I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Polls and Other Random Stupidity >> I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and

Page: [1] 2 next > >>

[Poll]

I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and

it was the first contact - accept

4% (2)

it was the first contact - decline

34% (15)

it was the first contact - decline and block

0% (0)

after a few emails - accept

11% (5)

after a few weeks - accept

2% (1)

when it feels right - accept

34% (15)

after a year - accept

0% (0)

i have a policy of always declining

9% (4)

what's a friend request?

4% (2)

Total Votes : 44

(last vote on : 8/16/2008 4:55:35 PM)
(Poll will run till: -- )

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 2:45:01 AM

JulieorSarah

Posts: 552
Joined: 8/25/2007
Status: offline

About 30 minutes ago i was asked by a CM-er to be their 'friend'.

it was the first contact they'd made to me - i declined

i've a policy of declining such requests, not sure why - i'm just kinda private i s'pose

what's your viewpoint?

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 4:40:34 AM

SinLee

Posts: 2876
Joined: 11/8/2007
From: Jersey girl, back in jersey
Status: offline

sometimes i'll accept and not add, sometimes i'll just decline ... depends on my mood...

i figure if they wanna stick me on their page and be little "subbie pic collectors" as alot of them that add at first contact seem to be... so be it, doesn't hurt me any...
sometimes i just don't feel like it though :p

_____________________________

I'm A dirty little whore, not YOUR dirty little whore!

(in reply to JulieorSarah)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 4:42:13 AM

BrokenSaint

Posts: 301
Joined: 10/30/2007
Status: offline

If it's someone I've spoken to at some length then I accept, otherwise I decline. Friends are just that. Friends.

_____________________________

In the name of progress,
In the name of madness
Drum beats faster
Crowd shouts louder
and chaos replaces order
VnV Nation - Nemesis

(in reply to SinLee)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 5:05:13 AM

purepleasure

Posts: 6941
Joined: 4/9/2004
From: Lehigh Valley, PA
Status: offline

unless I know them from the forums, I decline.

I don't want to be known as the Tila Tequila of cm

_____________________________

Patience, grasshopper.

Your stupidity does not impress me.

blame it on your hormones!!! - beerbug aka ydd

(in reply to BrokenSaint)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 5:19:15 AM

tsatske

Posts: 2037
Joined: 3/9/2007
From: Louisville, KY
Status: offline

I always accept but don't add. I have no problem with being one of hundreds of cute subbies on their page, as SinLee said.
I have once or twice became friends with someone after they did that, (pretty rare, i admit), and had to ask them write me and say, when i send them a friends request, that we are already on one anothers friends list, and had to explain that i didn't really know them well enough when they asked me, so i just 'accept but don't add'ed them.
Here, on CM, i might have one or two friends on my list which whom i corrospond very regularly, but, in general, my friends list is made up of people I know F2F.

_____________________________

“If you never did you should. These things are fun and fun is good”
~Dr. Seuss quote

(in reply to purepleasure)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 5:31:11 AM

VirginPotty

Posts: 11624
Joined: 7/16/2008
From: Virginville
Status: offline

I always decline on the 1st contact. I have no desire/or NEED to be on someone's "Friend" list unless we've corresponded for at least a week on the Boards/longer on the other side. Just my

_____________________________

Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.

(in reply to JulieorSarah)

Profile

Post #: 6

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 5:35:53 AM

stella41b

Posts: 4258
Joined: 10/16/2007
From: SW London (UK)
Status: offline

I refuse to either explain or justify my friendship as it is generally available to all freely. However I do differentiate between friendship and a friend, and I would assume that the difference is appreciation of my friendship.

_____________________________

CM's Resident Lyricist
also Facebook
http://stella.baker.tripod.com/
50NZpoints
Q2
Simply Q

(in reply to tsatske)

Profile

Post #: 7

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 5:36:25 AM

camille65

Posts: 5746
Joined: 7/11/2007
From: Austin Texas
Status: offline

There was no option for 'Ignore' which is what I do.
I don't get the whole 'Friends' thing to be quite honest. If I have a friend then I mail them, not sure why I need to have them earmarked.

_____________________________

~Love your life! (It is the only one you'll get).

(in reply to JulieorSarah)

Profile

Post #: 8

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 5:43:12 AM

LadyRainfire

Posts: 6040
Joined: 2/20/2008
Status: offline

With a very rare exception, all of my friends on my friends list are regular posters on the forums that I interact closely with and know on a first name basis. If I don't know you personally or if Lumus doesn't know you, pretty much you are SOL on getting onto my list..... Maybe I'm weird (shuddup Pots and holl-parts!) but my friends list is just that - my friends list. Not a trophy list, not a brag list, but a small intimate circle of friends.

The people on my list have special meaning for me.

_____________________________

"Desire is an insatiable beast. Sample your strongest dreams, and you will only crave more." ~ Master

~ one half of "L&L"~

My current state of mind

(in reply to stella41b)

Profile

Post #: 9

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 5:43:39 AM

SweetNika

Posts: 955
Joined: 4/19/2008
From: Forest Hills, Maryland
Status: offline

Unless it is someone I have spoken to and enjoy the company of at least in a virtual sense I decline.

< Message edited by SweetNika -- 7/22/2008 5:44:20 AM >

_____________________________

Blessed be,
Nika

(in reply to camille65)

Profile

Post #: 10

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 5:44:29 AM

LadyRainfire

Posts: 6040
Joined: 2/20/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: camille65

There was no option for 'Ignore' which is what I do.
I don't get the whole 'Friends' thing to be quite honest. If I have a friend then I mail them, not sure why I need to have them earmarked.

So does this mean that the friends request I was going to send out will be iggied, Camille?

_____________________________

"Desire is an insatiable beast. Sample your strongest dreams, and you will only crave more." ~ Master

~ one half of "L&L"~

My current state of mind

(in reply to camille65)

Profile

Post #: 11

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 5:48:27 AM

sirsholly

Posts: 42360
Joined: 9/7/2007
From: Quietville
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyRainfire

I'm weird

this surprises.....who?

_____________________________

PICKED UPON
TECHNO-DOLT
MEMBER OF THE SUBBIE MAFIA
GRACEFULLY CHALLENGED :::::splat:::::
BOOT WHORE
VAA/S FAN

GIVES GOOD HEART (Lushy)

CREATOR OF MAYHEM (practice)

(in reply to LadyRainfire)

Profile

Post #: 12

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 5:52:56 AM

LadyRainfire

Posts: 6040
Joined: 2/20/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

this surprises.....who?

No one. Nor the fact that you can't can't keep your big mouth shut even when the original quote says "shuddup Pots and holl-parts!"

_____________________________

"Desire is an insatiable beast. Sample your strongest dreams, and you will only crave more." ~ Master

~ one half of "L&L"~

My current state of mind

(in reply to sirsholly)

Profile

Post #: 13

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 6:41:38 AM

sambamanslilgirl

Posts: 10926
Joined: 2/5/2007
From: Chicago, IL
Status: offline

if i know the person from prior messages and/or the forums, then i will accept the request.

however if it's someone who was just browsing the picture gallery and/or doesn't send a prior message introducing themselves, then i will decline the request.

it's clearly stated in my profile about chat/friends requests but no one reads profiles these days.

_____________________________

...2011 - year of the fabulous rock star life ...and i do it so well...

...announcing Mr. & Mrs. British Petrol ...yeah, marrying into oil is slick business...

(in reply to JulieorSarah)

Profile

Post #: 14

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 7:02:02 AM

wandersalone

Posts: 4666
Joined: 11/21/2005
Status: offline

I don't get the whole friends list thing. I usually get requests from total strangers to be friends with them and I pretty much decline them all. And yes I will confess to having no idea how and no desire to get a myspace or facebook account!

_____________________________

Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. Martin Luther King
Godmother of the subbie mafia
My all time favourite threads
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=2002501
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=790885

(in reply to JulieorSarah)

Profile

Post #: 15

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 7:36:51 AM

sblady

Posts: 433
Joined: 9/28/2007
Status: offline

If I've never had contact with this person, I decline.

Also, not to sound weird or odd, but sometimes when I view their current friends list, I sorta get that "birds of a feather flock together" or high school clique thing and may or may not want to associated myself with a particular "group".

Geez....am I taking this thing far to seriously? Better take my meds!!

(in reply to JulieorSarah)

Profile

Post #: 16

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 8:13:14 AM

lighthearted

Posts: 1165
Joined: 11/26/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetNika

Unless it is someone I have spoken to and enjoy the company of at least in a virtual sense I decline.

what she said.

_____________________________

"Thou art to me a delicious torment." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

(in reply to SweetNika)

Profile

Post #: 17

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 8:31:59 AM

faerytattoodgirl

Posts: 5824
Status: offline

i dont collect friends..i have like 3 on there...2 are there because they are goth's which is rare in this way of life.

_____________________________

I did not reply to your cmail.

I am flawed.

Imperfect.

MUST SPANK!!!

SPAAAAAAAANK!!!

(in reply to lighthearted)

Profile

Post #: 18

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 8:39:06 AM

Rule

Posts: 10479
Joined: 12/5/2005
Status: offline

By one's friends or the company one keeps one will be known. (It is a quote, I believe.)

Some people have persons on their friends list whoms posts I have hidden from my view.

I am not into this listing of friends thing.

(in reply to JulieorSarah)

Profile

Post #: 19

RE: I've been asked to be a'friend on collar me' and - 7/22/2008 8:39:21 AM

LadyHibiscus

Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline

If I know the person, I accept. It's an easy way of clicking to perv or mail them, especially if they have a wacky sig. The strangers that want to add me, DELETED immediately. Let em add me to "admire" if they want to scope out my cleavage conveniently.

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]

(in reply to faerytattoodgirl)