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Taking a break - 6/16/2008 10:13:55 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		Ok is seems to me many people for whatever reason take a break/leave the lifestyle for a period of time then return. I know that I have done it myself. I was wondering about other peoples reasons for it, what brings them back and how long did you last.

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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 10:44:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I said I was, but just because I did not play with anyone for those years did not mean that anything had shifted in my masturbations and fantasys....

I have never had a vanillia fantasy, or masturbation...so i am guessing i never did really take a break....right? i mean does that make sense?

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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 11:08:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		Got scared, needed to clear my head... so disappeared for a time.

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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 11:53:17 AM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		right now i am not been seen within my local community  mainly due to illness  back to back to back to back  since late 07 into 08 .But i am on the mend and can not wait to return and to get to Thunder , also thinking of Folsom fringe and the street fair .lol i must be feeling better . I never leave completely .Yet i can see where a break has done some good in retrospect , everyone needs a personal battery recharge once in a while . 

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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 12:51:50 PM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		Yeah Crouching that makes perfect sense to me and I relate to that

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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 4:14:18 PM   
LadyLolly


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Status: offline 		I took a break for a few years.  Betrayal, personal and professional challanges all but destroyed my world.  As a Dominant, Master/Mistress, ethically, how could I accept responsibility for another when I didn't have my own "chit" in order?  Needed to focus on myself and recovering stability and strength.  Not the kind to seek others to "do" or "take care" of me to get out of it.  It's a priviledge that I should be worthy of.

Dominance or submission should be from a foundation of strength, not weakness.  IMO.

Back on track now thanks. 


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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 4:30:49 PM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		I only take breaks from proximity to annoying asshats. Which is why I am private,rather than public. I have total control of what I have to put up with.

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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 4:33:51 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

I said I was, but just because I did not play with anyone for those years did not mean that anything had shifted in my masturbations and fantasys....

I have never had a vanillia fantasy, or masturbation...so i am guessing i never did really take a break....right? i mean does that make sense?


Interesting answer...   I guess I'd have to agree when you put it that way.  Even in a 10 year vanilla relationship, my fantasies were always BDSM geared.

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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 4:39:45 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

Ok is seems to me many people for whatever reason take a break/leave the lifestyle for a period of time then return. I know that I have done it myself. I was wondering about other peoples reasons for it, what brings them back and how long did you last.

That would be like asking if it were possible to take a break from myself. It isn't. The thought does sometimes cross my mind; if only I weren't submissive. But that's only when I am not getting what I need. It's usually temporary.



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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 4:45:49 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

Ok is seems to me many people for whatever reason take a break/leave the lifestyle for a period of time then return. I know that I have done it myself. I was wondering about other peoples reasons for it, what brings them back and how long did you last.


i take periodic breaks in order to "take time to smell the roses" as it were. i come back, because this is who/what i am...a submissive.


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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 5:20:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		I take breaks from socializing and actively going out to groups on a regular basis sometimes.  But I don't take a break from a "lifestyle" or my life.

Mostly it's because they started for the wrong reasons, got too deeply illusioned, got too deeply disillusioned and need to re-assimilate and find their balance again.  Some people do this several times.

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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 5:32:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've been involved for various periods with women who weren't into bdsm even though I was always trying to get them into it. I wasn't always successful, yet I didn't end the relationships or cause them to end things because of that...I don't think.

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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 7:41:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		From the flogging and swinging, it was due to pregnancy.  From the 24/7 part of it....D/s - never.  :)

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RE: Taking a break - 6/16/2008 8:05:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I take breaks from socializing and actively going out to groups on a regular basis sometimes.  But I don't take a break from a "lifestyle" or my life.




Well said. Me, too... and me, neither.

Sunny

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RE: Taking a break - 6/17/2008 1:33:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hmm, I wanted this, then I wanted that.  I'm back to this, now.



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RE: Taking a break - 6/17/2008 5:19:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I was 25 something inside me shifted where I became obsessed with getting married and having a family.  This mental place caused me to decide that being part of the bdsm scene wasn't helping me find a life mate/partner so I looked to other places.  Started attending some BBW events and met a guy (who normally I'd have not looked at twice and let some of my lady friends convince me he was "great").  Tried to be a typical girlfriend type and forget my inner needs/desires/inclinations and it caused me to really doubt myself because I was allowing myself to live a lie.  Four years a bit later things were truly terrible, the guy was an asshat and I sort of came out of my self imposed fog to realize this was completely NOT what I wanted nor was I being myself.   In a day I ended things with the guy, made arrangements to move back to MD from where I was living, and sat down and began some real introspection time to figure out what I needed to change and how.  The one thing which came up in my head over and over was that I needed to get back where I felt comfortable, doing what I love and being true to myself. 

Its now 10 years later and I couldn't be happier and know I'm back in a lifestyle choice that is right for me.  :)

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RE: Taking a break - 6/17/2008 5:34:28 PM   
DragonLadysFire


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Status: offline 		I think to take a brake I would have to be dead.  I am who I am.
But stepping back from public affairs for a bit, yes, just till I have recharged a bit.


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RE: Taking a break - 6/17/2008 5:37:46 PM   
ThundersCry


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After years of soul searching...
 
I guess I as well... have never taken a break...
 
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Excellent....

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RE: Taking a break - 6/17/2008 5:39:14 PM   
earthycouple


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Status: offline 		I took a break with my lovely e01n from CM, but I don't take a break from my lifestyle which is my life.  I have times where I interact in BDSM ways less than others.  There are times when I am more BDSM oriented than others.  I can't take a break from me, and if I could I doubt I would.  I am not at all active in my local community lately because I'm working on other things (completed MBA in March and have an amazing career which allows me little time for trips to the local dungeons)  but when I can, I'll be back!

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RE: Taking a break - 6/17/2008 5:41:51 PM   
kallisto


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Status: offline 		Taking a break ... nahhh.   It's me.  Kind of hard to take a break from myself.    There may be certain activities or experiences that I don't do on a regular basis due to life's circumstances.  

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