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RE: Relationship Post Mortems? - 5/29/2008 8:45:16 AM

Padriag

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ORIGINAL: fungasm

When your relationship ends, do you need "closure"?

I know this will sound dreadful, but I would rather take out my spleen with a jagged fork than have to rehash everything that was wrong with a relationship. But I'm curious and I'd love to know what other folks think.

Do you need to process?

Depends on the relationship, sometimes. It really just depends on the bond that was there... how much of a connection existed. Sometimes that closure is as simple as an honest good-bye.

So far as a relationship post-mortem... I do that with almost anything, relationships included. If things went wrong, I try to figure out why, learn from my own mistakes (because invariably, I made some) so that I don't repeat them. I also try to examine what motivated the other person to behave as they did, and try to learn to better anticipate such behavior in the future and if possible avoid it.

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