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RE: Partner omitted from profile? - 6/3/2008 8:44:00 PM

Wickad

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Greetings,

Not everyone on this site is looking for the exact same thing. Not everyone on this site views their relationships in the same manner. Not everyone on this site goes about finding a partner suitable to them in the same manner.

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RE: Partner omitted from profile? - 6/3/2008 9:03:40 PM

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I do not have a couple's profile. I tried it out when I learned the option was available, and listed us as Dom/Domme. However, I didn't really see us that way. We certainly aren't a Domme/sub couple, and Domme/switch didn't work either. Since there's very little BDSM that we have with each other, none of it really fit. Also, for the limited time that I had a couples profile, I very much agree with what Jenny said. I did not care for much that landed in My email box. I think I changed it back to a Dominant Woman profile (which is technically a single profile) within a month.

With that said, there is a mention in My profile that I am married and have a collared sub. I'm not hiding that fact, either by deceit or omission. I want people to know these facts up front. My husband and My sub have created profiles here. In both cases, their main profile pic includes Me, while My main pic is just of Myself and I have pics of Me with them in other shots.

I realize that being poly makes Me incompatible with some. That's the very reason that I have it right out in the open.

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RE: Partner omitted from profile? - 6/3/2008 9:30:48 PM

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While I do not expect someone in a committed relationship to necessarily state in their profile about their relationships, I would expect such to be revealed in quick order within the next couple of missives or conversations.Wether poly or not, this is info that needs to be voluntarily offered. If some Dominant only gave this info when he was asked, I would view it as deceptive, and drop him like a hot potato!..I always offer up within the first conversation the fact that I smoke...why?..need you ask?..If I witheld this info until asked, and the Dominant had a huge disgust of this fact, then in essence I deceived him, hoping to establish a relationship, and possibly hooking him with my personality so that he may be willing to ignore this less than desireable trait...so yes deception, when something of import is witheld until asked.....Tempting

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RE: Partner omitted from profile? - 6/3/2008 9:51:29 PM

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the question is all wrong....

it does not matter if he is deceptive, or if he is straight up but feels that his slave is not worth mentioning

the question i would want to know is:

why did attract a guy like this?

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RE: Partner omitted from profile? - 6/3/2008 10:08:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

Here is a scenario:
A Dom contacts a submissive by private email on collarme. It is a short introduction and request to view his complete profile.Both the Dom's and the sub's profiles state that they are poly. The profile describes his likes, dislikes, and areas of expertise and there is a fairly lengthy bio and a number of journal entries.
The submissive replies politely and then sometime later the Dom emails her again. It expresses that they have many other things in common other than their lifestyle. They exchange emails regularly for say a few weeks to a month. He gives her his yahoo addy and she allows him to start chatting.
She expresses a desire to join a poly household. He THEN tells her he owns another slave. She asks if they live together 24/7. He says yes they do. But they do not sleep together. He has had a previous 'third' there with them for a weekend (or two). It bought the couple closer together.
There was no mention of them being a couple in his profile. There was no mention of his first slave until much later after the establisment of contact.
Is this a form of deception?
Is it a form of lying by omission?
Is it therefore a form of dishonesty about which the new submissive needs to be wary?
I ask this because I have experinced this nore than once on collarme.
Have other submissives experinced this?
Are there Doms who would admit to doing this and what would be their reasons?
Are there members of poly households who would place profiles excluding one of the partners?
With thanks for input.

Well, i'm not poly so i haven't had exactly this experience...but many times when asked directly, a Man has admitted to me that He was married or involved. Nothing about it in His profile, 1st email, etc.

It is deceptive IMO...at the very least, it wastes yr time.

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RE: Partner omitted from profile? - 6/3/2008 11:58:24 PM

Prinsexx

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

the question is all wrong....

it does not matter if he is deceptive, or if he is straight up but feels that his slave is not worth mentioning

the question i would want to know is:

why did attract a guy like this?

~why did attract a guy like this?~
Did you mean to re-phrase the qyestion as;
Why did you attract a guy like this?
or
Why did she attract a guy like this?
or
Why did collarme attract a fuy like this? (One had specifically recently joined).

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RE: Partner omitted from profile? - 6/4/2008 2:09:46 AM

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Having experience in marketing communications and advertising, it is not considered deceitful to not have full disclosure in an advertisement unless by law (alcohol, tobacco, prescription medicine, etc.) Advertising is simply a method to gain the attention of the consumer and invites the consumer to examine the product or service for themselves. A profile is a form of advertising.

It is up to the consumer to take the necessary steps to determine if the product is appropriate. It's the responsibility of the consumer to read the lables, do their own due diligence, and fully understand the nature and intended use of a product. If in the course of due diligence, the product is not appropriate or desired by the consumer, the consumer will simply not buy the product or will return the product for refund. It is the responsibility of the consumer to read the lable, it is not the responsibility of the product to read the lable for the consumer.

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