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Stusmobile -> RE: Micro management (7/9/2008 7:25:15 AM)
Generally I am much more likely to say I need you to be at a certain place at a certain time, how you get there is of less concern than that you achieve it. Having said that there aspects that are micro managed, they are somewhat flexible and temporary. Time management and health are the primary concerns, knowing her like I do, I know that without someone being there to direct she'd work herself into a sick bed. Over time that management will ease as the lessons are learned, as the stress of the situation lessens and as I see the need becoming less. I'm not checking on her or trying to order her whole life, just stepping in and taking control of areas where she needs that help and where I can provide it.

Maya2001 -> RE: Micro management (7/9/2008 7:30:31 AM)
After 27 years of being independant making all my own decisions learning to work independently. I would have and extremely hard time being micro managed ..even at work managers will get under my skin and I will become defensive if they start trying to micromanage...I know my jobs and know when and how to do..I don't need or want that level of control in a relationship ..to I would find it very stifling

BeingChewsie -> RE: Micro management (7/9/2008 7:56:47 AM)
For many people it is a negative and good for them for knowing it. It is a concept that doesn't work for most people, we are ingrained from birth to try and be independent, well most of us. So I understand how people wouldn't want it for themselves but I don't get all the snide comments and innuendo about other people who do live this way. That I find bizarre. I'm pretty heavily managed..I make next to no decisions in my daily life unless should I have eggs or certain fruits for breakfast counts as major decision making..and I only have those two choices because he controls my feed plan and schedule...I can't decide to have pancakes..he has already decided a strict lower carb feed plan is best for me. R doesn't hover over me, he has a full active personal life, he lays down most things in terms of directives or just plain limits my access to things so I don't have disobeying as an option. It helps that he is mostly retired, works from home when he works and doesn't allow me to work at an outside job anymore. It puts me directly under his foot more, a state many people would find stifling. quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie It's a concept I get tired of seeing in such a bad light. While there are mis-matches with the level of management needed and given (Windchymes said it best), it's often just another term used to insult each other with, much like robot, doormat, et. al.

Lashra -> RE: Micro management (7/9/2008 8:01:22 AM)
I know its not for me. I did it with my first slave and it was too much like a job. He swore he needed it and so I decided that we would give it a try after two years of it I was done. Never again. Some people like it some do not, I'm one who doesn't. ~Lashra

windchymes -> RE: Micro management (7/9/2008 8:22:57 AM)
The problem I personally have with being "managed" that way is that, I just want to say, "Do you really think I'm that fucking stupid?" lol

Mercnbeth -> RE: Micro management (7/9/2008 9:14:02 AM)
~ Fast Reply ~ I love managing beth! Whether it falls into the criteria of 'micro' I leave to the outside observers. I think that 'macro' management is a better description anyway. I am in control of as many aspects of her life as is possible and pragmatically possible. We both like it that way. Routine management consists of speech restrictions, dress code, body maintenance, and of course her orgasms. Some days, like today, my management of her consists of managing others; painters, pool boy, and sprinkler repair men. It is part of our 24/7 foreplay dynamic. Many times my management makes the routine commitments and obligations more palatable. For instance, Saturday we have a formal charity event for a battered woman's shelter. While perusing the silent auction or listening to celebrity opera, knowing that beth is naked beneath her gown, makes for a more enjoyable event experience. Maybe I'll decide to manage her by having her wear her remote vibrating panty; always a fun game to play at these type events. I love it! It keeps both our minds always engaged, always focused on what we enjoy and is important to our life. To have that power surrendered to me from a woman so strong, confident, and able is thoroughly empowering. I never see it as a bother, no matter how many times I'm asked permission for what most would think are 'brainless' functions such as going to the bathroom, getting a drink, leaving the room. On the other side of the flogger, beth's submission to these rules, restrictions, and manner of life is similarly empowering to her. she's comfortable and empowered to enjoy serving me and, more importantly, our relationship. Usually problems come up when outside influences can't be managed; such as the work place. When we began I did my best to eliminate most of those, and not set beth up for failure. When being managed its best to have only one manager/Master. I think the biggest risk is that it gets to be routine. For us it hasn't, but it have only been six years. Who knows if in sixty I'll get tired of being asked by her for permission to pee. Eh, by that time, she'll be in diapers full time anyway. Like anything, if management is 'work' for either party - don't do it. On the other hand if it seems like fun - try it. Just a final thought/question regarding the concept of 'micro-management'; focusing on the literal 'micro' specific thought/action/result. Wouldn't the use of a safe-word be considered as the ultimate 'micro management' example?

windchymes -> RE: Micro management (7/9/2008 9:38:38 AM)
You can try to manage a woman's bathroom habits all you want, but EVENTUALLY, MistressMotherNature is going to step in and assume dominance [:D]

ownedgirlie -> RE: Micro management (7/9/2008 9:42:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes You can try to manage a woman's bathroom habits all you want, but EVENTUALLY, MistressMotherNature is going to step in and assume dominance [:D] LOL I've seen this said before, but never so cutely [:)]. To some degree it's true, to some degree it is not. He has me on a schedule that my body could, and did, adjust to.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Micro management (7/9/2008 9:57:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes You can try to manage a woman's bathroom habits all you want, but EVENTUALLY, MistressMotherNature is going to step in and assume dominance [:D] No worries, beth looks great in a diaper.

windchymes -> RE: Micro management (7/9/2008 11:06:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes You can try to manage a woman's bathroom habits all you want, but EVENTUALLY, MistressMotherNature is going to step in and assume dominance [:D] No worries, beth looks great in a diaper. Heh heh....I'll take your word for it! [;)]

greenearth21 -> RE: Micro management (7/9/2008 4:12:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shadowcd I have only recently heard of this term, though I suppose have always known about the various aspects of control involved. I'm curious what other people think of it in it's various degree's. I really don't know that much about it other then the basic concept. In its varying degrees it obviously can be a pain the derriere or a fun/erotic deal. I'd be on teh receiving end and i dont mind some control to soem degree...but i absolutely dislike the extreme side of it. It obviously depends on the couple. I would enjoy the simpler forms of it (if it is even to be considered micro management) such as.....such as....um....asking them if i can go out with such and such friend (that would be a lot for me, especially with my lifestyle) but i find it appealing. On the other hand someone who would like where I'll be stopping before coming home and who i' spoke to...probably wouldnt work

Prinsexx -> RE: Micro management (7/9/2008 5:27:45 PM)
I’m blown away at the moment learning about power balance in terms of its micro messages, the covert within the dynamic as opposed to the overt observable messages. Most of the work thus far has been done in the application of the theories to the workplace but it has trule helped me to understand power exchange dynamics. See: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Microinequity Microinequity, according to Sandler refers to the ways in which individuals are "either singled out, or overlooked, ignored, or otherwise discounted" based on an unchangeable characteristic. Also: http://www.insighteducationsystems.com/AtAGlance.htm Microinequities — negative micromessages — can be further explained as small, subtle messages, frequently unconscious, that devalue, discourage, and ultimately impair performance (in the workplace). These messages can take the shape of looks, gestures, or tones, nuance, inflection, inference and even the absence of a message can often be a message itself. Micro Advantages — positive micromessages — can encourage others (employees) to commit andfeel more motivated and excel. Also: http://www.magazine.org/content/files/Microinequities.pdf

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