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ORIGINAL: TysGalilah

 
ohhh crap ...a test and me without my pencil again..
 
  Glad to hear he is recovering nicely tho'  : ) 
but I get the whole  " he's the one in charge  so how do I tell him to stop being so stubborn and sit his butt down and behave while he heals "  quandry..
 
  I guess you just do...maybe if you're in a nurses costume  it would soften the instructions  ?    grinz
 
look at it this way > as a wounded bird  he probably couldn't catch'cha even if you do piss him off...ya?
 
kidding : )    well maybe not.
 
right now..I'm the wounded bird ...broke my arm 2 weeks ago...
it makes ya cranky...
I HATE needing to be the one who needs help !  hate it..
 
Tyson said the sweetest thing tho' 
made my heart melt
when we were talking about whether he would fly here  or I would fly there...
I told him that all I could think/worry about in either situation is  > how will I do for you and take care of you when I am in THIS condition ...sniff
and he said
  " funny...all I can do is think about is how wonderful it will be for me to take care of you"
 
feels odd and wonderful to hear that all at the same time..
He always has a way to put things in better perspective so efficiently and effectively.. : )
 
warm wishes of a speedy recovery to you both
Cyndi

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ORIGINAL: HornyToadsMI

Darcy, Masterofdrkness2 and Callafirestorm - you get me on this.  We are a "50's Household", and to be "incharge" of the one who is "incharge" was quite the task.  To the others....it is more indepth than just a "I am married to this guy and have to step up" issue.  It is a core feeling, that I guess I did not convey very well to some.  Consdering that I have trouble describing my way out of a "wet paper bag without a map", I can see where some of it can get lost in translation. 

Thanks for the warm thoughts of support from those who 'got me'. 

oh i got it.  [:D]

it can be a bear to be the one "in charge" when you're used to being the one following orders. 

its a running joke here..."where are the claw proctectors, beloved?"  (his nighttime wrist braces)  him grumbling puts them on.  i wait.  and wait.  "i dont know where the nose hose is, do you?"  (the bipap face mask)  more grumbling.  every single night.  then i lay behind him giggling at the growling.  i handle it with humor....and he does it.

kitten

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ORIGINAL: susie

FR

I am in the opposite position as currently my DOM is the one doing the caring and wonderfully too I might add. I have recently had a brain tumour removed and am going through all the tests and treatment following that. He has had to cook, clean, do the washing, care for me, run me to the doctor and the hospital. He has done it all without any complaint although it makes me feel tremendously guilty for putting him through all this especially as his first wife/slave died from a brain tumour. I can't imagine what memories it brings back for him.

I will need to find him something really special to reward him with when this is all over.

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ORIGINAL: HornyToadsMI

Bossman was hurt last month.  I wont go into too many details, but I will say he broke an appendage (no, that one still works!!!)  LOL  I am having my dedication as his sub tested.  You know you are totally devoted and can read your Dom when they dont have to ask you to do things - like bring medicine, ice, hold chairs, bring meals, etc.  I even had the pleasure of washing Him (He is usually very independent).  Just my thoughts.  :)

I think that's really sweet, but I just have to point out that vanillas care for their partners like that too.  Gasp.  I don't really agree that it's bdsm specific.

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ORIGINAL: HornyToadsMI

Bossman was hurt last month.  I wont go into too many details, but I will say he broke an appendage (no, that one still works!!!)  LOL  I am having my dedication as his sub tested.  You know you are totally devoted and can read your Dom when they dont have to ask you to do things - like bring medicine, ice, hold chairs, bring meals, etc.  I even had the pleasure of washing Him (He is usually very independent).  Just my thoughts.  :)