:20:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

It takes eye movement to truly be able to read them....



I totally agree. I also believe you have to be face-to-face with another person to get a good read. The computer monitor, to me, is really a safety buffer that makes it much easier to hide one's true character.



Gestion -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 12:38:20 PM)

I believe you can see it anothers eyes - windows to the soul everytime :)



NeedingMore220 -> RE: The Eyes Have It (8/13/2008 2:35:24 PM)

I agree that eyes are windows to the soul ... only in person, not on the monitor.  



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