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RE: Probably a stupid question.... - 7/4/2008 2:04:25 PM

julietsierra

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My personal definition of sensual domination is play in which there is no pain. It's all very lovey dovey and I've watched and not understood it at all. But THAT'S JUST ME. (capitalized so as to emphasize that it's my own personal view and in no way, judgmental regarding someone else's form of play)

I love impact play - the harder the better; the stingier and/or thuddier the better, so all that nicey nicey stuff would just irritate me to no end.

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RE: Probably a stupid question.... - 7/4/2008 2:49:17 PM

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The above is exactly why I term Myself as a sensual sadist. Thank you for the interesting read.

By "somewhat opposite" I didn't mean to imply that the two are in any way mutually exclusive. They can, and often are, be combined in an infinite number of ways. As a bottom, I live the combination. Never know what's coming next.

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RE: Probably a stupid question.... - 7/4/2008 2:57:15 PM

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Lily,
First thank you for your reply. I am not under any false notion of women being sensual dominants. However, I was writing from my own perspective, meaning that I'm a male the domme is a female, hence tha all dominaion by females, what I meant by that reference generally, is isn't the whole bdsm play sensual in nature meaning guys do it because they are turned on by it, so in THAT sense sensual. Hopefully that clarifies my statement better. -Bob

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RE: Probably a stupid question.... - 7/4/2008 3:01:54 PM

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Funny, maybe I am the odd duck. I always thought Sensual domination involved creating sensations. Non-sensual domination would be more mental and more hands off, where there was little contact but the same level of interaction. For me, at least, thats how I always thought of it, so even my sadistic actions with Fox are sensual dominance, where most of my control over Angel is non-sensual since it is very hands off most of the time.

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RE: Probably a stupid question.... - 7/4/2008 3:03:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

My personal definition of sensual domination is play in which there is no pain. It's all very lovey dovey and I've watched and not understood it at all. But THAT'S JUST ME. (capitalized so as to emphasize that it's my own personal view and in no way, judgmental regarding someone else's form of play)

I love impact play - the harder the better; the stingier and/or thuddier the better, so all that nicey nicey stuff would just irritate me to no end.

juliet

Point taken, juliet, and I am sure you are not alone in that, either. But it does make me curious about something (and I so not mean to derail the thread.. but since this is the post that made me curious, I thought I might as well ask it here...): Suppose your SirRobert did decide to tie you up one night and spend an hour tickling your ass with a feather. How would you make it clear at that moment that you just were not into it? And if the answer you got back was "This is what I want to do tonight and since you are all tied up, you are stuck with it." Would you use your safe word?

edit: Maybe that is the wrong way to ask about that, so I will rephrase: Do you think a dedicated hardline masochist should list sensual domination as a hard limit? Just to avoid confusion, I mean, so that some sadistic dominant knows not to blow what might otherwise be a great relationship by deciding to be nice just this once?

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RE: Probably a stupid question.... - 7/4/2008 8:56:30 PM

pettingdragons

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ORIGINAL: GentlemanBobIII
Isn't all domination by a woman sensual in nature, or am I missing something? -Bob

You are missing the point...
Domination can be sensual if the Dominant is a man or a women...
in this slaves experience Dominant women are much worse at afliciting pain and much more devient then men.....but then to each their own

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RE: Probably a stupid question.... - 7/4/2008 9:00:21 PM

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I find just as much pleasure in combing out my slaves hair or slowly dragging the razor while shaving her tender spots as I do in tenderizing her ass with a new toy or pushing her threshold in pain. A kiss with a mouth or a whip follows the same path.

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