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RE: Fair questions! - 7/24/2008 3:52:13 PM

StrongSpirit

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Your questions seem normal.

But they may be a bit too personal for someone you barely know.

Some things I want to tell only people I trust or only people I like.

In particular, the question "why aren't you taken" is something that is not appropriate for anyone to ask till you have met the person.

It's kind of like asking a job interview "What are your flaws?" People are likely to give bullcrap answers like "I'm a workaholic".

Wait till you know a person a lot better before asking them.

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RE: Fair questions! - 7/24/2008 4:21:55 PM

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Lots of people never update their profiles.

Beyond that someone could be seeking, but not until they get settled in a new house or job in a few months time. Or were seeking until an immediate family member became terribly ill.

Do you really think nobody here has a life? That we have nothing better to do than update profiles daily? "I'm not accepting any dates for two weeks till I get over the flu". What a self centered attitude to castigate people for not posting such things.

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RE: Fair questions! - 7/24/2008 4:27:26 PM

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Me too Lynnxz. Oh my God, if I had a dollar for every time I had someone tell me that being on collarme meant I had to be their bitch, I could buy myself a new corset.

Thing is, you can ask questions, and people might not answer. Just because they are actively searching, doesn't mean they are interested in you.

I have a "fair question" for you. Your profile says you are 18 years of age. Yet you joined almost 2 years ago. How does that work?

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RE: Fair questions! - 7/24/2008 4:29:46 PM

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Depends on the question of course....i'll try and answer if i feel it's a valid question. or has a point beyond providing them with yanking material.....but i will admit a few times i've been a wise ass and asked if they were taking a CM Poll.....

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RE: Fair questions! - 7/24/2008 4:34:38 PM

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I think those are fair questions, but it's also a fairly rude thing to do unless you've been asked for input or approached by them already.

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RE: Fair questions! - 7/24/2008 4:52:34 PM

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Actually, I know this one. It was something I hadn't realized until yesterday. Believe it or not, it also happens to answer the OP as well.

Both answers relate to those of us who don't spend a lot of time updating the profile. Mine actually still says seeking submissive men, even though I have a sub. The logic behind that in My personal case is, they don't exactly have a listing for top/bottom here, and I still play casually. So, in a sense, I'm still looking for submissive men. Point being, I didn't change that part when I rewrote My profile the last time around. I just changed the text.

The other answer is, CM does not automatically update your birthday when each year rolls around. Unless you change the age on it, the age remains the same as when you created the profile.

Fair enough?

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ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

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ORIGINAL: PrincessEllie

Me too Lynnxz. Oh my God, if I had a dollar for every time I had someone tell me that being on collarme meant I had to be their bitch, I could buy myself a new corset.

Thing is, you can ask questions, and people might not answer. Just because they are actively searching, doesn't mean they are interested in you.

I have a "fair question" for you. Your profile says you are 18 years of age. Yet you joined almost 2 years ago. How does that work?

CD

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RE: Fair questions! - 7/24/2008 6:58:56 PM

pandoravampire

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This is all so individual. Some people are often unused to frank honesty that i portray in my questions/answers. That's fine. They are probably not for me, nor would they like me.
I like transparency in my communication, i adore straight to the point communicators. Others dont.
People who beat about the bush, piss me off. shy people annoy me as i perceive it as failing to take responsibility for their share of the communication, others find it cute, go figure?
There is nothing wrong with any questions im asked. I have a choice as to whether i answer and how i answer.

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RE: Fair questions! - 7/24/2008 7:03:40 PM

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Sometimes, when you contact someone, that person is no longer in the same state of mind he or she was when writing that ad. I know at one point I even thought about changing my ad to switch, instead of submissive, because I just wasn't feeling submissive anymore, and I'm a pretty damn good dominant if I want to be. So, had someone contacted me at that time, I'm not sure what kind of response she would have received. I just wasn't in the usual "duane" mood at the time, and while it was rare, it did happen.

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