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Does long disance really work between a Master and a slave - 6/5/2008 8:38:09 PM

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may i ask can so me one help me with my question
i was wondering does it really work between a master and slave living so far apart
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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/5/2008 8:42:12 PM

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Hi there honey... I see you are new, so let me introduce you to the handy dandy search feature up there (points up). I typed in "long distance" and there's a bunch of threads... good luck.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/5/2008 8:57:50 PM

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quote:

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may i ask can so me one help me with my question
i was wondering does it really work between a master and slave living so far apart
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No.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/5/2008 9:04:38 PM

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Only if they are both true.

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oh, damn it. I am sooo tired of being serious, but I just can't help myself.

Define "work." I recently posted about a long distance relationship I was in. It "ended" -- meaning she's engaged to be married to someone else. I'm going to her wedding in July... and meeting someone new this weekend. So hell yeah, long-distance relationships can work, as far as I'm concerned.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/5/2008 9:05:52 PM

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It works for some and not for others - it depends upon what you want and what you can put up with. For me relationships should be tangible and close at hand - but if long distance works - good for you.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/5/2008 9:25:58 PM

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For some yes, for some no. For some it does for awhile but not in the long term.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/5/2008 9:28:37 PM

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As been said, it works for some, for others not so well. It all depends on your needs, the need to be held, to be able to look at your SO while talking, the need to be able to just be there with and for them in person.

i personally do not like LDR, i need the touch and closeness.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/5/2008 10:10:09 PM

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Hell ya LDR work as long as someone moves! I don't know bout the rest of you. but I need da wild thang more than a couple times a year. I get so tired of beating my dick like it owes me money.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/5/2008 11:14:44 PM

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I would say no have to have some one there for me for me hands on when i need them or what's the point what he or she going to do tell you what to do your self will i can all ready do that for my self just the knowing he can show up at any time ummm oh yea

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/6/2008 3:10:08 AM

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Long distance takes ALOT of work. And if you are a greedy one, it takes even more. I think many might also go into one if there is a possibility of a move for one of them. It's all the "in between" that needs to be nurtured and cared about, and never taken for granted.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/6/2008 3:32:05 AM

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From experience I'd have to say no; it's just so hard to make anything feel real if Y/you're not in the same room as each O/other. Also, I think there's a paradox (or should that be irony) because anything can be made to work if Y/you're commited to making it work, the thing is, if there's a large physical distance between the 2 of Y/you but Y/you both commited, then I can see that becoming very frustrating and driving a wedge between Y/you both because of the strength of commitment to each O/other.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/6/2008 3:34:21 AM

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For some it cannot work. And, Yes it can for others. Depends on so many issues and what your own comfort zones are in the first place and you keep realistic focus.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/6/2008 3:36:30 AM

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Only if they are both true.

That's wrong.
It only works if they are both .................................................... real.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/6/2008 3:39:52 AM

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OP, ever known anyone in the military who stays married through a deployment? Well, that's long distance with no visits for a year. And it frequently does work.

Whether or not it can work for you is not a question we can answer. Do you have a habit of making bad choices when on your own? Then probably it won't work for you. Do you view distance as abandonment? Then it won't work for you. Do you find a mental/emotional connection to be more important than the physical? Then you've got a good chance.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/6/2008 3:40:24 AM

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It only works if they are both .................................................... real.

If it was long distance... how could you tell?

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/6/2008 4:04:48 AM

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This question has been on my mind too lately. i had one long distance relationship when i was a vanilla type, but it was quite light hearted and we both knew it would not lead anywhere. i still have some very fond memories of that man, though, he he.

For me, the big worry is the 'artifical' nature of the contact between U/us. i know i'd always be upbeat, fun, well-groomed, with a clean house, whenever He visited even if He came every month. i think He'd also be on His 'best behavior' whenW/we were together....just seems like human nature.

But in a D/s relationship, in which i was collared, i'd sometimes be unkempt or ill or preoccupied or just not 'on' at the moment. So would He. How would He decide if He really loved all of me, if He never got to see all of me? How would two P/pl separated by a long distance ever decide if T/they like the whole P/person...warts and all, so to speak?

There are of course other issues, such as trust, but this is the one i've been pondering.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/6/2008 4:15:16 AM

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Can a LDR work - yes, is it easy, no.

Depends entirely on the individuals involved, ther needs and their plans for the future. As has been said by others, there are enforced seperations, military, family and even work can put distance between people, but if they want, all of that can be ovecome.

It also depends on if you are looking for a strictly physical relationship or more, those who want to feel a paddle on their ass ... they're going to have a harder time keeping the connection alive than those who want the emotional D/s dynamics. Text, emails, video and voice can all go a long way to helping with the connection, it's not perfect but with thought, imagination and commitment there can be a lot connection .... and sometimes on deeper levels than the purely physical. Knowing that the seperation will end is also a great help .... having an undefined length of seperation has to be harder than knowing that the other person will be in the flesh on a given date.

There also has to be a greater degree of flexibility within the relationship as well, realising that sometimes an order or command might not get carried out because of other issues. If it proves to be an excuse not to do something, no the relationship won't work but with an honest effort that might fail because of outside influences .... yes it can. Allowances for timezones, differing sleep patterns, work and other issues all have to be factored into things, effort counts for as much as results in a LDR.

LDR's can also be a great place to push and play with limits and boundaries if everyone involved is comfortable with themselves and each other. The discussion that can arise from a word or a gesture being used can last for hours and can gravitate to other things too. Talking about reactions to a word or an action can be far easier if there is a degree of seperation, allowing the partners to explain and discuss without embarrasment. If the connection is deep enough then the physical aspects can always be worked around or managed to a certain degree, and there can be a massive emotional.sensual connection that can get overlooked with closer proximity.

Will they work for you, depends entirely on you, the dynamic you require and your partner ... you'll never know for sure unless you dip a toe in the water and try at least once.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/6/2008 4:55:48 AM

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we're a Daddydaughter ldr and it has been going strong for 2yrs. believe it or not, we're very happy with this type of relationship.

like others have stated it works for some but not for all.

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/6/2008 5:02:50 AM

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Not so much

and generally, LD relationships that start online generally are not like military deployment.. military deployment often has several years of solid face to face relationship before the deployment to back it up...

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RE: Does long disance really work between a Master and ... - 6/6/2008 5:17:07 AM

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It can, it has been been done, not just once.... HOWEVER those are very much in the minority. The distance can and does cripple MOST such relationships.

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