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Dnomyar -> Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 9:42:51 AM)

Are we on CM to find someone who matches our Imagination. Would we compromise our imagination if the person had different kinks. Seems like people in LDR's would have to have very vivid imaginations.  How much does your imagination influence your lifestyle? 



azropedntied -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 9:53:33 AM)

For me i am not in this as a "lifestyle choice " it is who i am with in my being .I seek Friends , like minded fellow kinksters ,fellow bdsm'ers  , information , and to also perhaps share and help others along this path . I am here to learn , to grow , to have fun and enjoy .Does my imagination = fantasy ? I highly doubt i shall find a Female Domme who wishes to dress as a jungle jane amazon and take me to her tree house on here , but cha never know .
In short i do not think  my imagination has much to do with why i am here .



darchChylde -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 9:59:43 AM)

Beyond the fact that i have a vivid imagination, to the point that if something is described i will nearly actually feel it; to the point that i'm a pretty easy mindfuck and that Ma'am often uses this as a way of pushing my hard limits without making me truly uncomfortable...  Wait, where was i?  Oh, beyond the above; my imagination has very little to do with my lifestyle; i (like to think that i) am very grounded in my relationship with Ma'am.  i love and serve Her, not some fantasy dominant.

Creativity and ideas come into play on both of our sides, and She has asked me what my fantasies are; but i don't feel that my imagination has a major influence on anything we do, and i'm very happy with that.



Dnomyar -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 10:07:53 AM)

How can your imagination not have anything to do with why your here?



cluelessslave -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 10:08:27 AM)

I would be entirely imaginary if not for the laws of phsyics requiring some kind of structure to support an imagination. Inside my fantasies life is good. Outside, people cut me off in traffic. It's an easy choice. I know there are things that must exist in reality, and so be it, but spare me the details.

The funny thing is, imagination disguises reality through perception. The subjective effect of bringing your prejudices and experiences to bear on what is actually happening, keeps you from reality, one step remived. Then if ever you do experience reality directly for what it is, your perceptions become overwhelmed and it all seems surreal anyway. If you keep at it, things become eternal and sublime. I am content to watch high definition television and play online pretending I have a sex life. I would do that in a short distance relationship, too. People spend almost their whole day on pretrending to be their idea of themselves. They only consider it imagination when stepping outside the routine. But even so, when you get up and look in the mirror and have some idea that your recognize yourself, it is still your imagination at work, as well as when you decide to drive to work and why you would, making snese of it all in an imaginary model of the real world you catch small distorted glimpses of watching TV. Life is but a dream.



crouchingtigress -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 10:14:19 AM)

yes oh yes! imagination....fantasy....inspiration....action.....creating.....fufillment!!!

all the steps are important....but the most important is the mind the first sprouts the seeds!



LadyRainfire -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 10:20:20 AM)

We can imagine so much, but in life, we tend to have parameters of what we'll accept and not accept. The question is that each person has to make up their own mind as to what they'll accept. I have a good imagination yet also have a good grounding in real life. Some would call it settling if you accept something besides your dreams yet we're humans, no one is perfect. Well, maybe you are, Ray... [:)]

My imagination helps me come up with ideas and thoughts to please Daddy but doesn't make me who I am. I have the need to serve him and be with him but that's me. And yes, we started out as a LDR, but we made the commitment to each other and kept frequent, daily contact going. Which included conversations on assuming, presumptions and other things that could affect the relationship, not to mention any previous baggage we may have from other relationships. (Like mine about not assuming things.... To a negative point.)



akisha -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 10:23:41 AM)

lol I have a very vivid imagination. Most things I can imagine, i would never do *shudders* be it kink or something else.

But when Sir and I were living 9 hours apart, yes the use of imagination had to come into play more then it does now that we are living together.



azropedntied -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 10:29:12 AM)

For me perhaps it cuz i have an over active ,vivid ,creative , imagination already and that is just not one of the reason s i am here ..[;)]
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

How can your imagination not have anything to do with why your here?



Missokyst -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 10:40:52 AM)

I am extremely imaginative and creative in everything I do.  The same goes for any partner I have had over the years.  But we keep our creativity to active in person play,.. though for one x who was in the Navy, we did have a playful phone life now and then.
I could not even imagine engaging in an LDR with someone, unless I was in their life already. 
I have chatted with guys on the net before who will try to entice me into err.. "being creative", but the thought of doing that with men I have not been intimate with, bores me.
I have heard of people doing it well though.
Kyst 



chamberqueen -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 11:19:47 AM)

Frankly, my relationship has surpassed anything my imagination could ever have come up with.  I have felt myself go through an emotional healing and seen myself flower under someone's careful cultivation.  For me the important part isn't which kink we choose, but the growing trust and communication.  This is probably the healthiest relationship I've ever been in - yet many outside of the lifestyle would probably point at it and call it sick or twisted. 

If someone went into a relationship hoping to get very specific needs met, and their partner wanted nothing to do with those things, I'm sure that imagination would be better than real time.  I went into it to fulfill a need to be appreciated for my slavish devotion and I've gotten so much more than I ever dreamed of.



Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 11:24:23 AM)

I have a pretty wild imagination, to the point it's a bitch.   I don't have anything set in stone with my imagination of an ideal partner.  There are so many combinations of things I have thought about.  

With that said, I do feel there are a few kinks I do need to get worked out of my system and fully explore.

Yet at the same time, I need a connection with somebody. Not Love per se, but a connection.

Yes my imagination does influence my lifestyle, the crazy idea and things I come up with to do and try.   I've always had a rather vidid imagination.   However, I also know the reality of life.   There is a balance between my imagination and reality.








DesFIP -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 1:40:07 PM)

I'm practical and down to earth, not imaginative and very little sense of humor. I just do better when with a strong man who takes the lead in the relationship, plus I love being tied up. As far as why am I here? Does that mean why do I identify as someone into BDSM or does that mean why am I at cme?



BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 1:55:01 PM)

I met my former owner here when I first joined.  He had what I considered to be a typical imagination when it came to male type fantasies. 

But he was one of those people that I doubt will ever find that happy place and person to fulfill the fantasies that his imagination came up with (not that I wasn't willing to visit those dark places).  But mostly because he wanted a perfect woman who was the embodiment of a fantasy, without any of the fallacies or characteristics that would make her a real woman outside of those fantasies.

And on top of that, I think he had deep seated guilt issues over his fantasies....... and a bit of the madonna/whore thing going as well.

Not sure if that goes along with your question, but that's all I got!  Sowwy! [;)]




Prinsexx -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 1:58:22 PM)

Are we on CM to find someone who matches our Imagination? I don't think my imagination is limited to someone or anyone. My imagibation is a powerful tool for use within my creativity. Iuse imagination to create backdrops for my writing. I use imagination to conjure up paintings and poetry. i use imagination to travel through time and place.

Would we compromise our imagination if the person had different kinks? Real people always differ from my imagination. Real people are extraordinary in their own right. With a real person it is possible to be even more creative, to combine imagination and fantasy. If a domnant had entirely different kinks then I would be highly unlikely to consent to a relationship in the first place. If a dominant had kink that was beyong my limits then no amount of persuasion would push me to want to imagine participation in a scene with him. I just shut that off and out of my mind.

Seems like people in LDR's would have to have very vivid imaginations.  A good imagination is also udeful for when someone is away and stuck in ahotel, or one hasn't yet met them, not just in LDR's. Without imagination telephone conracy would just be a series of heavy inhalations and exhalations.

How much does your imagination influence your lifestyle?  It is very influential in terms ofwhat I wear, and the way I dress my hair, how i prepare for a scene. How I like to serve and please is all fed bu my imagination but ultimately is controlled by whom I serve. This is the overriding factore.



metalmiss -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 2:04:08 PM)

I have a very vivid imagination, to the point that under certain circumstances it can almost feel REAL.

As a slave i do not make decisions about when or how things are done and as such my imagination has no direct effect on my lifestyle other than how i dwell on things internally. Though i do often relate to Him (and the rest of the world via blogs at times) whatever it is i am thinking about or craving and from there He does with it what He will. 

In finding a partner, i don't see my imagination as having had little if anything to do with it. i sought out a Person who was compatible with me as a person, the base me. As far as i am concerned, beyond finding the base Dynamic & connection i was looking for, specifics and play are not important.



kallisto -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 2:46:07 PM)

I have a very vivid and wild imagination.  I think one has to strike a balance between their imagination and real life.   No way could I "live" in my imagination. [:)]  I've never had to compromise my imagination before so I don't see myself having to do that in the future.  



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 3:40:05 PM)

As Chamber said- my life now is more and far better than I ever imagined it could be. 



Constrictor1 -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 3:56:29 PM)

Hi Ray!
Interesting question and insight. My imagination has everything to do with my lifetyle choice. I consider myself to be at best a barely concealed sociopath with a slight nurturing complex. Having said that, if someone in my control had different kinks I would do my best to satisfy their needs in regard to the different kinks. I however would not compromise 1 iota of my kinks. I would take great care in explaining as well as training someone to satisfy my every twisted sick little perversions[sm=crop.gif].
   My only regret is that few people would actually survive most of my imaginative fantasies, and if they did there would probably be a recovery period before I could enact my next fantasies[:)]

Constrictor1



Stusmobile -> RE: Matching the Imagination. (6/9/2008 4:07:03 PM)

I guess it would depend on what you're here for.

If you're looking for a relationship then yes the imagination would play a part, the images of that first real word, touch, kiss, all go into it, If you're here purely for friends and interraction, no imagination doesn't need to be as direct or personal. No matter whether its a friend, a lover or an enemy ..... there will always be imagination to a certain extent, how much or how little comes down to you. With them all if there is no connection, that certain spark then there is no need to imagine anything at all ... because they won't really register on your radar.

With friends I want them to be them, no BS, no agenda's, no hiding themselves ..... with a friend they can tell me anything without fear of judgement and they should be the same for me. A friend can turn to you and tell you their darkest secret without any fear of getting nothing but the truth back.

With a lover, the imagination comes out far further, thoughts get deeper but it still needs to be grounded in reality. A coarse but apt saying is "yes even her shit stinks" .... and if you believe otherwise you're just fooling yourself. That imagination can be used for good or can be allowed to rule you .... you can go through life dreaming of perfection or you can go through life imagining all of the perfect times with that lover. You can also explore a lot of things if you're both imaginative, feelings and words take on a new level with someone close enough. Watching another's reaction's as they read something, that can open all sorts of avenues ..... but you need to know them intimately. Mistaking a sharp intake of breathe for pleasure when in fact its a hard limit will lead to stress and strife. Imagination with communication can be the thing that keeps a relationship growing, limits changing, imagination without becomes fantasy.

With an enemy, the imagination can be a release, the words you might have used come readily to mind, the thoughts of doing something different if that situation ever cropped up again. Not pretty or nice, but I bet most people have done it and felt better afterwards.

Imagination and my lifestyle, nothing and everything. for me it doesn't affect the basic relationship at all, tht is grounded in what we want, where we want to be and how we want to go about getting there. There is no imagining not paying a mortgage or quitting work for a sit in like John and Yoko. There are shared images, of what tomorrow, next year, five years later will be, but even those are grounded in what we want .... nothing extravagant but the very real parts of us we want to contiue to share. Different images come into play elsewhere, the dirty whisper about a piece of fruit in the grocery store. The walk around a hardware store and thinking of all the wonderful things you can do with clamps and bungee cords. The image of what the evening will bring, vanilla, kinky or downright deviant ...... we all imagine those too and they help get us through the day.



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