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Defending your property - 6/29/2008 6:48:47 PM

DiurnalVampire

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Why is it, exactly, that when someone sends Fox an innapropriate message, they are disturbed or insulted that I message them to tell them to leave him alone? He is more than capable of teling them off himself, and he does. But, since he is my property, I do not see anything strange about wanting to make sure that the purveyor of a rude message or an innapropriate comment or advance knows that he is an owned boy.
Is it because I am the Female in the relationship, and he is the male? Does that have to do with why it is looked at strangely if I stand up for him, though if a male dom were in the same position it would almost be expected that he do something?
Maybe this is a minirant. I get it alot. People want to talk to him, but not to me. I dont mind that, but when he has rules, they dont want to bother with "someone elses rules" and want to get around them. Of course there is someone elses rules... he is someone elses slave!

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 6:54:31 PM

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I think it's because you're female that they don't think it matters. I had some weirdo send me strange and rather cryptic emails every couple of days. The first got my standard 'thanks but no thanks'. That was the last response I gave, but he kept this up for a couple of weeks. The Man happened to look over my shoulder as I was checking my b.com email and read it before I deleted it. His response was to write back something rather rude I guess, I wasn't allowed to read it. And that was it, no more creepy messages.

Me saying no didn't matter. Me not responding didn't matter. Him being an alpha male silverback gorilla did the trick.

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 6:55:59 PM

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It's because you're on the internet.

To me the issue is thinking there's anything to defend from- it's online, who the heck cares? If they are already sending inappropriate messages, then it's simply sullying everyone to continue to interact with them.

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 7:02:12 PM

DiurnalVampire

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I dont continue on, but I do make sure they realize that he isnt in a velcro collar, one of the ones playing hard to get. He has had lovely conversations with people on her ehtat have moved to IMs and then gone from respectful to things theyd rather he not tell me they said. Thats why I make sure its fairly well know I see his messages, and I can reply as I wish.

Sometimes, they back off. Other times they tell me they will be stealing him from me. Not that that will ever work, but it is annoying

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 7:19:47 PM

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It's the anonymity of the internet that drives people to do/say foolish things and break social boundaries. It is also the assumed security. You're in a box over there, what are you going to do if they say this or do that? What will happen to them if they message your boy saying, "Hey cockmeat, wanna show me some penor?" Nothing of consequence, unfortunately. That is why they will not listen and they will not stop.

If I'm in a bad mood I just delete the message. If I'm in a better mood my owner and I snicker over it, but I don't answer. If I'm bored and want to be entertained, I write back and have what I call a "war of words". Who can be the most creative with insults, sources, etc? :P

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 7:47:02 PM

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It doesn't just happen to females, mine got a rather ugly response from some joker too. It gave us a lot of laughs.

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 7:50:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

Why is it, exactly, that when someone sends Fox an innapropriate message, they are disturbed or insulted that I message them to tell them to leave him alone?

Cause you're spoiling their fun.

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 7:53:06 PM

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It's always fun to go neener neener at a wanker that thinks they are all that.

But not as fun for the wanker.

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 7:55:08 PM

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Honestly, I haven't had to do it, at least on the internet side of things.

In person, yes, it's happened once or twice.

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 7:58:42 PM

ownedgirlie

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If they're sending rude messages to begin with, it is doubtful they will find any tact between then and the time they hear from you. You're simply dealing with a certain type of person with whom you are unlikely to receive a favorable reply.

On the flip side, I had a male friend whose mistress found it inappropriate for me to have sent him my new phone number, even though we had spoken numerous times prior to her ownership of him. The email I received from her as a result was...well...less than charming, and my reply to her was blocked.

Rudeness abounds, on all sides.

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 8:00:45 PM

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when i had a picture up here i got tons of those kinds of messages and my Dom would simply block the people who wouldn't leave me alone after i said no thanks. now that my pic is down i only get messages from my friends here on the boards so it's all good.

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 8:10:00 PM

DiurnalVampire

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Its stuff like that that made Angel pull his profile. I can handle the rudeness, really. WhatI dont get is the ones who get insulted I email them about Fox. They tell me it isnt my place...
Just gripy tonight, it seems.

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 8:11:46 PM

LadyPact

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Oh, I'd have a freaking field day with that!

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 8:11:48 PM

Leatherist

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Of course it's not your place to puncture thier balloons-ouch, that stung!

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 8:12:40 PM

vampchick88

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Its not because your female, I too get emails that I'd rather not get. I think people honestly don't read profiles or they think there might be something fun about a "chase." pet has gotten emails where they clearly haven't read his profile. he tries to put it nicely that he is happily taken and that all they do is need to read his profile or at least look at the profile pic. then of course there are the ones who get a bit out of control, when that happens I step in. Unfortunately there are those out there, for whatever reason don't think the rules apply to them, think they can snag a sub, or are just downright rude and probably don't have anything else better to do. All I know is they are in the wrong not you, we have every right to defend our property. ~Lorelei

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 8:14:35 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Why are these boys just not using the handy BLOCK function? This might be the interwebz, but rudeness does not need to be responded to or engaged. Just BLOCK and move on.

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 8:18:03 PM

WhisperSupremacy

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In some ways I do find it slightly understandable. My ex seemed minorly interested in another guy she met on the internet (not on this site).... Having friends online is perfectly fine, but when another persons intentions become clear to me, that's when I have to step in and say "back the fuck off!".

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 8:20:14 PM

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Dinnae feel bad, DV. It's the opposite, here. I get women who send - well, let's put it this way.

There's those I send a greetings message to when they perv me, as per my profile. I kinda like doing those, sometimes "Welcome to the site" makes people feel welcomed.

Most of them just send a best wishes or such back.

Then there's the ladies I flirt with on the boards; we get into running glib commentary which is always good fun.

...and then there are the women who look at my profile and ask me out on a date or to Dom them in their first cmail, despite clear mention of Rain in said profile. I don't bother to reply, although I'm often tempted to parody Obi: "This is not the Dom you are looking for." *waves hand* Some of them get right irked when I won't "play" with them, and it always brings forth the thought: What the fuck...? Etiquettie, for some, be deadie.

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 8:24:59 PM

MissSCD

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It makes no difference whether you are a Dom/me when it comes to owning property.
If someone addresses your property without permission from you incorrectly, then you have every right to address that individual.
A high protocol Mistress dictates proper BDSM ethnics which we are getting so far away from now days.

Regards, MissSCD

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RE: Defending your property - 6/29/2008 8:27:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissSCD

It makes no difference whether you are a Dom/me when it comes to owning property.
If someone addresses your property without permission from you incorrectly, then you have every right to address that individual.
A high protocol Mistress dictates proper BDSM ethnics which we are getting so far away from now days.

Regards, MissSCD

It can be amazingly funny to take a sub in "high protocol" to a pansexual play party-and watch as the players and swingers try to hit on her. And they get totally ignored. It's sort of like watching moths at a window pane-bonk bonk bonk.

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