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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 5:08:56 AM

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How to say "I'm not interested." ? Like this:

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"Thank you, but I'm not interested."

That was easy!

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 5:19:10 AM

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What are some polite ways to say, "I'm not interested."?

Sorry but i'm not interested.
Thank you for your interest but .........
I'm always a little baffled by threads like these. Surely most if not all of us were brought up to use good manners. So why the difficulty in puttting them into practice?

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At what point do you think it's okay to be impolite?

Thats a matter of personal opinion.
I actually don't think there is any point in being impolite. Block is a better option in my humble opinion.

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Is there a good etiquette for saying no?

Just being polite i'd say.

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 5:21:38 AM

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if it's online/email.. one that I use (and, with very rare exceptions, have not gotten the flaming emails in return): "Thanks for your interest. Good luck in your search"
If it's worded politely, it IS polite.. which doesn't guarantee that the recipient is going to see it that way, but hey.. that's THEIR problem, not yours.
and I agree with Raven.. if it takes more than two polite responses, 3rd time is fair game.. (in which case, Sod off you waste of sperm might work ;) )

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 5:26:38 AM

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If online I usually send an email thanking them for their interest but not interested and/or involved.
I recently had to block someone as he would not leave me alone although my ad clearly states
I am in exclusive M/s relationship. So...now I have my ad hidden again. Master prefers that.
Of course, if on CM they do have the generic buttons for replying which you can always use as well.

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 5:28:21 AM

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'i don't feel like we're compatable; good luck in your search though.'

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 5:33:10 AM

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I'm pretty much a "Have a nice life" kind of person if I'm being polite.

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 5:35:19 AM

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I am not interested in pursuing a relationship because we are not compatable. Best thoughts for finding what you want.

I'm going to mention that I would never tell a person "I like you, but the chemistry just isn't there." - IF I found the person not to my liking. I wouldn't lie, I also find such a response to be a bit too open ended and leaves the person with the possible assumption that there may be a future some how, in some way, because they are 'liked'. It's too confusing for some people.

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 5:55:08 AM

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sometimes you cannot be polite and really have to be blunt especially here.

the many times i've politely replied "i'm not interested" i've received nasty responses as well as that dreaded "why? i thought we were compatible for each other ...tell what's it so i can be that person you're looking for..." message. if i feel you've grabbed my interest, i'll let you know but if you didn't - don't expect a reply back.

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 5:56:37 AM

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"No" is a complete sentence.

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 5:59:34 AM

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sometimes you cannot be polite and really have to be blunt especially here.

the many times i've politely replied "i'm not interested" i've received nasty responses as well as that dreaded "why? i thought we were compatible for each other ...tell what's it so i can be that person you're looking for..." message. if i feel you've grabbed my interest, i'll let you know but if you didn't - don't expect a reply back.

one guy tried that on me... I said if you have to change yourself that much to be what I want, then why would I want you?

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 6:03:20 AM

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"No" is a complete sentence.

followed by "what part of that has you baffled?" if they persist

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 6:25:27 AM

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What are some polite ways to say, "I'm not interested."?

We typically go with something like "We do not seem to be well matched," or "Our interests are too divergent to pursure this further." Using collective pronouns seems more polite, as it suggests that the lack of compatibility is mutual, rather than a unilateral rejection.
Ending with something like "Good luck in your search." can be an effective polite dismissal.

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At what point do you think it's okay to be impolite?

Being impolite is never proper etiquette. When someone continues to pursue us after an initial polite rejection, we might patiently explain that, as time is a scarce resource, it is only logical to focus on those with whom we are most compatible.
If they persist, we find that polite repetition of the same explanation (perhaps preceeded by a "As we explained in our last message,") tends to bore them eventually.

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Is there a good etiquette for saying no?

Yes. "No, thank you," is one way.

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 6:33:56 AM

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What are some polite ways to say, "I'm not interested."?
At what point do you think it's okay to be impolite?
Is there a good etiquette for saying no?

I'd just say "Thanks but no thanks" If they persist in their unwanted attentions then that's when you could get more forceful and a bit more impolite in your dis-interest.When the other person can't take no for an answer then that's when you can get more ruder!

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 6:34:11 AM

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Hello morningschild,
I have an interesting personality quirk that works well for me here. I respond to anyone, anywhere, anytime the way they approach me. Rude gets rude back plus a little. (Never be afraid to escalate) Courtesy gets courtesy back. Fairly straightford system. Good luck!

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 7:21:03 AM

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What are some polite ways to say, "I'm not interested."?
At what point do you think it's okay to be impolite?
Is there a good etiquette for saying no?

I think the age difference might become a problem.
i feel we have differing interests.
I need a father for my children and I think this might not suit you.
We have a different God.
We have an irreconcilable reality
I cannot do loveless bdsm.
I don't fuck animals.
I don't do marrieds.
i am under consideration by someone else.
I need time to think.
I need time to heal.
I need more time.
Que?
Marry me or there's no future.
I am against vegetarianism.
I am extremely right wing.
I am a socialist.
I don't remember you from any previous life.
I am not into IT.
Thankyou but Australia is on the other side of the globe.
I have a dog and three cats and I am sorry you have allergies.
I have a nocturnal lifestyle.
I am a blood sucker.
I have no money sorry.
I own nothing.
I am waiting for gender re-assignment.
i am waiting for my divorce and cannot be seen with anyone.
I am post-operative at the moment.
My son. daughter/mother has mental health issues.
As yet I remain undiagnosed for.....
I am on ...........................(list medication).
I am lipppy, quippy and self-opinionated.
My diaper changing days are over.
I am tagged and need to stay within walking distance of an open prison.
My father will need to approve of you.
I want 24/7/365 and need micro managing.
I need you.
I cannot live without you.
I hate Wagner.
I can't get a work permit.
I don't adapt to large land mass climates.
Thank you but I have three other proposals of marriage to assess.
I get 64 mails a day like yours on alt.com....
My secretary will get back to you.
I'm sorry didn't I tell you I sacked my PA.
I am between academic diaries and I lost your contact info.
Well I do fuck animals.........
Watch my lips you thick retard: en oh.
I really am a princess.

There are as they say 50 ways at least to leave a lover......I just can't rememeber the other 1..........

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 7:26:59 AM

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As quoted from Homer Simpson:

"Don't want to hurt there feelings?....Simple, just use the 3 words.... I AM GAY!"

LOL

Well hello there.

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 7:45:33 AM

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Try this one.

Hello. I was witness to a federal crime. I will be leaving here to go into the witness protection program for an unforeseeable amount of time. Due to the severity of the crime and the type of criminals involved "organized ethnic criminal activity" I will no longer be allowed to speak with anyone from my past as it will put both of us in danger. Please do not call, write or email me as I will no longer be able to respond and it might put you in immediate and potential harms way. Thank you and good luck with your future endeavors.

P.S. This also works when you need to break a lease or leave a job with no advance notice.

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 7:46:57 AM

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Why be nice unless you are working with them or something? Tell them to take a hike.

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 9:33:40 AM

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Most of the time, I send a Thank you for your note, however I am not interested. type of note. Occasionally I have been more blunt then that.

One guy said, after I wrote him a 'not interested' he said "then why do you have a profile?" I said,"ok I am interested, just not in you" he replied back, "well you didn't have to be rude!" I hit block at that point. lol.

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RE: How to say not interested... - 7/2/2008 9:37:25 AM

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In real life? 'I'm not interested' works just fine for me. On CM, I just don't respond to 99.9% of the emails I get. 'I'm not interested' leads to:

But I'm RICH and AMAZING
FAT WHORE I don't want you anyway
You are a brat and no master wants you

Just retarded shit like that. Not worth the time. And to me, it's ok to be impolite once they ignore the first rejection. :D

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