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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 12:51:20 PM

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Love, bring that sweet scotish brogue this way and I'll show you that fat girls can have full range of motion.

How? Have you a fat friend? because sweetie YOU certainly ain't

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 12:51:32 PM

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If you haven't noticed a rise maybe you should talk to the people in this area. I have found that many people are injurred from a worker's comp injurry and have been on there for over 3+ years....others have had other kinds of injurries. Maybe its my area because Louisiana isn't known for being that good of a state. But how come I have chatted with several and the outcome is practically the same.

It's called laziness.

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 12:53:47 PM

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Where would you draw the line that would exempt people from the "potential partner" pool? As someone else mentioned, would those who need a hearing aid or glasses be cast aside? Someone prone to back aches or headaches? Fibromyalgia? Missing body parts?

My lines are drawn. Medical or mental disabilities. That is my line in the sand.

Saying I should be turned on or enjoy someone who has a bad back? bi-polar or any other range of illnesses? If I choose not to continue with someone who has these problems, I certainly can and will.

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 12:55:39 PM

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Love, bring that sweet scotish brogue this way and I'll show you that fat girls can have full range of motion.

How? Have you a fat friend? because sweetie YOU certainly ain't

Flattery will get you everywhere. (it's all in the camera angle ;)

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 12:59:20 PM

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Flattery will get you everywhere. (it's all in the camera angle ;)

It is also in attitude... a big girl with a good attitude just registers as a big (rubinesque) girl... a big girl with a bad attitude registers as fat.

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 1:06:57 PM

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Flattery will get you everywhere. (it's all in the camera angle ;)

It is also in attitude... a big girl with a good attitude just registers as a big (rubinesque) girl... a big girl with a bad attitude registers as fat.

you know, this seems like a no-brainer to me, but apparently it's a difficult concept.

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 1:14:57 PM

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mist... I think you maybe read came4U's post slightly wrong (or I have?) in that the way I read it she is saying she wouldn't rule out someone 'disabled', she just isn't 'going out of her way' to look for one... Which I think applies to most open minded folks, they search for the right person... if that person happens to have a disability is isn't an automatic barrier.

Well, I guess I'm not sure. I read it as she would not start a relationship with someone who has a disability at the beginning. My apologies if I misread.

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 1:27:34 PM

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Well, I guess I'm not sure. I read it as she would not start a relationship with someone who has a disability at the beginning. My apologies if I misread.

Yes, that is what I meant. Not going all out for looking for that type either.

If I don't want someone with heart problems, I don't. If I don't want someone with one leg, I don't. I wouldn't begin the process of 'a relationship' him in that case. That is a far cry from being with someone already for 20 years then dumping them because of it.

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 1:28:23 PM

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Love, bring that sweet scotish brogue this way and I'll show you that fat girls can have full range of motion.

*chuckle* Actually, on a serious note, a fat girl can have MORE than a full range of motion...when she happens to suffer from a condition that involves her ligaments being unusually loose. Of course, this also means she lives with chronic pain and will probably develop early osteoarthritis, so those with issues with the disabled should probably avoid her.
Strangely enough, I don't feel a loss. :P

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 3:41:26 PM

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I believe it's called body dismorphic disorder, where in, they feel that for example haveing two limbs or such is a mistake, and wish them gone. Lets say for instance a man who believes ful well he should of been born with only one leg or one foot, and feels his body is all wrong, so he'll take measures to loose the offending part. That however might not be the same thing you mean.

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to answer the actual question, yes there are individuals who will attempt to amputate parts of their bodies in order to become 'disabled'. i forget what the term is. however it is extremely rare though the numbers aren't well known because so many people aren't able to actually go through with it.

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 3:47:55 PM

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With the new movie "Quid Pro Quo" coming out talking about the a man being disabled since he was 8 years old and discovering there was a world of people afflicted with a desire to be disabled. It started me to worry. I have noticed over the years there has been a rise of disabled or injurred men that are in the lifestyle claiming they are doms/masters. I never have participated with them for in my mind you must be functional in everyway possible.

There are two reasons for this post.
1. Is there are a desire by others in the lifestyle to be disabled?
2. Am I the only one that recognizes the rise of disabled beings in the lifestyle?

There is a strong current of amputee fetishism. That's the only one I have experience of.
See:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amputee_fetishism

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 4:09:45 PM

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Body Dysmorphic Disorder is not quite the same thing. BDD is when you cannot see your body the way it really is. The person usually focuses on one particular body part, such as they feel their ears are enormous (and therefore always wear a hat pulled down over them), or their teeth are awful (when they in fact are not), their lips are too thin (and they have repeated and unnecessary injections to make them bigger), etc.

The BDD person goes to great lengths to try to make right the perceived wrong, but it doesn't involve cutting off limbs.

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 7:23:21 PM

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Guess what honey, you won't be young and physically on top of the world forever either.

It takes more than physical perfection to be a fully functional human being. Or to be a dominant for that matter. There are some great looking male subs here, physically capable in every which way, but not dominant.

In fact I will go so far as to say that the better dominants have a certain measure of maturity and hard won life experiences, unfortunately by the time you get those things, you've lost that young pulchritudeness.

Let's hope you don't get hit by a bus and lose a leg. Because obviously if a dominant has to be an example of physical perfection, then a sub needs even more of it. I mean, you couldn't be a real sub if you couldn't kneel, everyone knows that. So that lets out those of us with arthritis, fibromyalgia, acl injuries etc. It hasn't anything to do with what you feel, just what you look like in the porn.

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 7:50:27 PM

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We have heard alot of negative towards the writer....meaning MY thoughts. I would really like to hear from someone that is disabled and how they cope with it in the lifestyle whether it be dom or sub. Yes in this fashion disabled could mean vision deficits to physical set backs. How do you and your partner work together? Or if you are single, how do you explain it to a new partner? Does it make a big difference to them?

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 7:58:21 PM

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Don't forget the third reason for this post which involves watching the movie "Quid Pro Quo" and then fictiously creating some perspective of the lifestyle to discuss on a message board.

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/24/2008 8:29:03 PM

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We have heard alot of negative towards the writer....meaning MY thoughts. I would really like to hear from someone that is disabled and how they cope with it in the lifestyle whether it be dom or sub. Yes in this fashion disabled could mean vision deficits to physical set backs. How do you and your partner work together? Or if you are single, how do you explain it to a new partner? Does it make a big difference to them?

It's called communication. No one in life is perfect. Everyone has concerns, needs and issues which are discussed within their relationships. Whether someone is deaf, missing a limb, suffers from depression or diabetes, was in a car accident and has chronic pain ... all of these things are fairly common and people with these issues have healthy, full relationships. Why you think somehow someone with a disability or health issue is automatically not for you, I don't quite understand. It's your prerogative, obviously. But why they would choose to discuss this with you is beyond me.

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RE: Quid Pro Quo - 6/25/2008 4:05:52 PM

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We have heard alot of negative towards the writer....meaning MY thoughts. I would really like to hear from someone that is disabled and how they cope with it in the lifestyle whether it be dom or sub. Yes in this fashion disabled could mean vision deficits to physical set backs. How do you and your partner work together? Or if you are single, how do you explain it to a new partner? Does it make a big difference to them?

I've just spent an age trying to write a reply to this.

Short version: I'm disabled, I explain it clearly and slowly, cos I do get that it's complicated. It does not limit my capacity to have relationships. I'd suggest that a bigger problem in the last relationship was that I don't do needles, at all, compared to the fact that I have a string of "issues" both physical and mental. We had to be conscious of my health concerns, and I had to be careful, but it never stopped us doing anything we wanted to do/he wanted to do/he had planned. My not liking needles did mean I didn't participate at all in a play party at the house. And that something he enjoys a lot couldn't be something we shared.

There are far more limiting factors in a relationship than disability.

If my disabilities are going to be an issue to someone I'm serious about, they aren't the right person for me. But, I've got to say, the few people I've been serious about calling a friend or something more have *all* *without exception* been ok with it. (Ok, one took a little while to come around, but he did, yay for him.)

We can't choose the cards we're dealt, just how we go about playing them.

And it's your perogative to discount people with diabilities, it's your choice to limit yourself in that way. Like many others though, I'm curious as to what you would consider a disability, and what impact it has to have on your life for it to be limiting. (I mean, I need to eat regularly, blood sugar issues, does that limit my life?)

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