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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/7/2008 10:25:57 PM

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are you fixed and do you have any diseases? and the most important one of all is: how do you like your coffee? it goes good with that after sex cigarette dontchaknow!

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/7/2008 10:30:44 PM

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/8/2008 1:03:53 AM

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I'm suppose to ask?

(Just kidding)

No: I read your mind cowboy

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/8/2008 1:06:17 AM

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What are the basic questions that folks could/should ask before they start a sexual/bdsm relationhip? SNIP I know that there are a lot of amazing things to learn from actually having sex with someone, but what are things you like to ask/answer *before* you start a sexual relationship?

Do others find sexual and bdsm, along with relationship, in the same phrase a dichotomy to answer??

No. It's a trichotomy

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/8/2008 2:14:41 AM

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Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship

So... do you fuck?

TRUE STORY (for those of you that have seen Silent Bob and Jay in action).

A female friend I had known for a couple of years and I were both between relationships at the time. We had been out having a few drinks one night. Anyways, she had wanted to go back to her place to simply fuck. So we left and went back to her place and fucked like mad. The rest we figured out in the middle of doing things.

TRUE STORY...

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/8/2008 6:50:34 AM

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The rest we figured out in the middle of doing things.

Kind of funny how it works out that way

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/8/2008 8:52:19 AM

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/8/2008 9:51:53 AM

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Good grief!
I agree, the questions should be about STD test results and the last time he had sex with someone else in the room.

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F'r instance:

*Do you like fingers in your ass? Never had a man who didn't; a good way to start is just stroking between his ass cheeks when his knees are spread. Eyes rolling back and ass pushing back are good indicators; no words required.
*Do you like anything else in your ass? Never had a man who didn't;
*Do you like like to have anal sex? Never had a man who didn't dream about a strapon.
* Do you like your nipples kissed? Never had a man who didn't;
*Do you like nipple clamps? Never had a man who didn't;
*Do you like clothes pins? I prefer something with variable pressure.
*Uncirmcumsized: pull back the foreskin and/or cover the tip? Wouldn't consider a man not circumsised, so that's easy.
*Clit question: suck, lick and/or kiss? Never had a man who didn't BEG for same.
*Blindfolds? Never had a man who didn't.
*Do you want to be tied up? Never had a man who didn't, but one of the things that is discussed, usually non-verbally with a bunch of silk ties, velcro bands and a wicked glint in My eye, followed by a swallow, a nod and an erection on his part.
*Do you want to tie me up? Would never, ever, come up in conversation let alone action.
*Do you like giving spankings? Would never, ever, come up in conversation let alone action.
*Do you like being spanked? Never had a man who didn't.
*Do you usually need more lubrication? I always use plenty on and in him, never had any complaints or requests for more.
*Does twisting, groping or pulling your breasts hurt? Never had a man who didn't like his pecs very deeply massaged.
*After sex: talking/no talking? Easy; except for some panting compliments, if they've done their job properly, I'm asleep in seconds.
*How do you feel about being given directions during sex? Never had a man who didn't love obeying: oooh, harder, gentler, there, there, there, don't stop.

Easy.

So there are very few things on your list that require verbal communication between a Domme and a good straight or sub man, although worded correctly and said in a low whisper to a bound and blindfolded man, they can be VERY sexy.

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/8/2008 9:55:22 AM

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i'd ask if he had ED, that's not a nice surprise to get after building a relationship with someone, building up the expectation of passionate sex and to be told, while naked under the sheets - it don't work

i think most important on my mind would be STD's and knowing he wasn't an IV drig user. All the likes and dislikes are the fun things to be explored and worked out not disected on paper before hand.

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/8/2008 10:08:46 AM

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First and foremost, I'd let my sex partner know that I demand safer sex practices for ALL activity, including rimming and oral sex.

I'd talk with my sex partner about sexual history, primarily if they've had any STDs and if any of the STDs is still an issue (i.e., Herpes, HIV, Hepatitis B).

Then, if I was with a partner of the opposite sex, I'd want to talk about contraception and make sure that was covered.

After that, I'd discuss...what do ya like and want to do today?? I don't like long lists of DOs and DON'Ts - it's much easier to me if we agree on a few activities that we both like and then do them SAFELY!!! If we click, there will be other opportunities to incorporate more activities!!

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/9/2008 6:43:12 PM

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One of the things I like about D/s, kinksters and lifestylers is that it isn't inappropriate to ask "So, do you like to be fucked in the ass?" (not completely inappropriate anyway). The "upfrontness" is a quality I like, appreciate and embody.

Face it folks, we've all got boundaries that diverge from the mainstream, and in one fashion or another we've managed to find a home.

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/13/2008 10:11:26 PM

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just see what happens

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/13/2008 11:19:25 PM

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I like to ask:

1-List all the ways you can serve me.
2-What are your fetishes? (what do you like?)
3-What do you find humiliating? (and/or what do you NOT like?)
4-What is your goal/what goal do you want to achieve with this training or ownership?

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/14/2008 6:34:33 AM

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So, My Lord being the dom tries things and asks how I like them later. I think a QA session would seem like a job interview, and I would be about as turned on afterwards as I am when I...um...well...finish a job interview, unless the interviewer is particularly sexy, but since that is almost unheard of, eh.

He did, at one point, ask me about fears and how they related to sex (not getting in a cage, not getting in a cage) but other than that, I trusted him enough to get naked in front of him, I hope I trust him enough to try new things without the interview.

I always tell him...do what you want. If I hate it, I'll tell you.

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RE: Questions to Ask at the Onset of a Sexual Relationship - 6/14/2008 6:42:13 AM

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