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Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 1:27:41 PM

male2shemaid

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Is there a way for sub males/trans to search on Collarme for single Dommes who are seeking sub males/trans who are NOT Professional Dommes offering services in exchange for financial reward?

If you are a single sub and you do a search for Dommes on here you literally get thousands of Dommes appearing in the results page but until you read EACH and EVERY ONE of the profiles you have no way of knowing whether the Domme is someone who does this as an important part of their life or whether she is seeking to benefit financially from subs.

I have nothing against the Professional Dommes but it is frustrating not being able to filter them out, especially when so many of them are very cryptic about seeking money from subs - the old 'generous' phases.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 1:44:23 PM

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You do know that things earned are more valuable. Going through and reading all the profiles is an important part of finding someone. If you don't read their profile and understand what they are looking for you are doing an unjustice to both of yourselves. To get to know someone and whether they will be compatable you have to read their WHOLE PROFILE, to many only read what they want to hear and then wonder where things went wrong when problems arise. We need to read all that others write and then decide how we will match. As for the pro thing, just stop reading after you hit that part as you already know they are not for you.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 1:57:03 PM

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The blog's as well.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 1:58:52 PM

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Type in the key words you want to filter out-like tribute,services,generous etc. Then hide the ones that come up. Limit your area search field. You may need more than one profile to do it-you are limited on the number of hides you can do.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 2:09:39 PM

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You are limited on the number of hides you can do on one given profile? Really? I didn't know that. Do you know the limit? I haven't reached mine yet, but, I only hide the ones whose physical attributes I find unpleasing. If there is a limit though, I may have to reconsider whether or not to use block more instead of hide.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 2:15:43 PM

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I heard somehwere that it was threee or four hundred-it could just be hearsay.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 2:17:28 PM

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Wow, I use the hide function endlessly....I hope there isn't a limit!

I have "generous of spirit" in my profile, am I getting filtered out?

Ummmm.....whoops, it says no cheapskates or leeches, either! Dang, maybe I am a financial dominant after all....

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 2:22:08 PM

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That would be a nice filter. Another option for pro dommes to pick for their profile. Perhaps then the pro domme whining threads would also slow down if subs could just avoid them with no hassle.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 2:26:29 PM

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well i dont even bother reading profiles anymore unless its from someone here on the forum...and there are a few pro's here on the forum too... lol... its a no win!

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 2:26:42 PM

male2shemaid

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quote:

ORIGINAL: spiritd1

You do know that things earned are more valuable. Going through and reading all the profiles is an important part of finding someone. If you don't read their profile and understand what they are looking for you are doing an unjustice to both of yourselves. To get to know someone and whether they will be compatable you have to read their WHOLE PROFILE, to many only read what they want to hear and then wonder where things went wrong when problems arise. We need to read all that others write and then decide how we will match. As for the pro thing, just stop reading after you hit that part as you already know they are not for you.

Please try and understand what I said in my OP.

I do read every word of the profiles and every word of the blogs of the profiles I am interested in. However, I am NOT interested in Pro Dommes who are seeking to make money from male subs. I have no problems with other paying Pro Dommes and actually feel that Pro Dommes provide a valuable service for those male subs who need them and seek them out.

But I am looking for Dommes who are NOT Pro Dommes and, alas, there must be thousands of Pro Dommes that come up when you do a search for Dommes on this site. In simple logistical it would take days and days, if not weeks, to read through every Domme profile that came up in a search and, because of the very nature of the way in which the Search works, you would be having different profiles appearing and disappearing as people come online.

I know that things that are earned in life are more valuable but, apart from never having the nerve to say that to a complete stranger via a net forum of whom I know nothing of their life experience and/or background, it really misses the point on what I said in my OP. Making such a comment about someone you do not know is also insulting but also completely misses the point of my OP that was written in simple to understand plain English.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 2:43:17 PM

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For $500 dollars, I'll tell you exactly how to do it.

Just KIDDING!

I have found that some of those are weeded out if you focus only on your many vanilla interests instead of BDSM interests using the interests search. It's not fullproof, but it must mean that many professionals are focused on what they have to offer in BDSM, instead of the vanilla. I'd also leave off the list of vanilla interests "travel" and "fine dining". Though you may have those as interests in reality, those two areas tend to speak towards money, whether that's true or not.

Like I said, it's not fullproof. But at least what comes up are those who mention your vanilla interests, and you can go from there when their BDSM interests seem to click with yours.

Best of luck to you.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 2:49:32 PM

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I hope it's hearsay and not fact. That would suck! lol.

To the OP:

As to not finding ProDommes, be careful of which words you choose to use as filter criteria. Some women may say generous and not mean financial at all. Some may say financial domination and not mean ProDomme services; instead, they control all the finances in the home. So, while they are the big code words, it really depends on the person's definition of those words. Tribute could also be one of those words which can be misconstrued. I want a boy to tribute me, but I don't want him to send me money just to talk to him. I want him to get to know me, find out what I like, and then bring a small tribute (something he knows I'll enjoy as a gift on his own volition) at our first meet if I speak to him online.

Obviously words like "pro sessions" would be more clear cut, but even then, unless you read the profile, it could mean that a pro domme wants a private sub/slave and she will still be giving pro sessions to others.

So, while the filter might reduce the numbers of pro dommes coming up, it could also reduce the exact type of people you may be seeking.

< Message edited by Domin8tingUrDrmz -- 6/20/2008 2:52:09 PM >

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 3:12:29 PM

CruelDesires

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Just keep plodding along and doing it the hard way. It would suck if you passed up a perfect gem, because the filtered word you used, made you pass Her by.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 3:54:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

Tribute could also be one of those words which can be misconstrued. I want a boy to tribute me, but I don't want him to send me money just to talk to him. I want him to get to know me, find out what I like, and then bring a small tribute (something he knows I'll enjoy as a gift on his own volition) at our first meet if I speak to him online.

Exactly and well said. My pet had to tribute today... BIG TIME... he had to pick me daisies

Although I am a bit misleading in my profile... I don't state that I want daisies...hmmm, maybe I'm not being very up front.

I do understand your plight though, OP.. Some of the Dommes don't mention tribute until the end of their profiles..
Good luck.

Lady Jag

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 6:43:51 PM

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I think I need to do a search as a male looking for a Domme just to see what you're talking about. I haven't run across THAT many pros or financial Dommes in all the years I have been here.

I have to ask, are you sure you are really finding an over abundance of those that want you for your money or are you just reading into it that way?

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 6:46:44 PM

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um...might I mention, OP, that we dominants have to weed through as many useless "do me" subs as you do pro dommes? so there ya have it.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/20/2008 6:47:47 PM

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Reply to the OP. Oh boofuckinghoo. I'd like to filter out all the wankers/players/do me subs/etc, but CM doesn't have a filter for those either.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/21/2008 12:06:08 PM

male2shemaid

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shivermetimbers

For $500 dollars, I'll tell you exactly how to do it.

Just KIDDING!

I have found that some of those are weeded out if you focus only on your many vanilla interests instead of BDSM interests using the interests search. It's not fullproof, but it must mean that many professionals are focused on what they have to offer in BDSM, instead of the vanilla. I'd also leave off the list of vanilla interests "travel" and "fine dining". Though you may have those as interests in reality, those two areas tend to speak towards money, whether that's true or not.

Like I said, it's not fullproof. But at least what comes up are those who mention your vanilla interests, and you can go from there when their BDSM interests seem to click with yours.

Best of luck to you.

That is a great idea - thanks. Have to say that I have not filled in much in the ways of vanilla interests, and wonder how many bother to do so, but your idea is a good idea nevertheless.

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/21/2008 12:08:06 PM

male2shemaid

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

I hope it's hearsay and not fact. That would suck! lol.

To the OP:

As to not finding ProDommes, be careful of which words you choose to use as filter criteria. Some women may say generous and not mean financial at all. Some may say financial domination and not mean ProDomme services; instead, they control all the finances in the home. So, while they are the big code words, it really depends on the person's definition of those words. Tribute could also be one of those words which can be misconstrued. I want a boy to tribute me, but I don't want him to send me money just to talk to him. I want him to get to know me, find out what I like, and then bring a small tribute (something he knows I'll enjoy as a gift on his own volition) at our first meet if I speak to him online.

Obviously words like "pro sessions" would be more clear cut, but even then, unless you read the profile, it could mean that a pro domme wants a private sub/slave and she will still be giving pro sessions to others.

So, while the filter might reduce the numbers of pro dommes coming up, it could also reduce the exact type of people you may be seeking.

Good and valid points - I had not considered those terms in such a way. Maybe it would be clearer if there non Pro-Dommes stated so in their profiles... but then why should they have to do so?

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RE: Not searching for Pro Dommes - is there a way? - 6/21/2008 12:09:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PsyVamp

I do understand your plight though, OP.. Some of the Dommes don't mention tribute until the end of their profiles..
Good luck.

Lady Jag

Yes, usually they have written 'War & Peace' prior to mentioning that!

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