|
PsyVamp -> RE: Jealousy over age? (7/23/2008 12:59:43 PM)
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: cantilena
quote:
ORIGINAL: mistoferin
I have seen and heard sentiments from younger women that would seem to indicate that many of them think that older women are jealous or intimidated by their age and beauty. I'm absolutely sure that there are indeed older women who feel exactly that way...but it certainly is not an across the board thing.
Actually, for some of us (myself included), quite the opposite is true. Certainly I can appreciate the beauty of a younger woman but there is absolutely nothing that I would trade to be one again. I LIKE my mature self....LOL. I have so much more to offer now than I ever did at twenty something....and I think a lot of other older women feel exactly the same way. I wouldn't give any of it up to be in tighter, younger skin when the only thing that I could possibly see that might be gained by doing so would be the superficial attentions of men.
So to the younger ones...please don't think that we are all that way. We don't all look at you with envy. Some of us just appreciate you for who you are, appreciate ourselves for who we are...and we don't automatically get our hackles up when you walk in the room. I think that sometimes younger women feel like they are discounted by us older gals...and that disregard must come from jealousy over their age. For some I am sure that it might even be true. Not all of us are like that though.
I think you're right: some of the older women probably are intimidated. Maybe some of the younger ones pick up on that. On the other hand, some of the younger ones likely play into it all as well. Sort of like blood in the water, if you will.
At the end of the day, though, it's all sort of a joke. I'll explain what I mean...
I read a few years ago about Paris Hilton being bitchily 'aghast' at some older female celebrities at a club somewhere. She was talking about women in their 30s! At the time, I only chuckled a bit and thought... oh, my dear misguided little twit: nothing is more fleeting than youth.
So it's funny to me. I just don't understand anyone being jealous of something so soon to disappear. Likewise, I don't understand anyone who might rely upon it for self-validation or worth. An older woman jealous of something she herself once enjoyed? A younger woman so aware of her youth that she things of such a dynamic with her elder? The situation makes me smile a little... chesirely, to be sure.
I've seen this happen at work...
One of my co-workers, late 20's or so, is ALWAYS comparing herself to the other women in the office.. she has to be prettier, thinner, have better clothes, better hair and makeup..
Well, a younger girl was hired as a summer intern and all of a sudden the other coworker was flirting outrageously with the two younger guys as well as the upper management... having the young guys "rate" the women in the office..oy..
I had a sit down with her and explained that she and the new girl weren't even in the same category so there was no reason for all of her actions. (the original coworker is married with children, the new girl is single right out of high school)She is so insecure she didn't even conciously know she was doing it. She was so used to being the youngest in the group that the new girl threw her for a loop.
So yes, I've seen it happen and I agree that it is mainly due to insecurity. I didn't even think twice about the new girl because she didn't register as "competition".. I rarely "compete" anyway, it is too "high school" for me.
My philosophy is either you want to be with me or you don't. We are either a good match or we aren't and no other person is going to influence that.
|
|
|
|
